In the book "The Story of The Talented Lady in Ancient China", there is a story called "Step Non Smoke Red Apricot Out of the Wall". The story tells the story of a talented and skilled little family Jasper Bufei and the next door boy Zhao Xiang falling in love and communicating. The general content of the story is as follows:
In the Tang Dynasty, in Luoyang City, the appearance, talent and talent were outstanding, and they could also play a wonderful pipa in one hand and strike a good hand. She is elegant by nature, gentle and affectionate, and is a thin beauty who is beautiful and heart-wrenching.
When Bu Feiyan reached the age of the young girl Huaichun, he longed to marry an amorous prince with extraordinary talent. However, her parents allowed her to marry Gong Cao of Henan Province to join the army and wu gongye as his wife.
Wu Gongye was a five-year-old and three-thick warrior, with a straight and fierce temperament, because after seeing the beautiful Bu Fei Yan by chance, he married Bu Fei Yan at all costs.
Because Wu Gongye is a martial artist, he does not understand the rhythm of poetry, and only appreciates the beauty and body of Bu Feiyan, while Bu Feiyan is a delicate and talented little woman. So, she wasn't happy with the marriage. Although she was married, her heart was disappointed and depressed, and she often shed tears for this.
Soon, Zhao Xiang, the son next door, attracted the attention of Bu Feiyan, and Zhao Xiang also had that meaning for Bu Feiyan. The two people have feelings in the love poems of you and me, and then take advantage of the fact that Wu Gongye is not at home, often spending the night in Wu Gongye's bedtime private meeting.
Later, after Wu Gongye learned of Bu Feiyan and Zhao Xiang's adultery, he planned to catch the adulteress, but due to his impatience, he did not capture Zhao Xiang on the spot. Wu Gongye questioned Bu Feiyan about the situation, and Bu Feiyan did not admit it or deny it, but just let Wu Gongye ask no questions, and did not say a word. Therefore, Wu Gongye was furious and beat Bu Fei Yan with a whip, and then Bu Fei Yan died of exhaustion.
Readers who have read the story of "Bu Fei Yan Red Apricot Out of the Wall", some will think that Bu Fei Yan is a victim, she died because of her husband's violent beating, the death is too tragic; and some will also think that Bu Fei Yan did not keep the woman's way, cheated with other men in his own home, and died for more than a long time.
The storyline of "Bu Non Smoke Red Apricot Out of the Wall" is very simple, but the theme expressed is very complicated, if you do not think deeply, many readers will often sympathize with her for the tragic death of Bu Fei Yan, but repeatedly study and think, is Bu Fei Yan's death not caused by her own non-observance of women's morality?
So, is the tragic death of Bu Feiyan a domestic violence, or is it a retribution suffered because the red apricot is out of the wall and the East Window incident? Let's move on:
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >01 is domestic violence? </h1>
Some readers believe that the tragic death of Bu Feiyan is domestic violence, because:
First, the marriage of Bu Feiyan is arranged by parents, married to someone they do not like, and the marriage is not ideal;
Second, a marriage without feelings as the basis is not in line with one's own wishes, and it is impossible to talk about happiness at all;
Third, Wu Gongye covets the beauty and body of Bu Feiyan, and blindly possesses without emotional communication, which is a kind of domestic violence;
Fourth, Bu Feiyan was whipped to death by her husband Wu Gongye, which is the most direct domestic violence.
However, is that the truth of the matter? If Bu Fei Yan did not have red apricots out of the wall, would Wu Gongye kill Bu Fei Yan?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >02 is red apricot out of the wall</h1>
Bu Feiyan was not killed by domestic violence, but because she was out of the wall with red apricots and refused to admit her mistake, she was whipped to death by the extremely angry Wu Gongye under the mania, and the reason can be found from the original text.
"After getting married, Wu Joinjun loved Bu Feiyan like a treasure, and all day long he was happy to look at her beautiful figure, except for staying in the gongfu, he was almost inseparable from Non-Yan."
