She is talented and can be called a "talented woman in the Beijing circle". She is rich in feelings and has experienced the favor and affection of many men. She, willful and free-spirited, lived the first half of her life with freedoms that many people could not reach.
Such a seemingly ordinary woman, but due to an "accident", embarked on the road of acting; A "very" relationship that achieved the peak of his career; A "self-acting" heart has a life of its own.
However, her story is much more than that. Because, she is - Xu Jinglei.
An elusive "talented woman in the Beijing circle".
One spring day in 1992, a girl on a bicycle rushed forward in the warm breeze, wearing a simple and simple shirt skirt with a ponytail fluttering in the wind. The sun reflected on her tender face, her thick eyelashes flickered, and sweat shimmered on her smooth forehead.
Her name is Xu Jinglei, she is 18 years old and an ordinary high school student.
Just a month ago, she just listened to the words of the perfect art teacher - the Central Academy of Fine Arts she wanted to be admitted to was too difficult; It is better to change to the Beijing Film Academy and become an actor in the future.
Xu Jinglei remembered the teacher's serious tone and serious expression. She frowned slightly, feeling that the teacher's suggestion was really ridiculous. She loves art so much, how can she give up her ideals?
"No, I must study art!" She told herself secretly in her heart.
In fact, Xu Jinglei has had a strong interest and talent for painting since she was a child, so she has always dreamed of entering the best art school - the Central Academy of Fine Arts for further study. Unexpectedly, just before the college entrance examination, even the teacher persuaded her to change her mind, which made her stubborn and more determined.
Unfortunately, the sky did not go as expected. In this year, Xu Jinglei still did not get her wish, and she lost the election. In order to dream, she resolutely chose to repeat her studies for one year. However, even after repeating her studies for a year, she still failed to get into her favorite Central Academy of Fine Arts.
Fate tricked people, Xu Jinglei was finally admitted to the Beijing Film Academy. Despite her reluctance, she embarked on a path she was not familiar with – becoming an actress.
Who could have imagined that Xu Jinglei, who was originally not interested in acting, grew into a "talented woman in the Beijing circle" step by step on this "reluctant" road, and became famous, unique and unmatched in the entertainment industry.
In fact, not everything can go as we wish, but the arrangement of fate is often unexpected.
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At first glance at Xu Jinglei, you may not notice her, and you may even think that she is ordinary.
A girl with short hair who looks beautiful and has a thin figure always makes people feel quiet, not like a vase in the entertainment industry.
But when you really get to know her, you will find that under this seemingly indifferent exterior, there is unparalleled talent and endless possibilities.
That's right, she is one of the top "talented women" in the Beijing circle - Xu Jinglei.
Counting Xu Jinglei's talent, the first thing is her calligraphy. Xu Jinglei's calligraphy is extremely accomplished and unique, and in 2008, her font was even included in the national standard font database, called "Fangzheng Jinglei Simplified".
This alone makes her unique in the art world. What's more, Xu Jinglei's painting attainments are no less impressive.
Although she was unable to enter the Central Academy of Fine Arts for further study as she wished, as a high school student, Xu Jinglei has persevered on the road of painting for three years. This is rare among peers.
Not only that, the strict tutoring and her father's requirements have made Xu Jinglei highly educated since she was a child, and she has a wide range of classical literature, which can be said to be a real "talented girl".
It is precisely these that have laid a solid foundation for Xu Jinglei's long-term development in the entertainment industry in the future. As an actress, Xu Jinglei constantly tries to be a director, screenwriter and other identities; Even in her forties, she tries to learn new skills and try to become "someone she likes."
The seemingly ordinary Xu Jinglei finally achieved an extraordinary life. This is all thanks to her endless possibilities.
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So, what kind of growth environment has created such a versatile "talented woman in Beijing" as Xu Jinglei?
In 1974, in an ordinary Beijing family, Xu Jinglei was born. Both parents are ordinary workers, and the family is not rich.
But her stern father, Xu Zijian, brought her a different childhood.
When Xu Jinglei was a child, her daily life was clearly arranged by her father. Her father supervised her to eat on time, study, move, and even control her sleep time.
Under her father's strict requirements, Xu Jinglei became introverted, reticent, and rarely smiled. She doesn't have much time to play, and compared with children of the same age, the whole person looks well-behaved and timid.
