Have you found that in recent years, adolescent problems have been frequent, children feel stressed, and parents are more stressed. It was as if education had suddenly become the hardest thing. Indeed, education is not easy, especially in today's society, where technology is developing so fast, children are exposed to foreign information that has increased dramatically, coupled with the temptation of various electronic products, and parents have to be busy with work. For a while, parents and children fall into a kind of confusion and two limits.
The author, Winnicott, is known as "the psychologist who knows children best", and is also a famous pediatrician and a master of child psychology. The understanding of the mother-infant relationship is meticulous, and he has an extraordinary empathy for children.
He has been in the business for more than 40 years and has healed tens of thousands of families. He is good at discovering the good in others, exploring the potential of each person, good at tolerance, and helping others meet the true needs of their hearts.
In this book, Winnicott distills the essential attributes of parenthood, guiding parents to correctly face their negative emotions in the process of educating their children, which is really a good medicine to relieve parents' anxiety. The author also tells us that to get rid of the idea of "right and wrong", only in babies can we learn about babies.
The book has a total of eleven chapters, starting with mental health education, telling us the meaning and value behind each behavior of children. Help us better understand children's psychology and thus carry out better education.
As we all know, it takes a lot of patience to educate children with children, and almost all parents will get bored at times. In the chapter "Parental boredom", teach us how to deal with the negative emotions of parenthood in a healthy and correct way. For many parents who want to be "perfect parents", Winnicott also gave advice and guidance. Parents want to give up this idea of perfection.
In the chapter "Security," the author tells parents that overprotection can make children feel miserable, but parents who make their children feel unreliable can also make children feel confused and fearful.
So security is not simply restraint and laissez-faire.
The author uses Lovelace's poem "The stone wall is not a prison, the iron cage is not a shackle" to illustrate that the mind often has an infinite breadth compared to the bound body. Freedom can trigger good things in your body. Certain beliefs must be established in every child's heart, and beliefs that are reliable, persistent, and repairable. Children can gain enough security.
Therefore, anyone who takes care of a child, must know about the child. Parenting must be based on a real and vivid relationship with the child. To help children build the right lasting sense of security, every child must go through these stages to eventually become a healthy adult. This process takes a long time to complete.
I am a full-time mother Fang Hao, with two treasures at home, professional with babies, part-time codeword. This book can help me get out of the anxiety of bringing a baby, although it is not clear whether I will be anxious again, after all, anxiety is not impossible. But at least when I finished reading this book, I was relieved to educate children.
Not only is it enlightening and instructive for parents, I personally think that this book has good reference value for kindergarten teachers, primary school teachers, pediatric medical staff, psychological counselors and other related professions.