Introduce yourself
Hi Hi,
I'm June Peach
Have worked as a financial accountant for more than ten years;
also set up a stall to sell pig's trotters during the second child with the baby;
Now Tab:
Stay-at-home mom of two girls.
Family Education Counselor,
Money Relations Consultant,
native family healer;
Diary master.
1. It took me a year to transition from a small accountant to a full-time knowledge payment, and achieved a threefold increase in income;
2. Through family education and the study of money relationship counselors, helping 100+ partners heal their relationship with money, and even the relationship with their original family, has received extreme praise.
3. Write more than 180 diaries, record life, record myself, record visits, and let me develop good habits.
I used to be an anxious student mother
Now I'm a happy "scumbag mom"
I have benefited from my studies, improved my family relationships, opened up money card points, and my vision is to help 100,000 people heal themselves, grow themselves, heal relationships, and enrich and joy from the inside out.
First, in the sixth grade of primary school, I took it upon myself to change my name
I was born in rural Hebei, my real name is Shengnan, this name was changed by myself when I was in the sixth grade of primary school, I only thought this name was cool, so I wanted to change the name, my mother did not object, so since I graduated from primary school, all the household registration books have been changed to this name.
I have two older sisters and a younger brother, I am the third oldest, and I had many nicknames when I was a child, such as "old slow", "sauce jar", "oil bottle", "old scar", probably black and ugly, and inconspicuous, and the work is not yet like ~~~ Summarized in one sentence "I look like I can't work if I eat a lot"
Mom is a very capable and sharp person, small but one person can do farm work.
Until now, at the age of seventy, he is still fierce, his work is unambiguous, and he can't look at people who grind.
Dad has low involvement in our education and communication. So since I was a child, I have been saying hello to my father and not talking much.
After graduating from college, in order to make my parents worry less, I married my partner as soon as I graduated, and I had nothing but a set of wedding photos that I requested. That set of wedding photos is also the most expensive thing I will have.
When the two are good, once they give birth to a baby, the tests are one after another.
I reproduced the model of the original family, where my husband hardly asked about family affairs and paid very little attention to children. At first, I didn't think there was any problem, until I gave birth to my second child, and it changed drastically.
(I didn't know at the time, I was the director of my life, everyone else was my actor, and all the scripts of my life were directed by myself.) I am the root and resource of everything, and it was only after two years of my study that I deeply realized its correctness and truth. ）
2. A female man who sells marinated meat 50 days after giving birth
I used to work as an accountant for ten years, and in 2018, I gave birth to my second son and started the life of a full-time mother.
My husband and I are both ordinary wage earners with average incomes, and the hours when we both work basically maintain a normal balance of income and expenditure. Since I didn't go to work, I began to make ends meet, and at that time, I had an extra baby to raise, and the pressure was even greater.
If you don't have an income, it's very uncomfortable to spend money, living expenses, children's training fees, food, drink, Lasa, mortgages, and a series of expenses, and anxiety is overwhelming.
At the age of 50 days after Erwa, I decided to start selling marinated pig's trotters, chicken feet, etc.
50 days, which is not an easy task for people who are less than 100 days after giving birth.
At that time, every morning at 5 o'clock, I immediately got up and went to the wholesale market to buy fresh ingredients, and when I came back, I started to prepare breakfast, while asking my first-grade sister to get up, urging me to eat, and packing up and sending it to school~
After sending off the boss in a hurry, he came back to start a series of preparations, burning pig hair over and over again, cleaning up the pig's trotters, and then using scissors to cut off the nails of the chicken feet one by one and wash them, a process that took about an hour. Often while cleaning up, I shouted with Erbao, who was lying on the floor outside to entertain himself, fortunately, Erbao was like an angel, often more well-behaved, and always let me finish the work smoothly, and then put on the pot~
At this time, there was time to eat, clean up the housework, and take care of the second eldest a series of eating, drinking, and Lasa.
At noon, the marinated meat was steamed, and I pushed my 50-day second girl and began to go downstairs to deliver it door to door...
Several times I met the grandmothers of the neighbors in the corridor, and they all looked at me distressed and said: No one to help you, you are too capable...
