Fanned by the 9-year-old um, the warm man with high emotional intelligence has tricked you into having a baby again
Text | Rice grain mother
Recently, Mi Grain's mother brushed a video of Huo Siyan's son humming.
At the premiere of Du Jiang's movie, Du Jiang asked: "If the firefighter in the movie were you, would you give the oxygen mask to others?" ”
Hmm thought for a while and replied seriously: "If it is my mother, I will give it, because she is the person I love the most in this world, and I must protect her well." ”
Huo Siyan was relieved on the side, and Mi Li's mother was also envious, this is a real warm man.
But then, the unwilling Du Jiang asked another proposition: "If there is only one oxygen mask, give it to me or to my mother?" ”
In public, any answer may be infinitely magnified, and Mi Gran's mother also pinched a handful of sweat for this 9-year-old child, unexpectedly, he said with a smile:
"I don't think we would have come to this point if we had you."
How good a child can speak, Migrain mother really saw it.
It is not only to praise the father's ability, but also to avoid the choice, and the proper high emotional intelligence answer ah.
The point is, the person who said this is only 9 years old.
Dale Carnegie, a success scientist, said, "Success is made up of 15 percent professional skills and 85 percent behavior." ”
After all, in the current environment, work is inseparable from teamwork, even school and group work, the cultivation of emotional intelligence is too important for children. In most people's eyes, high emotional intelligence = being able to speak.
Talking children, self-emitting bodies
Children with high emotional intelligence, what is like, just look at Gu Ailing.
Since the 2022 Winter Olympics, Gu Ailing has been popular on the whole network, and Mi Gran's mother has also written her story, you know, Gu Ailing is not only excellent, but also has absolutely nothing to say about emotional intelligence.
After becoming a sports star, Gu Ailing often had many tricky questions in the interviews.
The most sensitive is the focus on nationality: "Are you still American?" "How do you balance life between two countries?"
To be honest, this kind of question is still too heavy for 18-year-old Gu Ailing, but Gu Ailing ended all doubts with only one sentence:
"I'm comfortable in the U.S. and China. I think that sports do not need to be related to nationality, sports must be used to unite human beings, not to divide us. ”
Not only thanked the two countries for their help and support, but also used sports to erase the boundaries between countries on herself, how did she come up with such an answer in just a few seconds?
Some reporters also wanted to dig a hole and asked her how she thought of the criticism of netizens.
Gu Ailing said directly: "I don't want to satisfy everyone... I know that my heart is good, and I also know that the decisions I make are based on the benefit of all.
If someone doesn't believe me or doesn't like me, then it's their loss. They can't be Olympic champions. ”
First explain your starting point, and then show your attitude, reasonable, not humble and unassuming.
Mi Li's mother found that although she often faced dilemmas when answering questions, Gu Ailing was always able to give interesting answers.
Every word makes people feel her sincerity, but never makes the reporter who faces her feel any discomfort.
She never hides her true feelings and will express her needs and emotions directly, as she does with her mother and her friends.
Mother Migrain always feels that in interpersonal communication, children who can talk are more able to grasp the boundaries of communication, neither making others uncomfortable nor aggrieved themselves.
Because a child with high emotional intelligence is a little sun, which can make others feel warm and make themselves happy.
High emotional intelligence, not just sweet mouth
Many people have a misconception that high emotional intelligence is sweet mouth and can say good things.
Rice mother wants to say, it's really not.
A while ago, Zhang Yuqi's daughter was on the hot search.
It turned out that the little girl wore a skirt when she went to school, but the little friend came over and told her with a serious face: The skirt you are wearing today is not beautiful.
Don't say that children are unhappy when they hear this, even we adults may be a little angry.
But Zhang Yuqi's daughter immediately replied to her friends: No, my skirt is very beautiful, your skirt is also beautiful, let's go play together.
6-year-olds are not only confident enough, but also tolerant of all evaluations, and even genuinely praise.
This is the embodiment of high emotional intelligence, skillful problem solving, and comfort for all.
Rice grain mother also feels that children can talk and have high emotional intelligence, which does not mean to blindly please others, but to maximize benefits in the simplest way.
