良好的亲子关系是教育的基础，这是一个被广泛认可的观点。
掌握这篇文章四个秘诀，帮助你建立良好的亲子关系。
First, know how to empathize
When communicating with children, we must know how to use "empathy".
What is empathy?
Empathy is to put yourself in the child's shoes and think about the problem.
Parents know how to empathize, and they can help their children find solutions to problems faster. It can make children feel respected and understood.
At the same time, children's emotions can also be effectively released, and parents can better guide their children's emotions.
For example, when a child is misunderstood by a classmate, if the parent says:
"Why is this happening? It's so worrying for me. "This kid is too weak, how can he be bullied by his classmates, these classmates bully people too much!"
And the correct expression of parents who know how to empathize is:
"You were misunderstood by your classmates, so you feel very uncomfortable and aggrieved in your heart, right? You'd love to be understood by your classmates, right? ”
In this way, the child can feel understood, and the emotions will be well guided and released.
Second, learn to trust
Loss of trust is one of the main causes of parent-child estrangement.
Therefore, parents need to believe that their children are good, honest, and conscious, and show this trust.
This can help children build self-confidence and self-esteem, which in turn promotes the development of parent-child relationships.
For example, when children come home from school and always play games, parents learn to communicate peacefully and avoid accusations. When the child promises to put down the game and complete the homework on time at the allotted time. Once you have reached a consensus with your child, you must fully trust your child and avoid doubt, suspicion and nagging.
When your child feels your trust, he will naturally try to be himself, so that his child will trust you more.
3. Communicate effectively
This is done not only to understand the child's emotions and thoughts, but also to help the child establish the right values and behavior patterns.
Parents need to put down the attitude of accusation, judgment and preaching, sincerely dialogue with their children, and stand in the child's position to understand the child's feelings and emotions, and warm the child's heart.
Effective dialogue is based on equal respect, and never treat children with words taught or admonished by superiors in the office, which are unequal and one-way.
On the surface, every sentence seems to make sense, but long-term such a conversation can easily make children form "habitual blurred hearing".
"Warm heart" represents a state in which the mind feels warm. Correspondingly, there is "sadistic heart", which represents the state of destroying the mind with brutal and ferocious means.
When communicating with children, parents and children should be warm and happy, not tormenting each other and suffering each other.
Children and parents do not understand, parent-child relationship is prone to estrangement, confrontation, and each other is uncomfortable. In this case, it is necessary to communicate with the child with emotions and let the child feel the love of his parents.
Effective communication needs to be built in a warm parent-child atmosphere, so that children can feel a sense of security, belonging, and value.
Don't focus all on your child
Educating children should be a process in which parents and children grow together, not at the expense of parents to achieve children.
Therefore, parents need to spend part of their energy and energy on understanding themselves, improving themselves, and handling the relationship with themselves in order to better deal with the relationship with their children.
Teach children in a way that is not as good as teaching by example, you must first learn to love yourself before loving others, and it is difficult for a person who does not know how to love himself to truly love others.
Finally, I want to say: establishing a good parent-child relationship is the foundation for educating children well.
In the process of parent-child communication, we need to pay attention to the emotional needs of children. Children need to be loved, recognized and supported by their parents so that a good parent-child relationship can be established.
When we pay attention to the emotional needs of children and let children feel our love, we can help children build self-confidence and self-esteem, promote the development of parent-child relationships, and achieve the goal of parents and children growing together.
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