What about my dad?
He may habitually not use him, and he has no sense of existence, so he doesn't care about things at home.
He doesn't know, where to pay for water, electricity and gas, where to pay for property, he doesn't know how much living expenses he needs a month ...
He often works overtime, leaving early and returning late, either because he wants to make more money or because he is avoiding the status of no presence at home.
The more I did this, the more I felt that there was no temperature at home, and I worked so hard that no one could give warmth.
Because of this, I lived like a grudge. Self-aggrieved, but not asking for change.
(In fact, both people are for the better of the family, but the relationship gets worse when both put themselves in victim mode.)
Screenshot of the circle of friends at that time
Third, the heart is lacking, stepping on the pit one after another
Life is embarrassing, and the heart is lacking, so scarcity ensues.
In 2019, Er Bao was more than one year old, because of the stage of learning to walk, he could no longer leave the sight, and the marinated meat stopped. At this time, I encountered a liquidation platform, which was the period of decline of micro-merchants, so the platform also seized these flows, and the goods that micro-merchants could not sell could go to this platform to clear the goods, and the original price was returned within three months.
At that time, it was very hot, and everyone felt that this was an opportunity, so the purchase goods that were not cleared were also sent to the platform to clear the goods, take the return money, and wait to earn high rebates.
It can be imagined that a few months later, the platform thundered, and all the purchase money was lost.
After stepping on the pit, I did not realize the problem, at this time another friend recommended a project, saying that it was guaranteed to make money, all of which had been investigated and were absolutely reliable.
I simply believed it and started to follow along.
Unexpectedly, not long after, the platform thundered again...
That year the loss was more than 100,000...
(The Law of Attraction tells us that everything that the universe feeds back to us is attracted by ourselves, because I was extremely lacking in my heart at that time, so in this state, a succession of small pits and big potholes came to me.)
It was only later that I learned the Attraction Method that I realized that everything that happened was the call of my own energy. Everything happens for a reason, and what state you are in will attract what comes to you. All people and things are not for nothing)
Fourth, say goodbye to my full-time mother and return to the workplace
Finally survived until Xiaobao was 2 years old.
After saying goodbye to the days of Erbao peeing, I was full of expectations, and I decided that when she turned 2 years old in March, I would immediately send her to kindergarten, and I would be free.
The days when I took the baby and made stewed meat were physically and mentally exhausted, plus the loss of stepping on the pit, I was too eager to go to work.
Coincidentally, the epidemic came in 2020, and kindergartens could not open (at that time, I would not have thought that the epidemic would be a few years ago)
I thought that the epidemic would pass quickly, so this reason was not in my consideration, I just wanted to send my children to kindergarten, and I had no problem going to work. Just after the fifteenth day of the first month, I began to submit my resume to look for a job, but I didn't expect that just after sending my resume, a work unit within 2 kilometers nearby invited me for an interview, very smooth entry, happy!
At that time, her husband's unit had not yet resumed work, and after he took care of Erbao for a week, he also received a notice to resume work. I discussed with him to let my mother-in-law take care of him, and he silently agreed.
Because I was close to home, I left work every day at noon and had to rush home to cook.
After a short time, my mother-in-law began to nag every day to go back to her hometown, to bring the child back to her hometown, but I did not agree. There was a big fight and sent her away.
Since then, it has fallen into the embarrassing situation that Erbao has no one to bring. But I just looked for a job, and I really didn't want to give up like this, and it was hard to go to work. So I entrusted the baby's aunt to help us take it for a while, and when the epidemic situation was better, we could send it to the kindergarten.
We are all expecting the epidemic to stabilize soon, but three months have passed, and the epidemic has no intention of getting better.
Auntie can't help bring it anymore, what should I do!?
(Insert a photo of Xiaobao's first day in kindergarten, 2 years and 3 months)
Because when I sent my mother-in-law away and asked my husband what to do, he didn't say anything. I have to figure it out myself!
Thereupon----
My 9-year-old sister and my 2-year-old sister were at home, and I went to work as usual.