Zhang Yuqi's daughter is an example, just a sentence of kung fu, not only solved her own embarrassment, but also made the friendship go to a higher level, how can people not like her.
Rice grain mother has seen a similar story online.
A 4-year-old girl invites a friend to play at home, but one of her friends is naughty and jumps around in bed.
The mother felt that this was very dangerous, so she reminded her daughter: You go and tell Kiki, don't jump on the bed.
After listening, the little girl went to the bedroom and told her friend: "Kiki, you won't look like a little princess anymore." ”
When Mother Migrain saw this, she really wanted to give the little girl a thumbs up.
No wonder netizens said: "With organizational ability, can take care of other people's feelings, and can say 'no' so well, this 4-year-old child's emotional intelligence is going against the sky." ”
Children who play may not be willing to follow instructions, but they will certainly be willing to make a choice. Don't offend your partner, and you can complete the task, this sentence is too level.
Who wouldn't want to have such emotionally intelligent children?
High emotional intelligence is by no means blindly saying good things, but four or two pounds, overcoming rigidity with softness and winning easily.
Moving the mouth can solve problems, get the likes of others by the way, and even protect yourself in embarrassing situations, which is the true embodiment of high emotional intelligence.
Flexible education gives children the confidence to open their mouths
Seeing so many children with high emotional intelligence, Mi Li's mother couldn't help but think while sighing: how do parents educate.
Perhaps every family has a different way, but Mi Mama is sure that such families must allow children to speak.
Kunpeng, the boy in "Interview with Ryoko", grew up under the stick of his military father since he was a child.
Since elementary school, my father has asked for full marks in the English Sect, and he will draw a whip if he misses one point.
The little child plucked up the courage to tell his father that it was wrong to hit someone, and he would only be called over by his father, and raising his hand was a slap.
Under his father's tough education method, he could not express any emotional needs, and gradually, the communication between parents and children was only cold questions and answers.
Under such high-pressure control, will an obedient child be raised?
No.
Kunpeng could not speak well, only irritable and angry with his parents, and even suffered from severe depression and mania when he was in junior high school.
Teenage children, crazy to bang their heads against the windshield, even if their heads are full of blood, they are unwilling to stop, and they are determined to escape from this world.
When Mi Grain's mother saw this interview, she felt very sorry for Kunpeng, because all his "difficult to get along with" and "can't speak" were all because his father's education was too tight.
As a result, he could not speak, did not dare to speak, let alone speak with improved emotional intelligence.
If you want children to have high emotional intelligence, the premise is that children can accurately express themselves, then parents need to give children the opportunity to express themselves, and do not suppress children's inner emotions and needs.
Just like Zhong Meimei, who Mi Li's mother wrote before, when he faced the invitation of the Internet celebrity company to sign him with one million, he was very moved and directly expressed his thoughts.
Mom was not angry, but patiently told him that studying hard is more important in the long run, and he can't be fooled by the momentary "red".
It can also be seen from the interviews and programs that Zhong Meimei has her own ideas and can take care of the atmosphere of the scene, all because under the listening and guidance of his mother, he has formed his own thinking and expression mode.
In other words, the foundation for high emotional intelligence has been built.
The reason why family education needs flexibility is not to pursue the so-called "sense of relaxation", but to give children more space to grow, so that he can experience, learn and progress on his own.
Mother Migrain remembered a short video she saw before, where the blogger grew up in a loving family atmosphere since he was a child.
When I was a child, I had my first menstruation, and instead of fear and confusion, it became a holiday more important than my birthday.
Mom instructed Dad to buy sanitary napkins, let her brother wash the dishes, and comforted her daughter not to be nervous, telling her that this was just a normal physiological phenomenon.
The warm and loving family makes her feel that nothing is a big deal, so she rarely panics in the face of problems, and will always solve the problem with the most emotional intelligence after thinking.
With friends, she is always able to take the initiative to express concern and is the cutest partner in the eyes of friends.
Compared to Kunpeng, this blogger is undoubtedly lucky, because she has known since she was a child that when facing problems, you should not burst into emotions but solve problems.
At all times, keeping your purpose in mind and achieving it in the easiest way is truly high emotional intelligence.
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