An active and playful child, childhood is colorful and jumpy, and the future is full of infinite hope.
Author | Tomato Mom
Two days ago, I saw a piece of news.
Another teenager selected for Huawei's "Genius Program" was born.
His name is Ning Boyu, from the University of Electronic Science and Technology of China, and in last year's autumn recruitment, he stood out in the fierce job competition after more than a dozen rounds of interviews from Huawei.
At only 26 years old, he was happy to raise a million annual salary.
It is especially worth mentioning that Ning Boyu is completely different from the scholar in everyone's traditional impression.
Since he was a child, he has always loved to play and sports, especially street dance, high jumping, swimming and so on...
When he was in elementary school, he was fascinated by the popular "yo-yo" at that time, and also won the Chengdu Yo-Yo TV Championship;
In high school, he began to study the high jump, and also broke the 24-year high jump record of Chengdu No. 4 Middle School;
After attending university, he won many honors such as the National University of Singapore Street Dance Night Champion Award, the University of Electronic Science and Technology of China Men's High Jump Championship, and the Men's Breaststroke Championship.
Not only that, Ning Boyu is also a B station up owner, his videos range from digital product evaluation to travel records, from daily life to funny videos, and have accumulated 6 million views.
This "contrast" really subverts the public's stereotype of "Xueba".
In life, many playful and active children are always labeled by their parents as "not doing their jobs", worried that they will delay their studies.
After reading Ning Boyu's growth experience, I realized a truth:
Don't underestimate a playful and active child, because that's their strength.
The more active and playful a child is
The farther away from depression
A while ago, the "2022 National Depression Blue Book" was released and pointed out:
Depression accounts for 30% of the population under the age of 18, and 50% of those with depression are school students.
Among them, the prevalence of adolescent depression has reached 15%~20%, that is, 1 in every 5 children has depression.
Recently, a mother on the Internet broke the news that her son was in the second year of high school, there were 50 people in the class, and 29 took depressants.
I think of a boy in the "Liberation Daily" who took a break from school because of depression.
Every time he had an illness, he loved to go to the children's toy counter in the supermarket – his only happy memory, dating back to his early childhood.
Since my father took over the power of education, there was only one sentence on his lips: if you can't pass Tsinghua Peking University, you are social scum.
As a result, the boy's entire life was occupied by learning, and there was no breathing space.
Until before the middle school entrance examination, he finally completely collapsed: "I can't write a word anymore..."
Why do so many children suffer from mental illnesses such as depression now?
It is because there has never been a generation of children, like our children, who have endured such great academic pressure, such a heavy academic burden, and endured such a long period of physical exhaustion and mental beating.
But a child who loves to play and laugh, who loves to run and jump is different.
These activities can become their emotional outlets, divert attention, and replenish their inner energy in time.
No matter how big things happen, they will not be easily defeated, and they will always be full of confidence and vitality.
Xiaohui, the son of a colleague, has been unable to sit still since he was a child and likes to play football, run and other sports activities.
For this reason, colleagues did not complain: "How good it is to put your playful mind on learning." ”
As a result, in the year of the high school entrance examination, due to the impact of the epidemic, many students performed abnormally, but Xiaohui's mentality was not affected at all, and he also played beyond normal and was admitted to a key local middle school.
After entering high school, he was also selected for the school's soccer team, and he trained every day, which was very rich and fulfilling.
Now, he is a sophomore in high school, his grades have been steadily rising, and I heard that he was recently elected class president.
According to his words: the pressure of studying is very great now, but every day I go out to run and sweat, I always feel very happy, and I am more energetic to learn.
Scientific studies have shown that:
During exercise, the brain secretes neurochemicals such as dopamine to help eliminate fatigue, relieve stress, and make people feel happy.
Not only does it help get rid of negative emotions and make people become positive and optimistic, but it will also make people more energetic.
A child who often plays and exercises, his childhood is colorful, jumpy, full of vigorous vitality and sunshine.
They are more relaxed, cheerful and stronger internally than other children.
Active, playful children
are all potential top students
Have you found that those excellent students are basically not nerds.
Last year, the news that 14-year-old junior high school student Cheng Dahui was admitted to Tsinghua was all over the Internet.
He is not only the youngest undergraduate, but also exempted from the middle school entrance examination, college entrance examination, master's degree examination, and doctoral student examination, and directly becomes a doctoral student at Tsinghua University.
It is understood that Cheng Dahui is a "double master" in physics and mathematics, not only has won awards repeatedly, but also maintained the first place in his grade for many years in his comprehensive score.
Moreover, he never "reads to death" and has a wide range of interests:
He is one meter nine meters tall, loves to play basketball, and whenever he has time, he will go to the sports court and sweat.
He played the violin, played the harmonica, composed music, and once played the piano with his classmates at evening parties.
Not only that, he is also very "playful", he once made a model of a paper telescope, the style is exquisite, which attracted the admiration of his classmates.
Professor Li Meijin once said that children who can "play" tend to be better and have better academic performance.
Because during the game, the body will secrete more dopamine and serotonin.
These substances will make the child happy, but also make the brain work quickly, and be able to touch the bypass when learning.
