♪ You are so special, how can I be disappointed ♫
Every day at 9:30 a.m., Sister Yi is waiting for you here
Text | Sister Yi (Zhou Guiyi) Ye Ziyao
Recently, there have been many new developments in Dou Jingtong.
I remembered that a cool girl with short hair and a neutral style for a long time after growing up began a new image of long hair.
Being on the cover of the fashion magazine "Wonderland" gives a different feeling.
During the past May Day holiday, he appeared at the Shanghai Strawberry Music Festival, and the live performance was exclaimed by netizens as "Dou Wei's typhoon, Faye Wong's voice".
That's a wonderful human gene.
Now Dou Jingtong, who looks slender and has long hair, when he takes a step and shakes his hand, he really feels more and more at ease with his mother.
Dou Jingtong, who was photographed at Fashion Week in Paris in 2022, is already very diva.
This spring, Dou Jingtong just released his first Chinese album "Spring Tour".
When the album's lead single "Monday" was first released a while ago, it was very refreshing, singing about love like orange juice and the tenderness of the sunset tram.
People like her songs, Dou Jingtong's music and image, synchronously updated everyone's impression of her.
The lyrics, songs, and music production of the new album are all her.
There's one song, "Fireworks," and I love its lyrics. It was like Dou Jingtong's shouting to his mother Faye Wong.
"Mom, I grow up, I will no longer be sad to leave all, no more accusations, fruitless love."
What touched me the most was that sentence:
"The most special gift my mother ever gave me was to teach me how to appreciate a rainbow."
The world often speculates whether Faye Wong is qualified as a mother. In fact, except for Dou Jingtong and Li Yan, others who come to define it are not qualified for this.
Living under the superstar aura of his parents and the repeated changes of his family, the former Dou Jingtong low-key cherishes words like gold.
Today, she is 26 years old, through music, completed the confession, light just like Faye Wong's style.
Dou Jingtong's growth trajectory is also very similar to the song that Faye Wong once sang to her - you can't learn badly, you can not be very well-behaved.
Dou Jingtong is not a "good" child in the traditional sense.
Li Yapeng asked for the opportunity to study at the prestigious Beijing No. 4 Middle School, but she stopped studying for a year. Don't like it, don't fit.
After interrupting his studies, he went to the United States to study music, and later, he did not graduate from music school in the United States.
Compared with other second generation stars, Dou Jingtong has never posted his resume, does not show off his wealth, and does not care, and will run to a coffee shop to work when he has time.
She has short hair, cuts her head, and dyed various non-mainstream hair colors;
She smokes, drinks and has multiple tattoos, including one that goes directly from her chin to her neck.
It seems that she is a "problem girl", but she is not a rebellious bad girl.
On the contrary, treat others with humility and courtesy.
Hong Kong media once used the emotional problems of her mother Faye Wong to "make things difficult", how many fathers do you have? Dou Wei, Li Yapeng or Nicholas Tse, which is the best?
Dou Jingtong smiled politely: "I really don't know. ”
Well, actually, like her mother's "what does it have to do with you", it's the same.
Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse got back together, and the media ran to ask Dou Jingtong how he felt. "My mom is just doing what she wants, as long as she's happy," she said. ”
Li Yapeng also said: "Tong Tong is a good boy who is very well-behaved, knows etiquette, and respects his elders." ”
Faye Wong divorced Li Yapeng, and she posted a message to support her mother.
Dou Wei was photographed riding the subway and was ridiculed, and she took the same subway photo to support her father.
In her, rare sincerity, open-mindedness and empathy are retained.
I recorded "Nice to Meet You" with Aya and Zhou Xun, which was themed "Death", exploring loss, farewell and the meaning of life.
Asked if you have been exposed to death?
Dou Jingtong nodded, wrapped himself in a large scarf again and was silent, hiding his choking.
About the fear of death?
Dou Jingtong said: "I am more afraid now than a year or two ago, but what I am afraid of is not death itself, but because I like the world more, I will be reluctant." ”
There's a link like a "bucket list", if you only have three months left in your life, what would you do?
Her answer was: "Live each day well and prepare for death." ”
Zhou Xun said that when her grandmother died, she was sad but couldn't cry, and a year later, Dou Jingtong still remembered that he took her to Chinese medicine to pat her on the back, and Zhou Xun's emotions were photographed, and the crying finally released the suppressed negative emotions.
In the show, she mentioned that if faced with death, she would leave her "legacy" to her sisters.
