Suddenly officially announced the divorce, the actress left her rich husband, and 400 million people praised her fiercely!

A divorced melon two days ago made me giggle," Taiwanese female artist Melody Liu Gongxian announced her divorce, ending a 17-year marriage. ”

Very suddenly, caught off guard, and without any warning, Melody posted a divorce announcement on social platforms:

The reason is that "when the difference between the personalities and ideas of each other is too large, we lose the balance of the relationship." ”

The expression of this announcement is too elegant, without saying half a word of the other party is bad, without any bloody plot, without cheating, without mistress. It is a 40-year-old woman who quickly decides to "restart her life".

What a capital - refreshing!

Maybe many people don't know who Melody Liu Gongxian is, just put it simply, in the era when everyone watched "Kangxi is Coming", Melody should be the most popular female guest in the show.

Who can not love a noblewoman who looks so beautiful, can read (a double degree from a prestigious foreign school), and speaks so funny, down-to-earth, and not pretentious?

Especially she and Xiao S scare each other, and every opening statement is "well, you know, s", which is simply a classic scene of "Kangxi".

Later, Kangxi was taken away, but Ms. Liu Gongxian's career is still flourishing, and I have often brushed her small videos, which are still so beautiful, still dragging a magical accent to talk about all kinds of parents who make people laugh to the point of anger.

However, now looking back at her joke about her husband, I know that the sadness revealed in front of the camera is all true feelings.

Melody's husband is a solid crooked rich businessman, 16 years older than her, a very traditional man in his bones, who is a handshaker at home.

Her husband commented on her, her brain moved so fast, and her execution was particularly strong. But she turned around and complained that he had trained me to be like this so that he wouldn't have to worry about anything.

Once, she moved back a box of peaches from the supermarket, and suddenly woke up in the middle of the night, remembering that her husband loves hard peaches, and children love soft peaches, and they have to be picked one by one and placed in different ice grids.

She wanted to cry as she tidied up, "Why didn't anyone come to ask me if I like soft or hard peaches?"

What's even sadder is that if you find a few rotten in the middle of a day, you will unconsciously stuff them into your mouth, afraid of waste, "The peaches that my mother eats are not hard or soft, but rotten!" ”

Her husband was very attentive when he chased her, she chased her to Bangkok in Bangkok, and she flew to LA when she was in LA. Getting married and living a life is a different story, and usually a business trip call will not come back.

The most infuriating thing is that once Melody recorded a program until midnight, opened her phone and saw a message from her husband, "Where are you?" ”

She thought that her husband's conscience had found out, but she didn't expect a second message to follow, "Where are my pajamas?" "It is inconvenient for my husband to care more about his life than his wife's safety.

As a result, Melody said that his tired heart was black.

"Women's tiredness is no longer something that garlic chicken soup can solve, especially women after becoming mothers. This heart is tired sometimes, and I feel that it is blackened. ”

Maybe many people see this, or think, just for these divorces, there is no need, right? Isn't this the norm for old husbands and wives?

But in Melody's heart, her appeal to her other half is not to "live with a partner", she said she hated to hear her husband say this to herself:

"Although we don't have a spark of love, I still treat you as a relative."

She said that husband and wife are relatives and lovers, and they need a little enthusiasm, even if it is just two people before going to bed, talking about the new things encountered at work today and talking about children's education.

But every now and then, my husband just said lightly, "Didn't you talk for four hours on the show?" Why go home and talk! ”

Perhaps another reason for divorce is that she wants to set an example for her two daughters.

Just like she traveled to Peru with her two daughters before her divorce, and wrote in a long letter next to the photo:

"The challenges that this generation brings to women, we must be gentle and sensible, we must also be strong and insightful, we must be beautiful and maintain, we must also be smart and thoughtful, and we may be independent but know how to be soft and hard." Well, we... Is it easy? ”

"After having you, I have also become braver, no matter what setbacks I encounter, I choose to face bravely, because I know that you are on par with me."

Whether the mother has a good life in the marriage or not, the two daughters look at it when they are young, this is the courage of a mother, she wants to tell her two children with her own actions, as women, how we bravely choose the life we want.

But not all star couples, when their marriage hits the rocks, can handle it so neatly like Melody.

For example, Xiang Zuo Guo Biting, the man's paparazzi took a lot of photos of "colorful flags fluttering", and the woman's response was to show affection with her husband, holding hands to walk the road;

The man was accused of never caring whether the child brought a baby or not, and immediately appeared at the child's birthday banquet, and the whole family had to pose neatly in the same frame.

However, to say that it is outrageous, no one can match Hong Xin and Zhang Danfeng, and the two people are openly tearing their faces.

But not long after, the two appeared in the live broadcast room lovingly and lovingly, and drank a cup of milk tea together...

When we look at stars, they all have a little halo: after all, you occupy the top resources, how should you live a little more smoothly than ordinary people.

But helplessly, what most people play out in reality is still the most embarrassing script: in a bad marriage, two strangers continue to stick and stick together.

Sometimes it's not that you don't live soberly enough, it's not that you don't know how bad your life is, but that there are too many interests to weigh, too many gains and losses to consider, and too many identities to worry about.

It's like the stock I bought is obviously green, or do you think that if you put it and wait, maybe it will rebound tomorrow? After all, once the meat is "cut", losses become a sure fact.

A while ago, my friends all ran to watch "Disappearing Her", and when they came back, they all lamented that marriage is not easy, and it is even more difficult to look at men. Many emotional bloggers also took advantage of the popularity to teach everyone how to polish their eyes and recognize people.

But to be fair, this is not another discipline for women, and even the standard is not generally high: you must not only be clear in the present, but also know the future, and ensure that the man in front of you will still be so reliable in 10, 20, 30 years.

This is not ordinarily difficult, and it can only be done by opening the "God's perspective".

And many times, it is not necessarily the other party that changes, but oneself.

For example, Melody, at the beginning of her marriage, she described her husband as follows, "He is very angry, very calm, as long as the sky falls on him", is a little girl who fell into a honeypot, feeling that she has found the second half of her life to rely on.

But in the past ten years, her career has been prosperous, five books have been published in seven years, the variety shows in her hands have been continuous one after another, and the social platform has operated well, capturing a large number of fans.

I think this is her strength to reverse from a "little wife" to a "big heroine", this speech a month before the divorce, so good:

"Loving children and loving family is one thing, but in the end, what can save you and make you happy is not the child, or the other half, or anything, but yourself, always remember to love yourself."

You can't control how others treat you, but you can control how you treat yourself. ”

People at different ages have different ideas and perceptions. Especially for us women, the biggest advantage is that we know how to "eat a long and grow wise".

Marriage requires a little wisdom to communicate and operate, but the greatest wisdom must remain in oneself.

And the so-called wisdom is not betting on the right treasure, choosing the right person, and walking the right way; It is not sinking after seeing through the world, it is uncompromising when guarding the bottom line, and it is not numbness in trying to live well every day.