However, it was such a strict father that changed Xu Jinglei's fate.
After entering elementary school, Xu's father resigned from his original unit and started his own small factory, specializing in neon advertising signs. To reduce costs, he ordered his daughter to learn calligraphy, and Xu Jinglei was in charge of the handwriting part of the movable type.
Therefore, Xu Jinglei, who was still a child, could only squeeze into a crowded bus with a heavy schoolbag under the supervision of her father, and went to the Municipal Children's Palace to practice calligraphy. While other children were playing outside, she had to repeat the boring strokes at home.
This made her childhood monotonous and boring, unable to get the happiness she deserved. But at the same time, under this strict tutoring, Xu Jinglei has also accumulated an extraordinary cultural heritage and skill cultivation.
Under her father's urging, Xu Jinglei not only improved her calligraphy rapidly, but also knew ancient poetry well. Rigorous study and practice have made her stand out from her peers.
In middle school, Xu Jinglei was escorted to the best middle school in Beijing, Chaoyang District No. 80 Middle School, with her excellent calligraphy skills. In high school, she began another three years of systematic painting studies. Every day after school, she would immediately ride to the studio to learn to draw with the teacher.
Although her father's education method was harsh and even lost her innocence, Xu Jinglei also gained a good cultural heritage and extraordinary spiritual connotation. This provides a solid foundation for her future development.
Many things may not work out as expected, but we still have to thank for the unexpected gains it brings.
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However, the good times did not last long.
Xu Jinglei, who grew up under her father's strict discipline, seems to be a silent and honest good boy on the surface. But the rebellious emotions that had been suppressed in her heart for a long time broke out after she went to college.
Leaving her father's control, Xu Jinglei, who walked into the campus, felt that she had a new life. She became enthusiastic about alternative culture, often dressed in weird clothes, skipped class to watch various performances outside, bounced all night long, listened to rock and roll... This was quite rare among college students at the time.
Especially with Xu Jinglei's appearance, the book is full of air, and there is a quiet in every move, such a contrast makes her exude a unique charm and attract countless suitors.
At this time, Xu Jinglei was intoxicated with a life of unconventional freedom, willfully indulging the rebellion and impulse in her heart.
It was also during this period that 20-year-old Xu Jinglei met Wang Shuo, who was already famous at that time, and the two quickly fell in love.
Wang Shuo, who was 36 years old at the time, was not only married and had children, but also lived a good life with his wife Shen Xujia. Wang Shuo's wandering remains and rich love history, the young and fiery Xu Jinglei heard it in her ears, and she couldn't help but yearn for it.
Unexpectedly, she really gained Wang Shuo's favor. The relationship between the two made Shen Xujia angry. Xu Jinglei even came directly to the door and brazenly declared her sovereignty to Shen Xujia: "Wang Shuo is my man!" ”
But Shen Xujia calmly saluted her: "I'm Wang Shuo, you're still young!" ”
Xu Jinglei was poked in the center of the matter, and could only continue to wait for the day when Wang Shuo "got rid of the order". Finally, in 1996, Wang Shuo divorced Shen Xujia.
This unexpected love affair has undoubtedly become Xu's father's heart disease. Strict Xu's father was furious and tried his best to persuade his daughter to break up, but Xu Jinglei ignored it and went her own way.
The father and daughter fell into a cold war for a while.
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In fact, Wang Shuo is far more than a boyfriend for Xu Jinglei.
With the help of Wang Shuo, Xu Jinglei's acting career is rising step by step. Wang Shuo used his network resources in the literary and art circle to pave the way for her. Xu Jinglei soon played the heroine in the TV series "A Stormy Affair" directed by Wang Shuo's friend Zhao Baogang, and became popular throughout the country.
In 1998, she played the role of Wen Hui in another hit drama "Carry Love to the End", and she completely became a household star. This is all the result of Wang Shuo silently helping behind his back.
Since then, Xu Jinglei's career has skyrocketed, and she is no longer satisfied with the identity of an actor. She is eager to write, direct and act by herself, and Wang Shuo fully supports this and spares no effort to help her.
Soon, Xu Jinglei launched her first self-directed and self-acted movie "Me and Dad". This debut film gathered Jiang Wen and other superstars, which caused a lot of shock in the industry. In the end, she won the Chinese Film Golden Rooster Award for Best Directorial Debut for this film.
