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- A heart-wrenching sadness at the moment
Walking on the rural path, you can almost see that on the door of every household, there are headings or couplets such as "home and prosperity", "blessing" written on magnetic sheets, but in fact, "Do I know home and prosperity and happiness?" "Do I understand the meaning of home and prosperity and happiness?" "Have I passed on my home and all things to my children and grandchildren?" This is worth thinking about!
Everyone said - "Raising children to prevent old age!" "In fact, whether children or daughters, can they really retire? How to do old-age care? Home and talent to raise, not harmony is difficult to raise ah!
And the word Fu is clearly in front of our eyes, but we leave it alone! He even created all kinds of sinful karma! Poor and lamentable!
The so-called "home and all things prosper" comes from "a long novel with the nature of autobiographical nature written by the late Qing dynasty writer Wu Zhaoren, "The Strange Status Quo of Twenty Years of Witnessing", which is one of the four major condemnation novels of the late Qing Dynasty. The eighty-seventh time: "In a family of great people, to live a life, they must always be harmonious." From the point of view: 'Home and all things prosper'"!
Home and all things prosperous
Recently, my mother was ill and hospitalized, and one night outside the corridor of the ward, suddenly there was a loud sound, I thought whose relatives had died, and my tired body turned my head and fell asleep again. Early the next morning, everyone was talking about -
"You should hit hard!"
"Is that what people say? Let the old people die, do not treat the elderly! ”
"Such a daughter-in-law can't ask for a bachelor!"
"If it weren't for the doctor's pull, you see that man wouldn't have killed her!"
Not only was there a lot of discussion in the ward where my mother was, walking around the corridor, but the people in the other wards were also telling about last night!
If you think about it, whether it is a daughter-in-law or a son-in-law, how can you form a family with each other without the other party's parents to raise them? And where are the children and everything they have now? But we all forgot, we only remember how much the other party hurt me, what the other party did to make me unhappy, how much material the other party gave less, and how the other party was poor and had no money! Everything else, forget about it!
An old man in the same ward as his mother was taken care of by his grandchildren after zero for two nights, which is called a meticulous ah - because the old man does not speak clearly, can not turn over, eats, drinks and urinates, etc. must be in bed, and constantly coughing, the whole body can not move! The two children did not sleep all night, pouring urine on the elderly, turning over, wiping themselves, feeding them, passing tissues and spitting, etc. ....... When talking to the old man, his tone was soft and loving, without a little impatience, and his eyes looked at the old man: "What do you say?" Say it again? Is it..." Such words kept ringing in the ears! At the same time, he hardly brushed his mobile phone, and observed his grandfather intently.
Even if the grandchildren go back to work and the two sons take care of them, they don't have the care and thoughtfulness of the grandchildren!
This made Xiaoxiao think that the mother of the two children must educate her children by example at home and practice the spirit of filial piety, so that she can behave like a child!
There are also brothers and sisters who are many, compare with each other and do, you give out a hundred, I think out of fifty, you wait for a day, I think half a day, he still can't think of coming ........ So why should I be greedy when there is good? What's more, don't pay attention to the old man at all, what do you love, anyway, I don't know you! Heartache!
The Chinese Dream
People are messy in the afterlife, if you don't do personnel, can you have the opportunity to regenerate your body in the future, which is worth everyone's deep consideration! Xiaoxiao's teacher once said: "Human beings are different from animals and animals, and their culture of experience and wisdom is transmitted from generation to generation through education, and their spiritual and material life is constantly improved." The relationship between the transmitter and the recipient in the process of transmission determines the result of transmission.
The spirit of filial piety is exactly the kind of mutual relationship between transmission and reception nurtured by Chinese culture.
Confucius, the most holy of the masters of Chinese culture, pointed out in the chapter of the "Book of Filial Piety" 'The Beginning and Clarity of Meaning': 'Filial piety is the foundation of virtue, and the place of teaching is also born. 'The application of this spirit begins with the family and the child, and extends to the nations of the world, although there are different levels of human society, the noble, the rich and the poor, but the kindness and respect for each other are the same. Therefore, if the Son of Heaven, the head of the state, down to the people of the city, can follow this path, naturally 'the world is peaceful, disasters do not arise, and calamities do not occur'. And its politics can also be 'ruled without strictness, not purged by the realm'. Today's turbulent society, its true origin and pure source, here may be seen its clues..."
Many people know that "home and everything is prosperous", but when faced with money and filial piety, how many people can achieve "harmony"?
The importance of teachers
Xiaoxiao, who was ignorant before, also complained and blamed his parents for many years, feeling that they did not care and value themselves enough and did not give themselves the opportunity to go to school! I think that all the hardships I have experienced are caused by my parents not allowing me to go to school! It was not until she met SF teachers and a group of people who practiced the ten virtues that Xiaoxiao realized - the hardship and heartache of her parents! Parents' helplessness and hardship!