Brain scientist Professor Hong Lan has also pointed out that there are three magic weapons to activate children's brain development: movement, reading and games.
In 2021, Zhang Hengyi, a 17-year-old girl from Chengdu, was admitted to Oxford University and got the only admission offer in the southwest region.
Talking about the secret of success, she confessed: "In fact, I am not a top student at all, I just love to play and explore." ”
When she first entered high school, Hengyi's grades were not top-notch, and in a class of 50 people, her grades were average.
Because she had to prepare for the college entrance examination and apply to study abroad, her entire high school freshman and sophomore year were under great pressure.
But in addition to her hard work, she also participated in various club activities, directing dramas, singing, playing guitar, etc.....
It was these extracurricular activities that relieved her stress and stimulated her self-confidence.
When she is not in a good state, she will also choose to play tennis with her parents to regulate herself and refocus.
As a result, she is particularly focused when she studies and is fully immersed once she starts.
Even the teacher commented:
"She may not be so talented at learning, but she is very strong among her peers, with dreams, focus, and a sense of purpose."
Parenting expert Wang Renping once bluntly said: the essence of children's learning is actually "play".
Children who can play have a higher concentration and a more active brain.
The whole study and life is relaxed, full of flexibility, and can continue to improve in a positive virtuous circle.
Every active and playful child is actually a potential student.
If you have a child like this in your family
Never hit him
Some time ago, a video of a little girl accusing her father of not letting herself play was on the hot search.
In the face of her father's pressure on her spare time, the girl in elementary school burst into tears:
"If I don't do something well, I can change it, but I need free time, I can't live without freedom. Just study!
Learning must be a combination of work and rest! I've finished my homework and done my own things, do I still have a problem playing?"
Dad's response was, "Then you can play, but you can't play for too long." ”
The girl was aggrieved:
"I went to bed at 9 o'clock, I can still play until midnight, do you see I played until midnight?"
Finally, the little girl said solemnly: "Please cherish our child's childhood!" ”
In fact, play is the innate nature of every child.
If you also have an active, playful child in your family, please do not hit him.
Because your blows and obstacles are likely to erase his childhood happiness and deprive him of the opportunity to stand out.
Parents who really have a big picture know how to give their children free space and allow them to play, run and jump.
Respect and support
Last year, Zhu Kehang from Zhejiang was on the hot search because he won the highest award for graduates of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, the Guo Moruo Scholarship.
Zhu Kehang has been lively and active since he was a child, from skating, skateboarding, Rubik's cube... By the Three Kingdoms Killing and the Four Kingdoms War in elementary school, there was nothing he didn't play.
His parents not only did not stop him, but also allowed him to invite a bunch of friends to play at home;
Finally, Zhu Kehang, who loves to play and study all the way, not only successfully entered the University of Science and Technology of China, but also won full prize direct doctoral offers from 9 famous schools when he graduated.
Zhu Kehang's parents are undoubtedly wise, and their respect and support not only give the child a happy childhood, but also give him free development space——
Let him be undistracted and move forward towards his goal.
Accompaniment and participation
There is a little boy named Ni Haoyang, although he is only 12 years old, he is already a well-known insect science blogger on the Internet.
Facing the camera, Haoyang introduced the insect in his hand like a few family treasures, telling about its family, life characteristics, and capture methods.
What touched me more than his erudition was the unconditional accompaniment and participation of Haoyang's parents.
Most of his videos are filmed and edited by his mother, which can not only record his son's daily life playing with insects, but also popularize knowledge to others and let more people understand insects.
When he has time, his parents will take him "to the mountains and wild picking" to look for and catch insects in the wild.
With the careful company of his parents, Haoyang became more confident and cheerful, with light in his eyes.
Behind a child with aura, there must be parents who "play" with him.
Parents "play" with their children not only deeply participate in their children's lives, but also take the opportunity to build a bridge between parents and children.
Guidance and planning
The kind of parents I admire the most not only allow their children to play, but also help their children play famously.
Su Yiming, who won the mainland's first snowboard Winter Olympic champion at the age of 17, went skiing with his father at the age of 4 and soon fell in love with snowboarding.
His father saw his love and talent, so he often took him to training.
Later, his father accidentally met Wang Lei, who was very famous in the snowboarding industry at that time, and the two hit it off, sending Su Yiming to the youth academy for professional training, and also opened his road to champions.
If there is no parents' broad vision and careful planning, children who will play no matter how talented they are, they may also be ignored.
Those children who can stand out in a certain field must be indispensable for the guidance and support of their parents.
"The Awakening of Parents" says:
"Every child has the potential to become an excellent person, but the parents' daily education methods give children a different life."
For parents, education should not only be a blind effort, but also a telepathy between parents and children.
It is to understand the needs of the child's heart, to give the child enough respect, and to be willing to do everything possible to provide a fertile soil for the child to take root and germinate freely.
An active and playful child is a "potential stock" in the future.
And being a wise, enlightened and far-sighted parent is not a child's luck in life.
Give it a thumbs up and wish our children to ride the wind and waves and live their wonderful lives under the watch of our love.
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