Every morning after cooking and letting the two sisters eat, I go out to work, and I hurry home at noon to take care of their lunch.
At that time, I often saw this scene when I went to work:
Often Erbao finished pooping in the small toilet, her sister was unwilling to help empty the toilet, the poop was smoked in the house for half a day, and when she came home from work, she could smell the stench that permeated the whole house...
Often Erbao, who is more than two years old, sleeps naked and sleeps on the floor naked;
Often when I return home, I see that the family has been tossed by the sisters and there is no place to go... Sofa cushions tossing and turning, snacking, writing boards, paper towels all over the floor...
(This is coming home from work one day, my sister wrote homework in online classes by herself, and my sister slept on the ground by herself, and I was full of sadness when I saw it)
Even once, they were blowing electric fans, the wires were aging and short-circuited, sparks appeared, scared my sister to call me, I was rushing home from work...
(Looking back now, how much my sister helped me back then, but I can't see it then...) ）
The pressures of life are not understood, and the sense of self-worth is low, so all the focus is shifted to children.
My eldest daughter, with good academic performance, can be described as "Xueba", most parents described the tutoring homework "chicken flying dog jump" days I have never experienced, because without my tutoring, she can complete all the learning tasks by herself and master it well. She knows all the knowledge points at one point, and full marks in science are also the norm.
She often participates in provincial and municipal competitions in some disciplines, and she also frequently wins awards.
She loves writing and has published many essays.
She was the first student in her grade to be rated as the third best student in the city, and so on, which can be regarded as a good time.
Since the third grade of primary school, I have paid super attention to the topic of choosing a school for junior high school, afraid that she will not be able to choose a good school with such good grades.
(When we value grades as particularly important and do not pay attention to the children themselves, this lays the groundwork for the subsequent events)
So my demands became higher and higher, and she was already very good, but I could no longer see the good in it, so quarrels became commonplace.
Even once after work at noon tore up her homework, felt that there was no need to pay attention to class, homework was not serious, hit her, watched her cry heartbreaking, curled up in the corner of the bed shivering, crying hysterically, I fell into panic and deep self-blame...
Once that year, I was so anxious that I often lost sleep, all kinds of emotional troubles, often broke down emotionally, and I thought I was going to be depressed.
Until now, there are still websites about depression that have been viewed in WeChat favorites over the years:
In this state, by chance, I started to study family education, and after studying for a year, I took the family education counselor.
(Learning is the only path to breakthrough and change, and the best path.) When I started investing in love, I found that I started to be different. But I still feel that something is missing... ）
5. Meet the Diary Planet and turn around
One day I had a phone call with a friend I had never met for 7 years, Ran Ran's mother, and chatted for more than an hour.
She asked me:
"How much have you realized after studying for so long?"
I was stunned for two minutes, and I asked myself in my heart, and the answer was: My paid learning is not for monetization, but just to improve relationships.
Yes, in order to improve the relationship, then what did I get a counselor for?
Monetization.
Make hay.
When I got this answer, I was suddenly enlightened.
I studied as a consultant in order to monetize, but I didn't realize it, which is also something I couldn't learn before.
(It wasn't until I learned the money relationship class a long time later that I learned that money is also an energy, and it will be very energy-consuming to learn only to learn without changing, and learning to realize knowledge is also a necessary means to increase energy)
I saw that my friend is writing a diary for half a year and growing tremendously, not only improving relationships, but also paying for knowledge by influencing others, and the side business income exceeds the main business several times... And I, for a long time, have been in the confusion of learning and not appearing...
That time, I decided to get involved~~
The place where I saw the light was called ---- Diary Planet.
(Hi the text, many of the above screenshots are actually the function of the diary, only to get that years later I can still find the records and detailed scenes at that time)
This time he returned and decided to participate in the "Whampoa Military Academy" known as the Diary Planet
In the first three days of joining the special combat team for the first time, I was still full of negative energy, the rhythm was not adaptable, my own reasons, the air was frightening, and I felt that I could not adapt anywhere, but the mentor, team leader and partners gave me a lot of warmth and strength.
