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After entering the twenty-first century, transnational marriage has become a very common marriage phenomenon. For many Chinese men, especially those living on the border between the mainland and other countries, marriage with a foreign woman is conceivable.
However, it was under this trend that people began to notice how our men and women in different countries would live after marriage.
With the increasing number of cases of cross-marriage, people have formed an impression of women in different civilizations on this basis.
So is the real situation of international marriages what people think? Is "marrying a daughter-in-law" necessarily a good thing? Before that, let's take a look at how people have a previous impression of women in other countries.
People's imagination of exotic women
Since we all live in our own time and space, we are accustomed to "imagining" the world in other time and space according to the people and things we are familiar with. This is why different cultural backgrounds form different groups.
To take a simple example, if we look at the world from a simple "Eastern" and "Western" perspective, then we can roughly conclude that Eastern culture is more subtle and people are relatively more collective.
will adjust their behavior according to the distance of the relatives; Western culture is more direct, people attach relative importance to the individual and freedom, see everyone as part of a whole, and society as an organism.
Of course, with people's participation in the process of globalization, different cultures have begun to become more detailed and known globally, and women in different cultures are naturally part of this process.
Therefore, under this premise, from the perspective of Chinese men, they have roughly formed this view of women in other cultures: European and American women are more hot and unrestrained, and they are good at expressing their emotions.
Russian women are tall and tall, which is a good choice for love; Korean women are fashionable, and there are more traditional ideas under the modern exterior; Japanese women tend to be family-oriented, and even a large percentage tend to become housewives.
These contents are somewhat of a stereotype, first of all, there are differences in individuals in different cultural backgrounds, and it is impossible for women in a certain country to show the same state; Second, society is constantly developing and changing, perhaps the foreign country we have in our impression has undergone earth-shaking changes, just like Westerners view China; Most importantly, perhaps we don't know about women in other cultures at all.
Testimonial: Marital status with a Japanese woman
There was a Chinese man who had been married to a Japanese woman more than once. According to his description, we can roughly understand the difference between the Japanese women in our impression and the Japanese women in reality.
After graduating from university, the descriptor went to Japan to study, and after several years of study, he obtained a master's degree from the University of Tokyo, and then successfully settled in Japan, and began to work and live.
He also naturally married a Japanese woman as his wife, but who knew that after marriage, especially after having children, the contradictions and conflicts between the two people's personalities became more and more intense, one of the main reasons is that the Japanese wife spends a lot of money, and the income of the two people is completely unable to meet her consumption needs.
So the marriage of the two eventually came to an end, and soon after, the descriptor married another Japanese woman.
He originally thought that this marriage would be more successful than the previous one, but his wife still chose not to work after marriage, but to be a full-time wife at home, and like his first wife, he needed high expenses to satisfy his desire to consume.
In this way, the pressure of work and life made the descriptor feel miserable. Although his wife can take good care of the children at home and prepare meals for herself on time, the reality of his material life still makes him unable to withstand the pressure. In the end, the second marriage also ended in failure.
Think: The right marriage is best
In fact, whether it is marriage or social interaction, different cultural environments and education levels, and the mode of getting along will greatly affect the choices made by each other.
Marriage is naturally a major event in life, and many times, let alone a foreign country, even different parts of the province may have great differences in living habits.
The final state of marriage is to require the same while reserving differences, and the daily chores and life pressure after marriage will make the relationship between two people deteriorate, so the best state is to find a partner who can survive in the same cultural background as yourself, or at least achieve the same state of life, so that the subsequent life will not break the two people.
Real life is about firewood, rice, oil and salt, not just finding someone you like.
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Author | Tomida
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Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29)
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