In 2004, Xu Jinglei's second film "Letter from a Stranger Woman" won the Best Director Award at the San Sebastian International Film Festival. Since then, Xu Jinglei, a "talented woman in the Beijing circle", has added another title of "film director".
It can be said that without the full support of Wang Shuo, the "benefactor", how can Xu Jinglei be able to succeed in the entertainment industry?
However, the smooth wind of the relationship can not withstand the grind of time after all. After more than 10 years of love, Xu Jinglei and Wang Shuo still announced their breakup and went their separate ways.
After separating, neither of them said anything to the outside world and tore each other. Perhaps, when the feelings were the strongest and strongest, Wang Shuo really wanted to give everything to Xu Jinglei. But when the passion fades, he also understands that such promises will be difficult to keep.
So, what does Wang Shuo represent in Xu Jinglei's heart? Perhaps, the yearning for freedom, rebellion, and passion in my youth. This may be the reason why Xu Jinglei was attracted to Wang Shuo. But when this hazy fog of youth dissipated, it was time for her to move on.
They ended up breaking up peacefully and staying friends, which is the best outcome.
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After Wang Shuo, Xu Jinglei's emotional road has encountered many ups and downs. She had scandals with musical talent Zhang Yadong and writer Han Han. But they all ended in a breakup.
It wasn't until he met Huang Jue, who was also in the literary and art circle, that he seemed to have found his soulmate. In 2004, the two met in the movie "Letter from a Stranger Woman" and soon fell in love. Xu Jinglei took a fancy to Huang Jue's defiant and informal character.
However, the relationship ended soon after. Xu Jinglei felt that Huang Jue was too casual, and it was difficult for her to adapt to this kind of life.
But after the breakup, Xu Jinglei still urged Huang Jue to work harder and not to always do nothing. For this reason, she even threatened Huang Jue: "If we don't appear in my new movie, we will completely break off relations!" ”
In the end, Huang Jue still accepted Xu Jinglei's suggestion and starred in her director's "Allure City". and has been nominated for several awards for this play.
Whether it was a lover at the beginning or a friend now, Xu Jinglei has always cared about Huang Jue and wants to help him achieve greater achievements.
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In 2009, a lighthearted and funny workplace comedy "Dulara Promotion" changed Xu Jinglei's fate. She met the male protagonist Huang Lixing in this movie.
After falling in love at first sight, the two quickly confirmed their relationship. Huang Lixing has a restrained personality and a cold appearance, which always gives people a mysterious sense of distance. But his warm and delicate heart conquered Xu Jinglei.
In 2011, Xu Jinglei collaborated with Huang Lixing in the new drama "Close Enemy". Under such a double intersection, the relationship between the two became stronger and stronger, and Huang Lixing gradually became Xu Jinglei's royal male protagonist.
With Xu Jinglei, a "nobleman", Huang Lixing's acting career has reached a higher level. He also learned how to be cautious about the relationship between the two and give Xu Jinglei the greatest space and respect.
For example, when Xu Jinglei took him home to meet his parents, and the nervous Huang Lixing wrote down everything he wanted to say in a notebook in advance, Xu Jinglei did not force him to go. She understood Huang Lixing's embarrassment and went home alone.
It is precisely because the two pay attention to the ease of the relationship and never force each other to change and pay for themselves, this relationship can be envied for a long time, more than ten years later.
Xu Jinglei once said that the greatest happiness is meeting someone who can make you better. And Huang Lixing is her medicine.
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Today, 47-year-old Xu Jinglei is still going her own way, she and Huang Lixing have been together for more than ten years, but they have not officially registered their marriage.
But the life of the two has a special taste, Xu Jinglei will wear her boyfriend's clothes to show affection on the Internet. She will also be open to outside criticism, believing that not everyone needs to understand herself.
After repeatedly hitting a wall on the emotional road, Xu Jinglei may finally understand that the most important thing is to stay with someone who suits her, not a marriage that is close at hand.
She has experienced so many ups and downs, but she can still be positive and optimistic that her life has been completed and there are no regrets. This kind of open-mindedness may only be possessed by us Xu Jinglei.
She is not destined to live a quiet life, but she will never be defeated by life.
No matter how her external appearance changes, the freeness and tenacity in her bones are worthy of being remembered.
This is Xu Jinglei, an elusive "talented woman in the Beijing circle".