In this world, in addition to AI artificial intelligence, there are years that can work every moment. Time sent the children into the leafy summer, and also dragged the parents into the lonely late autumn.
When we were young, our parents cared for us unconditionally; When we grow up, we fly out of the warmest harbor and can't wait to run into the future.
Parents are there, and there is still a place to go in this life; The parents go, leaving only the twilight to return.
As the saying goes, there are eight sufferings in life, and the greatest sorrow is that "the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the child desires and does not wait", if we can understand that parents and children are destined to drift apart, we can take advantage of the fact that our parents are alive and do more filial piety from the heart. In the life and death run that no one can avoid, leave no regrets for yourself and your family.
Life is impermanent, but there are traces of the operation of life. Once the elderly in the family have these 3 signs, then the younger generation should pay more attention and strive to walk in filial piety.
1. Slurred speech, remembering the deceased
Chinese taboo talk about life and death and disease, especially the elderly in the family, and generally avoid talking about deceased relatives.
But if one day, you find that the elderly in your family are inarticulate, their speech logic is confused, and they often think in pieces, like to look back at the events of their lives, and even babble in dreams, and use a very vague voice to talk about their loved ones who have passed away, then pay more attention.
At this time, the elderly in the family may not be much old, and they need the company of their children even more, no matter how busy they are at work, they should often go home to visit, even if it is just a sense of ritual, it will make parents doubly gratified.
I have heard such a story:
In an ordinary family, there is an old mother who is nearly seventy, and most of her children live in other places, and only her younger son accompanies her.
This mother had a problem with talking in dreams for a while, and when she was excited, she called her father and mother; And when I wake up in the morning, I occasionally have a slurred speech and incoherent speech. One day, she suddenly told her youngest son that she hoped he could make a phone call and let her distant daughter go home to accompany her.
The younger son said nonchalantly: "You are fine, what are you bothering them for?" It's not easy for anyone to come back. ”
The old mother also felt sorry for her daughter, who had been wandering away for many years, so she thought about it. After a while, the mother's desire to let the child go home was born again, and she made the same request to the younger son again, but the son still did not care.
However, this time, the mother, who has always been mild, suddenly became angry and firmly demanded that her daughter take the child home. The youngest son had to dial, and the sister on the other end of the phone felt that the situation was wrong, hurriedly packed her luggage, and rushed to her hometown with the family.
Poor time did not wait for anyone, no one expected that the mother could not hold on, suddenly died of cerebral infarction, and could not see them for the last time.
This may seem like a story of unfilial piety, but how many people around us ignore the physical condition of their parents and often use "too troublesome" and "no time" as reasons to excuse going home to visit their parents?
2. God is tired and becomes lethargic
As the age increases, the physical function of the elderly declines, the brain operation will slow down, and some people will even be in a "semi-conscious state" of unconscious mind.
The old people who used to go to the park to walk suddenly like to sleep for a long time, and it is difficult to be woken up, which is likely to indicate that the body organs of the elderly have failed to a certain extent, and the body has been unable to provide enough energy, difficult to wake up, so they have to be in the lowest state of energy consumption.
Such an old man, even if he is not seriously ill, may not have much time.
At this time, children need to be more patient with their parents, the life of the elderly is fragile, and time does not wait for others.
Remember the story of a mother suffering from dwarfism who gave birth to a white and fat son, but unfortunately the child was only 6 years old when his father died in a fortification. The mother worked hard to pull her son up, and when she encountered difficulties, she could only carry it from her left shoulder to her right shoulder.
When he grew up, the child went to a distant place as he wished, and became a capable person. He knew that his mother had always longed for a life outside, so he promised to take her to the big city by plane, and her mother said excitedly: "My son is going to take me on a plane!" ”
On the day of the appointment, the boss suddenly asked his son to negotiate with an important customer, and he hesitated for only a few seconds before giving up his last chance to meet his mother.
Unfortunately, my mother fell on the dirt road she was returning home alone, and she was still soberly thinking, "My son is going to take me on a plane", but soon after, she became lethargic and tired for unknown reasons, and died within a few weeks.
The interval between life and death is so short, a day apart, maybe it is the farewell of heaven and man.
"It is rare in the world to laugh, and the chrysanthemum must be planted all over the head." When the elders are in the twilight of the wind and their sideburns are spotted, what children can do is not only to provide material support, but also to provide spiritual companionship. Once upon a time, they were your umbrella, and the world with parents was a fairy tale, holy and beautiful.
And now, children are grown up and can do what they can. Cleaning the house is naturally not a problem, but can we clear their worries and make their parents laugh often?
Chongyang is very good, temporarily put down the work at hand, and take the elders to enjoy the mountains and chrysanthemums, which is the most beautiful and ordinary.
3. Suddenly perk up and have a great appetite
Can an elderly person who has been bedridden for a long time suddenly have a better appetite, and even likes to eat food that he usually does not want to touch, can it be regarded as a good deed?
In fact, a serious illness that has not healed but suddenly becomes energetic is a phenomenon of "returning to light" in medicine.
In the phenomenon of life, the oil lamp will go out, even if the light bulb will go out, it will burst into a dazzling light in an instant. This phenomenon is well explained: when only the last drop of oil remains in the lamp holder, the adhesion or tension of the oil is very weak, the flame rises rapidly, and the lamp will suddenly turn on.
Medical research shows that when the elderly have entered the point of being helpless, the brain will have a stress response, quickly mobilizing various organs of the body to do their best and exhausting the last strength. This means that his life has come to an end.
It may sound scary, after all, life is precious, and who wants their dearest person to pass away? It is human nature not to dare to face life and death and calamities.
But death and life are after all the laws of nature, and anyone, rich or poor, will have the day to die, and we don't have to be too afraid.
As long as you cherish life, live well in the present, and be faithful and filial, you will have the courage to face everything calmly and give yourself a complete life without regrets.
As we get older, our parents' desire for life may become more and more simple. The sun and the moon are constantly rotating, experiencing countless ups and downs, and what they look forward to day and night in their hearts may only be your figure, but the years are quiet and the flesh and bones are reunited.
In life, you can wait for anything, but filial piety cannot afford to wait. Lilu has numbers, and filial piety is priceless. What can make parents smile may just be a good morning and a breakfast with you. Please take advantage of the elders' well-being and send them an extra companionship, don't let happiness be too late.
"Dear parents, on the other side of time, singing to the years, you are the way I came."
"Dear baby, on a sunny day, looking at the meat and vegetables on the morning table, that is my most beautiful happiness."
May the parents of the world, walking through a thousand mountains and twilight snow, there are still begonias; Don't worry about time, don't smell three thousand worries.