Wu Gongye took Bu Non-Smoke as a treasure, but Bu Non-Tobacco's heart was unstable and was not satisfied with this:
Although Wu Joinjun was obsessed with Bu Feiyan and loved him beyond measure, the amorous Bu Feiyan had no passion for him. This rough husband could neither give her tender affection nor answer her poems, and even when she played the lute and carefully pounded, he would only look at her face foolishly, and did not know how to appreciate her heart song in the music. Such a marriage is a world away from the fantasy of her dreams, so the newlywed Bu Feiyan is full of disappointment and depression in her heart. Whenever the wind blows bamboo and the rain hits the banana night, Bu Feiyan always secretly shed tears on the window, and the mood of loneliness and Xiao Suo is tightly wrapped around this newlywed woman who is deeply loved. ”
Therefore, Bu Feiyan looked for the lover who could resonate with his own piano and chess paintings, and the moon before the flower and the qinser, and also let the maid of his family pass on the message for himself and let the door go. The original text is as follows:
"One evening a few days later, the wife of the martial gatekeeper quietly came to Zhao Xiang's study and told him, 'In recent days, Wu has been busy with official duties, and tonight he will be on duty at the Gongfu, and at night only his wife is left alone in the empty room, and the prince can go over the wall to meet the beautiful people.'" After saying that, he hurried away, leaving only Zhao Xiang's heart trembling with excitement. ”
It was hard to wait until it was deeper, Zhao Xiang quietly moved the ladder, crossed the wall to the martial family courtyard, and saw bu fei standing silently in the flowers as if he had been waiting for a long time. The two were overjoyed at first sight, holding hands and sneaking into the bedroom, in the faint candlelight, the two embraced each other wordlessly, and a fiery flame ignited two hearts that had been treating each other for a long time at the same time. The two people instantly melted into one. For the two of them, the lingering charm of this night was like a clear spring flowing into the long-dried heartland. ”
Therefore, Bu Fei calmly went out of the wall with red apricots and willingly put on a "green hat" for Wu Gongye. The original text is as follows:
"Once the floodgates of feelings are opened, the spring heart can no longer be contained." Ever since that night of Wushan Clouds and Rain, the night when Wu Gongye stayed on duty in the Gong mansion was when Zhao Xiang and Bu Feiyan would party. The two have a deep sense of affection and a common heart, and a look or a soft call from each other can evoke each other's subtle tacit understanding. ”
And after Wu Gongye knew that his wife was behind his back and secretly had an affair with another man in his own home, as a man, could he endure his wife, the person he loved, to bring such humiliation to himself?
Obviously, no normal man wants his wife to do this, let alone silently and without any reaction.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >03 If you don't love, don't force it, and you can't not keep the way of women</h1>
Since ancient times, there are not many happy and ideal marriages. Many people's married lives will be in crisis, and many people have not married the dream lover, the ideal lover. Although they also searched, waited, and self-righteously found the person they liked, but soon after marriage, they would more or less find that the person they spent with day and night was not their ideal partner. But they did not have incredible thoughts and behaviors because of this, and most people can abide by morality and the law in peace, take it seriously, and live an ordinary and responsible married life in a down-to-earth manner.
If in ancient times, women's social status is not high, but also required to "three from four virtues", marriage is mostly the parents of the matchmaker and arranged, two new people in front of the cave, may not even have seen each other, but there are "three from four virtues" constraints, divorce, red apricot out of the wall is not common.
However, Bu Feiyan, who was full of poetry and books and had been educated in etiquette and honesty since childhood, went out of the wall with the man next door in his own home.
People often say that if you don't love, don't force it, and don't be together, but no one has ever said that if you don't love, you can not keep the way of women, and you can go out of the wall with red apricots.
If the death of supporting Bu Feiyan is domestic violence, it is obviously a stand for the feasibility of red apricots out of the wall.
< h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks</h1>
If the husband she married was a man who understood her and lived a harmonious and happy life with her, and she had been reading poetry since she was a child, and had received so much etiquette and shame education, she would certainly not have cheated on strange men.
If it weren't for Zhao Xiang's covetousness for bu non-smoke beauty and not buying the martial gatekeeper, to be precise, Zhao Xiang would not harass the husband's wife's bu non-smoke, and that non-smoke step would not have gone out of the wall.
Besides, if there is a person who can abide by the professional ethics of the martial family and his wife, and not be moved by Zhao Xiang's silver two, let alone unite for Zhao Xiang's use, pass on love letters and inform information for Zhao Xiang and Bu Feiyan, and do not encourage Bu Feiyan to reply to Zhao Xiang's letter, that bu non-smoke will not be red apricot out of the wall, even if she has ideas, then she has no way.
However, by chance, it is Bu Feiyan himself who has a red apricot selfish heart out of the wall, even if there is no Zhao Xiang, without the help of the martial arts gatekeeper couple, in the future, if she is still not satisfied with the happy life she already has, she is not willing, and she is not in the blessing and does not know the blessing, she may still be red apricot out of the wall with other men. In this way, coupled with the fact that he married Wu Gongye, who was born a martial general, it was still difficult to escape the whipping of Wu Gongye's jealousy and hatred after the incident.
From this point of view, the story of "Step Non Smoke Red May Go Out of the Wall" is a sigh of feudal arranged marriage, but it does not fully stand on the highest point of morality, writing out the noble step non-smoke, writing the step non-smoke vows not to die from the arranged marriage, and there is no love marriage, or in order to pursue a happy life and escape the clutches of the arranged marriage.
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