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To ask how high a TXL is, you may get many different answers.
"My height is Schrödinger's." An unnamed gay man told Pale Blue, "I usually announce 178cm to the outside world, and I say that I am 173cm in front of the attack, and my actual height is 175cm."
For GAY, height is more than just a simple number, but also represents a person's position in the dating market.
In people's impressions, Northeast China and Shandong GAY often occupy the top of the chain of contempt with tall and mighty; Boys over 175cm have been able to stand out in Guangdong and Guangxi; "18,18,180" is the ideal data of many boys, but it usually only exists in dreams.
So, what is the popular "golden height" for gay men? Let's find out today.
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On small software, TXL is 180cm per capita
In GAY's social behavior, it seems to be a common thing to hide your true height. In some TXL exclusive copywriting, it seems that each person has a 180cm+ sports boyfriend.
In order to bring himself close to the "standard" height of 180cm, TXL simply does everything. Gay men with a real height of 178cm will always call themselves 180cm and verbally make up for the visual gap; When not meeting, the "leg pulling" function of various P-chart software is a weapon that you are familiar with; Even if you go offline, the inner height can make 180cm not a dream.
Don't be fascinated by these "fake 180s" everywhere, don't expect too much from the real height of the boys around you.
In 2020, the National Health Commission released a "Report on Nutrition and Chronic Diseases of Chinese Residents", which mentioned that the average height of adult men aged 18~44 in China is 169.7cm. In other words, as long as it exceeds 170cm, it is already one of the best.
But there is no need to be too pessimistic about the height of Chinese men. In fact, we are getting taller, according to a study published in The Lancet in 2020, the average height of 19-year-old men in China has reached 175.7cm, ranking first in East Asia.
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TXL loves "height fraud" more than straight men
"I don't write my real height on Blued and flip card, they fill in 210cm, and others look at it as fake." Ah Tong, who "attacked corgi", said, "Unless someone asks, I will say that I am 170cm."
In fact, Ah Tong's real height is not 170cm, but 168cm.
As a child, he was always at the top of the line, and he was not involved in playing sports such as basketball; Until now, he is often mistaken for a "junior high school student" who has not yet fully developed. He has always felt inferior to himself because of his height, so he has to avoid this problem by concealing and lying about it.
According to a 2016 study published in the Journal of Sexual Research, men tend to exaggerate their height more than women, with gay men having a higher probability than straight men.
"It's not that I didn't let go of my real height before, but I either missed a lot of opportunities because of this, or praised me as 'so cute'." Ah Tong said, "Which attack is praised as cute?"
Compared to the overwhelming "180cm", the reality is quite the opposite - more than one study has shown that the average height of TXL is shorter than that of straight men. Although the researchers couldn't find genetic correlations in genetics or figure out what height had to do with orientation, it turned out like this.
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Do TXLs like tall and mighty men?
Gay men love to falsely report their height so much, so is high altitude really so attractive to GAY?
In fact, academics have indeed studied the height preference of gay men when dating friends. In 2014, researchers at several European universities jointly surveyed hundreds of non-heterosexual men of different heights (from 158cm to 202cm) to understand their ideal height for their partners.
The researchers drew nine illustrations representing different height differences between them and their partners and gave them to the respondents to choose. The results show that more than fifty percent of respondents want their significant other to be taller than themselves.
At the same time, people's preference for height is also influenced by various factors, the most obvious of which is a person's role and preference in the relationship.
Simply put, if a person prefers to be in a relationship, he will be more favorable than his taller man; If a person thinks he is attacking, he is more inclined to choose someone shorter than him.
Such a conclusion does not link height to the role of attack, tall people ≠ attack, after all, we often see "corgi attack" and "giraffe attack" in daily life. To be precise, people who tend to be dominant prefer shorter objects than themselves, while people who are more passive/submissive in relationships want their partner to be taller.
However, the researchers also found that although the respondents said that they had height requirements, most of their real-life subjects found a partner who was closer to their height.
"Although tall boys have long legs and are very good-looking, I like it, and outsiders look very cute in height," Ah Tong said to Light Blue, "but when I really fall in love, I still find it more convenient for people of similar height to do anything."
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How should short GAY fight back?
To put it bluntly, liking tall people is a long-standing human trait. As early as 2000, an article in Nature UK mentioned that evolutionary biologists found that people tend to have a better impression of tall men, both men and women, believing that they are more confident, sexually attractive and masculine.
Through long-term follow-up, psychotherapist Leonard Rebick also found that shorter men often find ways to make up for the shortcomings caused by height.
"They often focus on showing their intelligence or sense of humor to divert attention from height." "They also have to work harder to look attractive in other ways, like dress and body management," Rebic said.
In order to alleviate his inferiority complex at the height level, Ah Tong and many GAYs under 170cm he knows are keen to soak in the gym. They want to make themselves look bigger to increase their aggressiveness and make themselves look a little bigger.
"Many TXLs see that you are a muscle man, and they will no longer ask you how high and how much you weigh, and no one will use 'cute' to describe me anymore." Ah Tong said, "AFTER HAVING MUSCLES, SOME GAY WILL LIKE SHORTER ONES, COMMONLY KNOWN AS 'SMALL STEEL CANNONS'."
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At last
For a long time, stereotypes around height have caused many men to have low self-esteem and depression.
In the past, people always thought that tall and mighty represented the "masculine" temperament of men, and "rich and handsome" was always opposed to "short and poor", which made many people lose competitiveness from the beginning.
But obviously the external numbers of height and weight are only the most basic characteristics of a person, and they cannot hide his appearance, personality, temperament and relationship patterns at all.
If a boy who is very suitable for you in all aspects confesses to you, but he is only 165cm, are you willing to accept it?
Don't let your true love get in the way of height.
Text|Chang Maizhi
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