In the face of three children who go to school, there is no extra income in the countryside, what they see, hear, think and think, is just to fill their stomachs, running around the fields all day long, no one has taught parents how to be better, all inspired by their past experience and the actions and words of the people around them! At that time, they had already given the best to their children, and their children did not know how to cherish it!
Every parent is doing their best to give their children the best thing with their best ability, even if the child thinks that the thing is worthless and unsatisfactory, it is also the parents who give it to their children with what they think is the best! More than parents say the most hateful words, but convey the deepest love!
When Xiaoxiao realized this part, he realized how wrong he was before! If no parents give Xiaoxiao life, can Xiaoxiao still go to school and work? If there is no life from her parents, can Xiaoxiao walk around the south and north? If there is no life from her parents, can Xiaoxiao be worth meeting such a happy team? If there is no life given by her parents, how can Xiaoxiao understand the value and meaning of a full human body? If there is no parents to give life, how can Xiaoxiao really change her life, turn her mind and change her destiny?
Without life, everything is empty talk! Everything is built on the basis of the existence of life!
When you realize your mistakes and actively change them, you once again realize how insignificant and small you are!
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There is a classmate in the Chinese Studies class, "Zhu Xiaohui, female, is a citizen of Suifenhe, Heilongjiang, whose father suffered from a diffuse cerebral infarction in 2002 and was paralyzed in bed. In order to treat his father's illness, he was saddled with a debt. Overwhelmed, Zhu Xiaohui's husband left her with his children. The Zhu father and daughter made their home in a community garage for 12 years.
Zhu Xiaohui was once a talented poet, and his poetry has won many awards across the country. Before her father fell ill, she loved to read and write poetry; Later, she read more books on medical nursing and wellness. After the old man fell ill, he fell paralyzed, his legs and feet were inconvenient, and he could not control his urine and urine. Zhu Xiaohui scrubbed his body almost every day. Under her careful care, the old man has not suffered from bedsores for 12 years. ”
Especially after seeing her in person a few years ago, it made Xiaoxiao feel even more ashamed! I can't accompany my parents for a few days all year round, and I have my parents to take care of myself for a few days at home, and occasionally my face is not as good as my own heart, and even hurt people! Compared with Zhu Xiaohui, who practices filial piety, it is a heaven and a place; Compared to the SF teacher and all the sages, it is even more humiliating for the disciples!
Looking at the "home and prosperity and happiness" posted on the door, and then listening to the short neighborhood gossip of the people around him, and the many things told by the visitors, Xiaoxiao suddenly found that there was only a limit to what he could do!
That day, while falling asleep in the car, I dreamed of an unfamiliar elder: touched Xiaoxiao's head and said, "You, you're so tired!" "Waking up in tears! Xiaoxiao didn't do anything, how could he be tired? SF teachers and all the good knowledge are doing their best to practice the teachings, so what reason does Xiaoxiao have to say that he is tired?
Honoring one's parents and taking care of one's parents is everyone's obligation and the most basic virtue of being a human being, and the most difficult thing about filial piety is "difficult!" "In the face of my hobbling parents, listening to them repeat their words over and over again, watching them do things that don't taste good for me, can I really be "pleasant and soft-spoken"? Non also! How to act in this current self is worth pondering!
Who is filial to the old man and waiting for the elderly? Who doesn't have the day to be old? Xiaoxiao's teacher said: "I think the reason why this problem exists is due to reincarnation, from birth, old age, illness and death. This problem is not a problem that only happens when society is aging, nor will it be that someone is older than me, and I will encounter this problem, but all life, if you are lucky enough to live to old age, will encounter this problem. So I think that this is not a problem that some human beings will encounter, this is a problem that all human beings who are lucky enough to live to old age will encounter, which is equivalent to the problem of everyone. ”
"So, we're not talking about a problem that some people are going to have, but we're coming together and talking about the problem that all of us are going to go through." So whose question is this number one? In fact, it is also your and my problem. Because of the concern for you and me, whether it is pain, happiness, how to deal with it, because of the attention to this problem in advance, then we will push ourselves and others. ”
When we really think, "I will also grow old, I will also get sick, I will also die...", can I still be indifferent to taking care of the elderly in the moment? Can I take care of whom more, and who takes care less, fight for you to die and me to live? I would also point to the old man's face and scold: "You are old and don't die"? Do I dare to act unscrupulously and arbitrarily? Don't dare!
The karmic results are real, let's see and do it! The world does not know that there is cause and effect, so why has cause and effect spared anyone?
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