Celebrity families also prefer sons?

It turned out that some of Ye Yiqian's previous remarks when participating in variety shows were turned over by netizens. According to the summary of netizens, including but not limited to "the son changed the name of the daughter after the birth, spit on the daughter's hatred of the younger brother, the brain supplement daughter will want to beat the younger brother to death" and so on.

These remarks were too surprising, Ye Yiqian suffered overwhelming criticism, for which Ye Yiqian had to explain and apologize.

She first apologized for her inappropriate remarks, which were inaccurate and easy to misunderstand. At the same time, he said that he loves the two children very much, treats them equally, and does not have any patriarchal behavior. She also explained that "my sister changed my name" and said that she believed that her child was very happy. I hope that the media will not ferment the topic and spread misunderstanding.

You can't blame netizens for being empty, many words are indeed said by Ye Yiqian in the show.

For example, the name of her daughter Tian Yucheng was indeed changed based on her son's name.

Sen Di's big name was Tian Xinyi when he was born, which was the name that Ye Yiqian carefully selected after thinking about the entire pregnancy,

Later, once she took Sen Di out and found that her daughter's name was the same as someone else's

At that time, the second eldest had already been born, and she found that her son's name was pronounced upside down and it sounded good, so she changed Tian Xinyi to Tian Yuorange, and the names of her younger brothers and sisters were matched.

Some people feel that since the name Tian Xinyi was thought of during a pregnancy, it means that it is very cautious when choosing this name, how can it be given up because there is a certain duplicate name?

Besides, the name "Chen Yu" is also very popular, and there are many duplicate names, why didn't I think about changing it?

"The daughter hates her brother" is also what she herself said on the show.

She feels that the couple has done a good job, and has "a bowl of water" for the two children.

But the daughter is still not satisfied,

Will compete with her brother for favor, what her brother does she will do, must be fair

My sister thinks that her younger brother is the most scheming person, and she always frames her and makes her parents scold her

So my sister is friendly to everyone else, but I hate my younger brother

My sister would think that if she didn't have a brother, her parents would only love her

She herself also made up for "sister beating her brother" in the show,

Ye Yiqian has said more than once that her daughter feels that she does not love herself and loves her brother even more

Because of same-sex repulsion and opposite-sex attraction, she will feel that she is a woman when she looks at her daughter, and she knows what "tricks" she is playing

Because of this, as long as she hears her brother say to her sister: "If you disobey your mother, you will come", no matter what she is doing, she will rush out and scold her daughter.

Judging from Sendi's performance, you can also see her mother's attitude towards her.

There is a scene in "Where Is Dad Going", during parent-child communication before going to bed, Tian Liang asks his daughter what you will do next time Wang Shiling's sister cries again.

Mori thought about it and said I would scold her

Tian Liang was surprised and asked her sister why she was scolding her when she cried.

Mori Di's answer was: Why am I crying, and my mother wants to scold me?

That is to say, when she cries, what awaits her is not her mother's empathy, but abuse. So what she learned is also to use scolding to treat others.

In another question-and-answer session, the village chief asked Mori if his father was murderous at home.

Sen Disc replied categorically: Not fierce.

Say: Mom is fierce.

In particular, the village chief asked Mori Di's mother how she was fierce and what it was like to be angry

Sen Di imitated her mother's evil voice and yelled at her: "Go, stand for me"

And what about Dad

He would comfort her that she was okay after being scolded and hug her

Sen Di's answer also confirmed Ye Yiqian's statement that she was indeed more fierce towards her daughter.

Whether there is a preference for sons in the family, Tian Liang has also said many times, he said that other people in the family, including the elderly, treat Sendi differently from his younger brother, because Sendi is a sister, and everyone naturally thinks that she should let her younger brother, and is very partial in daily life, Sendi is also hurt, because of this, he will be more kind to his daughter.

Ye Yiqian also expressed that Tian Liang put more attention and energy on Sen Di

Tian Liang even stated in the comics that he would buy more of the stationery box that Sen Di wanted, and if his brother wanted it, he would let him go to his sister to ask for it

It can be seen that although Ye Yiqian loves his brother a little more, Tian Liang will love his sister more.

The situation they face is also the most likely situation for second-child families. Many times, it is customary to think that siblings should love each other. In fact, there is also competition between siblings . .

If the older one is not psychologically mature enough, he will worry that his younger brother or sister will steal the care and love of his parents, and often bully the younger one because of jealousy.

And the small infancy is indeed more likely to attract the attention of parents, as they grow up day by day, they will also do their best to enjoy the love of their parents exclusively, and they will even deliberately tease their older siblings to be angry to attract their parents' attention

In this way, in front of parents, siblings are often like water and fire.

When the children are young, the parents themselves are not so mature, and they will also be emotional because they are too busy and hard to take care of the two children. When they are tired, parents also want to be understood by their children. The little one has to put in more energy at this time, and he doesn't understand things, and it is impossible to understand himself. Parents will pin their hopes on the big one, feeling that "you are older, you should be sensible, you should be obedient, you should understand the hard work of your parents"...,

Under such a psychology, parents will have more requirements for older children and are less in the mood to understand their children's thoughts. When they see the older child making the little one cry, it is easy for parents to blame the child and get angry with him, thinking: "Why don't you look like an older brother/sister at all?" ”

If this situation continues to develop, older children may experience regression, that is, a state of deterioration of ability. Just like the previous Sen Disc will ask to drink milk from a bottle like his younger brother, this is regression. Some children will also have the situation that they can already control urine and urinate, but suddenly pee their pants, or they already know how to eat but want adults to feed.

This is all a regression that children have in order to "compete for favors". They feel that by returning to this stage, they will be able to regain their parents' attention.

If parents can understand the competition between children, and understand that behind the competition of children is the desire to get the love of parents, they can treat their children with a more stable attitude. It can let children know that although they each cannot fully get the love of their parents, there is also a flow of love between them, and on the whole, the love they get is not less, but more

Parents have a stable mentality, can be more relaxed in the face of their children's problems, and can do their best to balance their children's relationships

Judging from Tian Liang's social dynamics, he should also be aware of this problem, try to be as flat as possible, and be as attentive as to his siblings.

He would praise his daughter

But he did not hesitate to affirm his son

Ye Yiqian should be the same, so she will now say that the two children are treasures, both are gifts from heaven, and she loves them very much.

It is not denied that when the children are young, their respective words and deeds may indeed bring certain harm to the two children. But all parents are imperfect, and there are all kinds of problems in the process of raising their children.

When parents are willing to grow and adjust their attitude towards their children, many of the scars in their children's growth will gradually be smoothed out.

Remember, happiness is the most important thing now.