In 1914, 30-year-old Yan Xishan married 14-year-old Xu Lansen. On the night of the cave room, Yan Xishan said to her: "My beloved wife is Xu Zhuqing!" You are only responsible for giving birth! Unexpectedly, when he turned around, he threw Xu Zhuqing out of cloud nine.
Xu Zhuqing is a native of Dajian'an Village, Wutai County, Shanxi. Born in 1883, the same age as Yan Xishan, married into the Yan family in the year of 16, after becoming a couple, Xu Zhuqing went to the father-in-law Yan Shutang with her husband to take care of housework, which is also in order.
Xu Zhuqing
But there are unforeseen circumstances, the Yan family father and son failed to invest, owed a large amount of foreign debt, the two went to Taiyuan to avoid debts, the family only Xu Zhuqing and mother-in-law support, usually do some female red, needlework to maintain life, Xu Zhuqing also has to honor his mother-in-law, which makes Xu Zhuqing suffer a lot of hardship.
This situation continued until Yan Xishan was admitted to the Shanxi Wubei Academy, and he used his allowance to pay off part of his father's debts, until 1904, when he was admitted as a student studying in Japan to study military affairs, using the allowance money to help his father pay off his debts, and his father Yan Shutang no longer had to live a life of hiding from debts.
During this time, Xu Zhuqing and Yan Xishan have hardly been together, she supports the family's livelihood by herself and respects her in-laws, never complains, and the Yan family is very satisfied with her.
Fortunately, such days finally came to an end, and in 1909 Yan Xishan became an instructor of the New Army, and this was when the two of them had the opportunity to live together.
Yan Xishan
This is the sweetest time for Yan Xishan and Xu Zhuqing, and in the blink of an eye, several years have passed, the two have never had children, and Yan Xishan has never snubbed Xu Zhuqing because of this.
In the winter of 1913, Yan Xishan's grandfather Yan Qingyun fell ill in bed, and she and Yan Xishan returned to Hebian Village to visit.
Yan Qingyun only said one sentence: "In half a year, you will have a man and a half-woman, even if your grandfather dies, you will be relieved." ”
Xu Zhuqing listened to the heart was very uncomfortable, in order to find out the reason, both went to the hospital for examination, after the doctor's examination, Xu Zhuqing determined that she could not get pregnant, the two elders of the Yan family also began to be anxious, they immediately forced Yan Xishan to beg his little wife to inherit the lineage, Yan Xishan was afraid that Xu Zhuqing did not agree.
There was no way to find Xu Zhuqing's aunt Xu Cailing to persuade, she said to Xu Zhuqing, "Now Yan Xishan will not mess with you because of the child, and when he is older but does not have his own children, he will complain about you in the future." Xu Zhuqing reluctantly agreed after hearing this.
The Yan family also assured Xu Zhuqing that Xu Zhuqing was in charge of the big and small things in the family, and the child born to the concubine in the future would be called Xu Zhuqing's mother, and the biological mother would be called an aunt.
Soon, the Yan family bought back a 14-year-old girl surnamed Xu at a high price and renamed her Xu Lansen.
Xu Lansen
On December 1, 1914, Yan Xishan invited a few friends, had a meal together, and officially married each other. On the night of the cave room, Yan Xishan said to her: "My beloved wife is Xu Zhuqing!" You are only responsible for giving birth! Hearing this, Xu Lansen felt very uncomfortable, but he also nodded silently and said "Got it."
Xu Lansen was very contentious, soon became pregnant, but the three children born to the sky did not come to life, all died one after another, the Yan family was very anxious, Xu Zhuqing even rushed Yan Xishan to Xu Lansen's room at every opportunity, at first Yan Xishan was not willing to go, and after a long time, he became accustomed to it, and did not say anything.
During this period, Yan Xishan was afraid that Xu Zhuqing would not be happy in his heart, so he not only obeyed her, but also often asked her to attend some activities on his behalf, deliberately highlighting her.
Xu Zhuqing and Yan Xishan children
Over time, after Xu Lansen gave birth to his fifth son, Yan Xishan lived in Xu Lansen's house as long as his family was at home, and his relationship with Xu Lansen was getting better and better, and she gradually became estranged, and she secretly regretted that she should not have said to Yan Xishan that "as long as the Yan family has deep roots and full of children and grandchildren, she is willing to live alone".
Affected by the current situation, Yan Xishan took refuge in Dalian, took Xu Lansen and the children over, and left Xu Zhuqing to take care of his in-laws at home.
A year later, the situation was better, Yan Xishan returned to Taiyuan from Dalian, Xu Zhuqing was very happy, originally thought that he could live a two-person world with Yan Xishan, but did not expect that Xu Lansen with the child also followed back from Dalian, the father-in-law ordered his son to live with Xu Lansen and the child, leaving Xu Zhuqing aside, Xu Zhuqing became a redundant person at home.
Just at this time, Xu
Zhuqing found that several of Xu Lansen's children called Xu Lansen "mother", which was different from what he said at the beginning, and the more Xu Zhuqing thought about it, the more angry he became, so he went to Yan Xishan to understand.
At first, Yan Xishan didn't take it seriously, thinking that this was a trivial matter, so that Xu Zhuqing didn't have to worry about it, Xu Zhuqing thought that Yan Xishan was favoring Xu Lansen, and she was even more angry, she picked up something like crazy and smashed it at Yan Xishan, and the glass on the window was broken.
Yan Xishan saw that she was really angry, and the glass ballast on the ground was flying, and she was also angry, saying, "How can I call her 'Mom'?" Are you not afraid of jokes? ”
Xu Zhuqing waved his hands and smashed things and cried: "You are not afraid of jokes, who am I afraid of laughing?" ”
Yan Xishan saw this, and when he was angry, he lifted his hands and overturned the Eight Immortals table, and the teapot and tea bowl shattered.
This was the first time the two quarreled since they became a couple, because the movement was too large, which alarmed the in-laws, and the father-in-law Yan Shutang changed the rules again, so that the children called Xu Zhuqing 'Bo' and Xu Lansen 'Ma'.
Xu Zhuqing knew that this was her father-in-law favoring Xu Lansen, the more she thought about it, the more sad she was, more than ten years of paying for this family was not as great as the credit of having children, she was treated like this, she chose not to say goodbye, got on the car and returned to Taiyuan in a fit of anger, and since then, she and Yan Xishan have begun a separated life.
In 1933, Xu Zhuqing's mother died of illness, and in order to express his filial piety to his mother-in-law and his unchanging feelings for Xu Zhuqing, Yan Xishan made an exception to go to Jian'an three times to worship.
After that, although Xu Zhuqing and Yan Xishan did not reconcile, the two still separated, but the relationship eased compared with before.
In his later years, Yan Xishan died of a heart attack and Xu Zhuqing was always by Xu Zhuqing's side to take care of him.
Yan Xishan could do business without hesitation because he had a good wife to take care of the housework, and he would have been a model couple that everyone envied, but in that era of three wives and four concubines, because of the inheritance, Yan Xishan broke his original promise, and Xu Zhuqing left without hesitation.
In marriage, it is an ability to remain rational and sober, love others first, do not overly depend on others, respect others and themselves, and is a long-term solution.
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