Recently, I brushed up on the TV series "The Temptation to Go Home" for the second time, and found that although the plot of this TV series is more cheesy, many details cannot withstand scrutiny, but it reflects many truths, especially the plot of the heroine Lin Pin such as Nirvana rebirth, the incarnation of "Gao Shanshan" to revenge on the scumbag ex-husband Hong Shixian and the girlfriend Ellie who destroyed his family are tireless.
Lin Pinru was originally a girl from an ordinary family and was Ellie's girlfriend, but she was taken in by the rich young master Hong Shixian, married into the rich family, and became the daughter-in-law of the rich family. However, she met her husband who could not control herself, did not take marriage seriously, and her mother-in-law Bai Feng, who did not look at herself well, and her girlfriend Ellie originally had an old love affair with Hong Shixian, but was abandoned by Hong Shixian, unwilling to do so, and deliberately destroyed the marriage between Hong Shixian and Lin Pinru. In the end, the helpless, weak and incompetent Lin Pinru not only lost his marriage under the calculations of Hong Shixian and Ellie, but also lost his long-awaited child.
Hong Shixian, for the sake of family property, deceived Lin Pinru to the seashore, to put his own flesh and bones to death, Lin Pinru knew the truth, hated Hong Shixian to the bone, and with the help of Gao Hong, who also hated the Hong family, transformed into "Gao Shanshan", returned to Hong Shixian's side, and treated his body in his human way, destroyed the marriage between Hong Shixian and Ellie, and took revenge on the Hong family.
Although Lin Pinru and "Gao Shanshan" are one person, their styles are very different. Lin Pinru and "Gao Shanshan" 3 comparisons, one is abandoned by the husband, betrayed by the girlfriend, even their own children can not keep the failure of the marriage, the other is the obsessive strong woman, as a woman, to look at the latter.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="6" > first of all, it is a question of attitude towards scumbags who have hurt themselves. </h1>
After Ellie returned to China, she tried her best to contact Hong Shixian, let him rekindle his old love with himself, and after making a betrayal of Lin Pinru, Ellie carefully calculated to let Lin Pinru know that Hong Shixian had an affair.
Knowing that Hong Shixian had failed himself, Lin Pinru was greatly shocked, but he could not let go of this feeling and the child in his belly, and chose to forgive Hong Shixian and wanted to return to the old good with Hong Shixian. If it weren't for Ellie's step-by-step, Hong Shixian would no longer want to be with Lin Pinru, and Lin Pinru would not have divorced nine times out of ten.
"You ignored me as a woman, insulted me as a wife, killed me as a mother, and uprooted my life." At the first two points, Lin Pinru was happy to forgive Hong Shixian, but the long-awaited child was her biggest scar, making her hate Hong Shixian to the bone.
In the early stage, betrayed by men, Lin Pinru still had hope and was willing to give Hong Shixian a chance for his children, but he was completely ignored and hurt by Hong Shixian. After becoming "Gao Shanshan", Lin Pinru saw Hong Shixian trying to please her, and his hatred would only deepen.
Some mistakes are not worthy of forgiveness and have little to do with grossness. The moment your lover betrays you in marriage, it is clear to you that he no longer loves you. At this time, if you still have hope for him, if you don't arrange a back road for yourself in time, you will only let yourself fall deeper and deeper, and will only give him the opportunity to hurt you again.
The person who has betrayed you is already dirty and unworthy of you, so throw it away when it's time to throw it away, don't waste your precious time on such a ruthless and unrighteous person who doesn't take marriage seriously.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="13" > secondly, the comparison of capabilities. Lin Pinru has no financial ability, and Gao Shanshan is a strong woman in her career. </h1>
Ability is the guarantee of a woman's control of the initiative in marriage.
For the Hong family, Lin Pinru is dispensable as a daughter-in-law who is not the right door. She has no strong economic ability to contribute to the family, two powerless mother's family to support her, and cowardly personality, do not know how to resist, delay in having children, one more she, the family will have more than one nanny who does not want money. Without her, there was not much to lose.
Therefore, when Hong Shixian betrayed the marriage, they did not realize their son's mistake at all, but unceremoniously drove Lin Pinru out of the house, and even the father-in-law who loved Lin Pinru the most easily denied Lin Pinru's character under Ellie's calculations, and wanted the custody of the child in Lin Pinru's belly.
Unlike Lin Pinru, the status of "Gao Shanshan" in the Hong family is completely different, after she married Hong Shixian, her mother-in-law Bai Feng, who has always been mean to her daughter-in-law, was very kind to her. Only because of Gao Shanshan's ability.
In terms of personal ability, "Gao Shanshan" runs a beauty shop, successfully crushes the cause on which Ellie depends, and has strong economic ability. She is also the daughter of Chairman Gao, and she is in the right place with Hong Shixian.
Yishu also said such a passage: "Never underestimate the coldness of men when they break up, the most stupid thing for women is to give up their jobs for the so-called family, if they want to be independent in thought, they must first be financially independent, at least when they are scattered, they still have the ability to support themselves, and they can continue to live with dignity!" ”
If a woman has economic strength, not only has confidence and dignity when running a marriage, does not have to look at the man's face when asking a man for money, does not have to be ridiculed by the family as an idle meal, does not have to worry about having nowhere to go when the marriage is broken, cannot support herself, and can get the respect of the in-laws, a wife who can help herself in her career is more inseparable from men, and more so that men dare not ignore.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="21" > Finally, the mother's family comparison, Lin Pinru's mother's family dragged its legs, and the "Gao Shanshan" mother's family was the strong backing of the daughter. </h1>
To be honest, when I watched "The Temptation to Go Home", I hated Lin Pinru's mother's family from the bottom of my heart. Let's not say whether Ellie's accusation that they used her parents' pension to support their children is true or false, let's say that Lin Pinru's family has caused Lin Pinru a lot of trouble.
If it were not for Lin Yide's short temper and fists and feet to his brother-in-law Hong Shixian at every turn, Hong Shixian would not have grasped Lin Pinru's weak ribs and used Lin Yide as a threat to successfully force Lin Pinru to agree to divorce. As a housewife, Lin Pinru has been abandoned by her in-laws without income, and then takes money to subsidize her mother-in-law's family, which is even more intolerable to her in-laws.
When her daughter was bullied, Lin Pinru's family could not help the Hong family except for fighting and quarreling.
On the contrary, Gao Hong can protect her daughter very well, whether it is economic ability or status, Gao Hong is not afraid.
It is really important for a woman to have a good mother's family, and with a strong mother's family as a backing, women will not be alone. On the contrary, there is a dragging mother's family, always infringing on the interests of your husband and wife, and even the man who loves you cannot tolerate it.
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