In May this year, Hai Feng, a singer who served as the lead singer in the "I Love to Remember the Lyrics" program, ended his young life at the age of 40 in a leap, which broke the hearts of countless relatives, friends and fans who loved him deeply.
Maybe the news didn't make a splash because he was just a lesser-known singer. His original name is Liu Haifeng, stage name Haifeng, has participated in "I love to remember the lyrics", "love to sing to win", "I am a big judge", "cool food wins the world", "who laughs to the end", "Rush off my best" and other programs. He is a music producer and a super lead singer of Zhejiang Satellite TV.
Haifeng was originally a bar singer, but was later discovered by the boss Zhang Zheng. He and "Supergirl" Hoffer sang in the same bar in Hangzhou, and he is a bar singer who loves music.
He has ten years of experience in bar singing, at the age of 15 began to run performances, starting from Nanchang, Jiangxi to Yongkang, Yiwu, Jinhua, Wenling, Zhejiang, all the way in bars and nightclubs around the country to sell singing, he said he is a veritable wandering singer.
Later, he worked as a music producer in Jiangxi Audio-Visual Publishing House, and then resigned to form a number of orchestras in Hangzhou, at the same time, began to study jazz music, and served as a music producer for many media columns such as Zhejiang Television and large-scale evening parties.
He now has a wife who has been married for ten years, has two young sons, and his career is on track. Why did he choose to end his life at the age of 40, at the age of good and strong?
Like Zhang Guorong, who was sensational in the past, he suffered from depression. Maybe he really doesn't know what he's doing, we're not depressed and can't read at all, what he's thinking.
But we can find that the cause of his illness is somewhat related to his unhappy childhood. In his second year of junior high school, his parents divorced, taking turns to take care of him for a month, and it is conceivable that he is equivalent to a child who has no one to take care of. Because the parents soon formed a new family.
He dropped out of school at the age of 15 and went wandering to take care of himself. He said the singers who sang in the bar were sad stories behind them. And the rock'n' roll you hear, the songs of sad screams, are all vents in their hearts.
Many people can cure all that they encounter in the second half of life because of a good childhood, and many more people cannot cure the misfortunes of childhood after a lifetime.
In modern society, we face all kinds of pressures, the pressure of food and clothing, the pressure of childcare, the pressure of old-age care, the pressure of employment, and the pressure of mortgages. Either one will overwhelm us.
Sometimes, we need to slow down and think about the real needs of our hearts, rather than blindly pursuing material things and going with the flow of worldly things.
As we struggle to run forward, we need to stop and listen to our inner voice and ask ourselves, "Am I happy?" What kind of life do I want? ”
When a person is sick, we can also see a doctor to take medicine to solve the problem. When your heart is sick, it can't be solved by taking medicine!
I also thought that depression was a distant thing and had nothing to do with myself, but when I found out that my friend had been living in panic, self-abandonment, self-pity, and sadness because of depression. I could only listen to her voice, and I couldn't help her solve the problem at all.
We need to listen to our hearts, meet the needs of the deep inside, and when you find yourself sick inside, stop and heal first. Lack of love is the root, learn to love yourself well, and then move forward.