Yes, Dou Jingtong has two sisters who are related by blood, one is Dou Jiayu, the daughter of his father Dou Wei and Gao Yuan, and the other is Li Yan, the daughter of his mother Faye Wong and Li Yapeng.
Dou Jingtong has a good relationship with them.
When Li Yan was a child, Dou Jingtong took good care of her, and also wrote a song called "Lola" under Li Yan's English name - "Lola my dear, you are so cute, you don't need to change." ”
The first time she performed in her life, Li Yapeng and Li Yan went to the scene to call her.
Dou Jiayu debuted to make music, Dou Jingtong forwarded support, and the two sisters often dangled together.
In March this year, Dou Jiayu also posted photos and videos of the two, and was pointed out by sharp-eyed netizens whether the alley in the background was whether the two went to grandma's house together.
Dou Jingtong not only has a good relationship with his two sisters, but also has an ex-girlfriend with his aunt, ex-stepfather, ex-stepmother, and ex-stepfather... Both have a good relationship.
I don't think it's from "Ai Wu and Wu", but her temperature as an independent person.
Of course, the important thing is that there is also a mother-in-law proof. Faye Wong can celebrate Li Yan's birthday with Dou Jingtong's grandmother, and can also share the stage with Zhou Xun in her lifetime.
It is not that children from divorced families will be withdrawn, but children whose parental relationships are full of quarrels and hatred, and accusations against each other, will be withdrawn.
In the end, the child is a reproduction of her parents to some extent, whether she is nervous or relaxed about the world, first look at her parents, what kind of relationship they have become.
Li Yapeng's own ability is not evaluated, but as a father, a person who can gladly dance on the floor with his ex-wife is a kind of luck for children.
Comparing her to her parents is not necessary. Among ordinary people, the parents of Tsinghua Peking University, their children may not be Tsinghua Peking University; But the more parents have the choice, the more respect they must have for their children's choices.
In the matter of making music, the gene itself has given Dou Jingtong talent, and in this matter, she is free.
He formed his own band at the age of 14, wrote his first English original single at the age of 15, and has already released two English albums before Chinese album "Spring Tour".
Dou Jingtong does not have the nervousness of "fighting for breath", her own origin, she is very transparent and frank - "It is both a disadvantage and an advantage, and I don't feel that it is good not to be born in such a family." ”
She must have also had apprehension and confusion, after all, since birth, she has lived under the camera and is expected to grow up.
In "Fireworks" she revealed: "I was afraid of not being liked and accepted, wrapped up, and moved by myself. ”
This was probably her former fear.
Now 26, she said: "Mom, I've grown up. No more being surrounded and smiling at me. ”
This is her growth, slowly opening up freely and determinedly.
Dou Jingtong is not well-behaved, not bad, and does not need to live anyone's expectations.
Now she takes the initiative to share on social platforms, and opens herself more actively, no longer just used to wrapping herself in a thick scarf.
Her growth confirms the truth of family and parent-child relationships:
If a divorced family vs a miserable family, be sure to choose one. So, pick the previous one.
What a child needs is not a seemingly complete family, but a complete love that is not hypocritical and honest enough.
Parents who can show this love are, first of all, people who are honest with themselves and all relationships, and do not have to be "perfect people."
In front of me, the heart-warming interaction between the mother and daughter at the concert appeared.
Strip away the worldly definition, don't let the label kidnap, don't explain it to the viewer, return to the core of the emotion, only one thing is most important -
On the grounds of "you are the person I love the most", in this flower universe, we are ultimately independent individuals, to accompany each other, and to live the life we like.
This long chord of life, they sing tacitly: You are happy, so I am happy.
Yijie viewing group
The Yijie Viewing Group will organize a viewing of "Mother's Gift" at Zhuying Erdong Legendary Cinema (Langang Store) from 19:00 to 21:00 on May 7.
An Italian film based on real people and true events is a must-see movie for Mother's Day 2023.
Alyssa, a terminally ill mother, prepared 18 gifts for her soon-to-be-born daughter Anna.
As a result, the day of the daughter's birth is also the time of the mother's death. Opening gifts on her birthday every year has become a psychological pressure for Anna.
An 18-year-old girl is honest and rebellious, Anna runs away from home, but accidentally travels through time and meets her pregnant mother.
The mother and daughter began to get along in a wonderful way, and the mother and daughter, who had never met, connected with each other, had an adventure, and completed the daughter's understanding of the mother.
What is the best gift for mom?
Let's go to the movie to find the answer!