Gao Shanshan, a supporting actress in the TV series "The Temptation to Go Home", is the daughter of Gao Hong. After Lin Pinru divorced Hong Shixian, he was invited to the beach by Hong Shixian, and after falling into the sea, he was saved by Gao Wenyan, and then assumed the pseudonym Gao Shanshan, and got the full support and cultivation of Gao Hong, so that he had the opportunity to approach Hong Shixian and avenge himself.
When Lin Pinru assumed the name Gao Shanshan, the real Gao Shanshan was mistaken by her family for death. When she saw that her sweetheart Gao Wenyan was about to marry his wife, she felt discouraged and left a suicide note. However, at the last step, she gave up the plan to end her life, swam ashore, and played with the disappearance, until Lin Pinru Gao Wenyan came back to sabotage on the eve of gao wenyan's marriage.
In the play, Gao Shanshan is definitely an unlikable character, which makes people resent her when they see her, only because of her wishful thinking. Gao Shanshan loved Gao Wenyan to the bone and became an obsession.
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Gao Wenyan, gao hong's adopted son, after Gao Hong lost Minmin, he was greatly shocked, in order to make up for the pain in his heart, he adopted Gao Wenyan. Gao Shanshan grew up with Gao Wenyan and lived together, Gao Wenyan was handsome and tall, and he cared very much about his sister, and Gao Shanshan would have feelings for him, which was normal.
However, in Gao Wenyan's eyes, Gao Shanshan is only his beloved little sister, and his feelings for Gao Shanshan are family affection, not love. Even if he later learned Gao Shanshan's intentions and Gao Hong was also trying to match them, he still couldn't transform family affection into love, couldn't fall in love with Gao Shanshan.
Gao Wenyan is a person with his own opinion, he knows that Gao Hong has nurturing grace for himself, and he is extremely grateful to Gao Hong, but he cannot disregard his sincerity and agree to marry Gao Shanshan in order to repay the favor.
He loves a person deeply, not that he does not marry, and he wants to be his wife wholeheartedly, but he is only willing to treat himself as a sister, and Gao Shanshan's love is wishful thinking and is doomed to have no good results.
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The love for Gao Wenyan became Gao Shanshan's greatest obsession. What's more, she grew up under the love of her mother Gao Hong, and Gao Wenyan also took care of her in every way, raising her to be very willful, and in order to get what she wanted, she could use any means, whether right or wrong.
Therefore, when Gao Wenyan and Wang Huiping held a wedding, Gao Shanshan held a wedding for herself and Gao Wenyan at the beach, and in the face of Gao Wenyan's bitter persuasion, she was still immersed in her own beautiful dreams, seeing that Gao Wenyan was unwilling to compromise, and she would rather die than be Gao Wenyan's sister.
After returning to China, Gao Shanshan saw that Gao Wenyan was in love with Lin Pinru and was very angry, believing that Lin Pinru had taken everything from her. In order to drive away Lin Pinru, she did not hesitate to conspire with Ellie to frame Lin Pinru.
In order to save her, Gao Wenyan had to agree to marry her, but if a person really does not love you and his heart is not in you, what is the point of you marrying him? A loveless marriage brings only pain to people.
Gao Shanshan's obsession with Gao Wenyan hurt others and hurt herself. She couldn't help it, refused to give up, immersed herself in pain, suffered from depression, hurt herself many times, and almost lost her life. As a mother, seeing her daughter so painful, Gao Hong's heart is so uncomfortable. Both Gao Wenyan and Lin Pinru were hurt by her and tortured.
Torturing herself and making people close to her feel uncomfortable with her, Gao Shanshan's willfulness has reached the extreme, making people disgusted when they see it. When you meet a person who is slightly unhappy, he will die and live, and he wants the other party to obey him unconditionally, even if this person is really emotional, he does not dare to fall in love with him.
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In The Art of Love, Fromm mentions:
"True love can evoke something alive in the other person, and both partners will be filled with joy because they awaken some kind of vitality in their hearts."
The most basic feature of love is that two loves are happy, and wishful thinking is not called love, it is called unrequited love. Love is not caused by one heart hitting another, but by two hearts colliding together to produce a spark of love.
If you hit the other person with your own sincerity, the other party is slow to respond, or explicitly rejects you, then you must learn to let go, just because you insist on a fruitless relationship, doomed to fail to come true.
Zhang Ailing once said:
"I want you to know that there is always someone waiting for you in this world, no matter when, no matter where, anyway, you know, there is always such a person." 」
Where there is no herb at the end of the world, why love a flower alone, this person does not belong to you, you go to find your own love, why be too persistent, lovers do not become enemies?
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