At the beginning of the fourth day, I slowly adapted to the rhythm, began to get up early every day smoothly, began to actively complete homework, and began to face my problems openly...
At that moment, I felt my energy levels start up, UP.
I also deeply felt the joy in my heart.
At that moment, I decided to close the deal as a partner.
In that issue, Dad Yu was my team leader, calling me for an hour, chatting with me for a long time, and empowering me.
In that issue, Ranran's mother helped me overcome the difficulty of handing in my homework and tried not to delay my legs.
In that issue, Teacher Yunying's gentle and firm help, I still remember it clearly, and I am very grateful.
After that, I began to treat this diary culture business with 100% happiness in my heart.
Started to have the first order, the second order, the third order...
Jiajun is my first star baby, which means a lot to me.
She is an excellent teacher, and she has also experienced the darkest moments in life, from entrepreneurial failure to transformation to being a teacher, to diary planet, she found a special warmth in her heart.
I have many, many common learning experiences with her, from family education to digital psychology all the way, to diary star special combat team learning sales, breaking card points, learning live broadcasting, improving myself, to personal brand transformation...
Xiuya is my sixth star baby, the mother of the second treasure after 95, has not worked, the imprint of the original family, leaving a lot of hurt for herself, she married far away with two babies alone, unable to work with the palm up, the kind of difficulty can be imagined.
Before coming to the special combat team, I was always in confusion and could not find myself, I invited her several times, but she did not have the strength to learn to participate...
Until I participated in the special combat team, I saw that she began to shine and began to rise in energy, which is what a young woman should look like~ And the first time I participated, I won the prize money in the championship group...
Everyone is a diamond, but it shines differently.
For the rest of my life, I am willing to help like me, although the starting point is not high, but there are partners who dream of learning and love to learn, and meet the highest version of themselves.
For the first half of my life, I stepped on the pit.
In the face of her husband, I controlled myself in the bureau, wanted to control, and found that I had woven a net for myself, and the tighter the binding, I was very tired of living.
Without enough cognitive blind investment, the pit is stepping deeper and deeper;
Relationship with daughter is insoluble in fire and water...
So many experiences I conclude:
1. You can never make money outside of cognition;
Learning to raise awareness is the easiest way for us to make money;
2. Relationships need to learn to operate; And the most important thing in this relationship is the husband and wife relationship and the parent-child relationship;
3. If you want to change, you must change circles, get closer to excellent people, and get close to excellent to become excellent.
Making money cures all hypocrisy.
Your choices three years ago determined who you are now, and your decisions now will shape who you are three years from now.
I decided to go out and meet the people I deserved
In February 2023, Diary Planet Headquarters planned a lot of offline activities, and I suddenly wanted to participate.
On the 10th, I left for the Shenzhen Life Story Class.
3.15 went to participate in Wuyuan's rape flower tour.
3.17 went to a closed meeting of Diary Planet
3.18-3.19 is a two-day short video live class.
It's a lot to gain.
The main thing is that I met the mother calf who loved the big love.
If you just meet online, a lot of things are heard.
Meeting in person is a personal experience.
During the two days of play, the mother calf endured shoulder discomfort and personally took pictures of more than 30 trainees every place... Have you ever seen a founder take a picture of a student in person?
The temperature in Nanchang was very low, and the calf mother saw at a glance that I didn't bring thick clothes, and handed me the sweater to keep warm...
There were fifty students who went to the course, and the mother calf remembered everyone's names one by one...
At the end of the class, Maverick and Nanchang local partners prepared gifts for all the students...
Every bit, it's all details and warmth.
There is no pompousness, no distance, only truth, and the intimacy of returning to my mother's home.
After participating in the offline, you will be more determined:
Follow the right people, do the right things, this is a diary culture worth spreading for a lifetime.
The second from the left is me
I am Peach, native family healer, money relationship counselor, family education counselor, happiness coach.
I am a diary planet person, and I will write a lifetime diary for the rest of my life, and at the same time, I will use words to spread psychology to create wealth, and use the diary to link you and me to record all the things worth recording. I hope to grow up with more people like me who have a low starting point and are eager to change