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Previously, we discussed the psychological state of "the more anxious the more you don't want to work hard", the more things are more anxious, the more anxious and anxious you don't want to do it, but some netizens left messages saying that they are the opposite, as long as they are idle, they are anxious when they have nothing to do.
One of the netizens said:
Since her promotion, she has worked overtime almost every day, there is no rest day at all, and when she returns home, she does not leave her mobile phone, from time to time she has to watch the dynamics of the work group, full of thoughts about work-related things, recently her health has become very poor, so she took a leave of absence for two days, and as a result, she was more anxious and mentally worse at home, and she didn't understand what was wrong with her.
Maybe there are such people around you, they are always busy, either working overtime or enriching themselves, not idle for a moment, not allowing themselves to relax, like hamsters on running wheels, not stopping all the time.
Why push yourself so hard? And what makes them so anxious?
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Why do you get more anxious the harder you try?
"Our future has everything, our future has nothing." Dickens's words have become self-deprecating for many young people.
"I dream as much as I have anxiety, and I have as much anxiety as gray hair." Under the fierce competition, we are in a hurry, and we have no time to worry about others.
Houses, children, cars, marriage, education, food security... It seems that anxiety has become pervasive, and every corner of life has its shadow.
We are constantly reinforced with a single criterion of success:
In the least amount of time,
Make more money,
Have a good social status.
Ah Qian has a friend Qi Qi, who works in an Internet company with a monthly salary of 20,000+, because she often works overtime, her biggest problem is not enough sleep.
As for the boyfriend problem that the family is worried about, he said that he has no time to take care of it, and his only hobby is to stay at home and watch a movie and sleep.
The company has a last-place elimination system, colleagues are excellent, and they feel pressured.
Anxiety is a word she often hangs on her lips.
There are countless young people like Qi Qi who are plagued by anxiety, and the unbearable pressure and immeasurable anxiety in their hearts have been written on their bodies:
TAs are sleepy-eyed,
debilitated
Lethargic
Deeply plagued by hair loss problems...
Anxiety is not only a distraction that we are confused in our hearts and that we want to escape from all the time.
It is also an attitude to life that carries the imprint of the scarcity we have experienced in the past, as well as our worries and hopes for the future.
What should you do if you are stuck in this anxiety?
Summon the courage to face and question your emotions and thoughts.
For example, if you feel that "I can't rest, otherwise other colleagues will surpass me and my career development will be hindered", most of these worries are actually your own imagination, that is, you scare yourself.
For example, "Can a colleague catch up with you by taking two days off?" What are you catching up with you? "Your colleagues will not take leave for the rest of their lives" "You have to be better than all your colleagues, is this an unreasonable request" ...
Finally, give yourself the courage to break the original pattern of habitual behavior.
For example, if you don't work overtime tonight, you just have a good rest today, don't read the news of the WeChat group, and face your anxiety face to face.
At the moment you will be anxious about these actions, but will it kill you? Will it destroy you? Not really.
Try a few more times, and you will find that you will no longer blindly force yourself to work hard based on feelings, and you can look at the whole thing more rationally and objectively.