Wen | a good pregnant sister
My girlfriend told me that because she grew up in her hometown, she always felt that she was not so close to her parents. The parents seemed to make up for her, and when she gave birth to the child, she behaved so well with the child that her sister-in-law was jealous. After all, the brother-in-law's family now has a son, her family is also a boy, the two boys inevitably have a small fight when playing together, one side is the grandson, the other is the grandson, for the girlfriend's parents who is closer, she and her sister-in-law are secretly competing in their hearts.
The girlfriend's husband said, don't look at the old man on the surface to be good to the grandson, in fact, he is still to his own grandson. The girlfriend is not convinced, what happened to the grandson, is the son's child must be more expensive than the daughter's child? Because her heart is more eager for the favor of her parents, now she has become a mother, and she also hopes that her children will be favored by her grandparents, which has become a knot in her heart.
So for the elderly, who is closer to the grandson and the grandson? A few weeks ago, I heard a conversation between my grandparents and grandchildren on the road, and it must have told the truth.
In grandma's eyes, the grandson was always a member of the grandparents' family
I was walking on the road that day to catch the bus, and in front of me was an old lady, followed by a little boy of seven or eight years old. The little boy said that he wanted the old man to buy him a laptop, the old man muttered when he heard it, usually you manage your grandparents to have small toys and snacks, how to get to me here is going to play the computer, you are really not embarrassed, know who you are, know that you are closer to the old Zhang family. I want the computer to tell your grandparents to go, I don't have that much money.......
It turned out to be a grandmother. It turned out that in the eyes of this old man, the grandson was the person on the side of his grandparents, because his surname was Zhang. And this old man is very representative, look at her appearance should be usually here to take care of the grandson to go to school, even if they get along day and night, she also feels that the grandson is a member of the man's family, which also represents the idea of most old people.
For the elderly, who is closer to the grandson and grandson, naturally has the answer.
Don't be discouraged as a daughter, it is actually related to our family culture.
Whichever family's surname is, which person it is
There is a folk saying that is not very good: "Nephew is like a dog, eat and go". It is said that compared with the grandson, the grandson's status in the eyes of the woman's family and grandparents.
After all, we currently belong to a patriarchal society. When there are children in the family, they will naturally follow the father's surname, especially the boy, and bear the heavy responsibility of passing on the inheritance, in fact, it is to pass on the surname of the man's family.
If a boy is born in the family, he inherits his father's surname, and his father inherits his grandfather's surname. In the eyes of the older generation, boys are passed down from generation to generation, what generation is passed on? It's actually this last name.
Don't underestimate which family name the child follows, it represents the child's line, who is it, and which family it is with. Because the grandson will generally follow the father's surname, he naturally stands in the camp of the father and grandfather, and for the grandfather and grandmother, he has become a "person with a foreign surname".
There are exceptions, of course. If the woman recruits a son-in-law, and the child born is the woman's surname, that is, the mother's family name, then the grandparents will naturally treat the child as their own grandchildren. Otherwise, in those families that recruit a son-in-law, why do the children call their grandparents grandparents? In fact, the reason is the same.
Do you think that in the eyes of the older generation, it is a grandson or a grandson? 】
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