01. "Rich" older children
Recently, Li Xiaopeng posted a video of Oli participating in the Hong Kong Figure Skating Open on social platforms.
Ollie game scene
In the video, the little girl is wearing a lake-blue gymnastics skirt, and her hair is neatly tied behind her head.
However, the first jump Ollie did not complete well and fell directly to the ground. But she did not cry because of the mistake, but immediately got up, adjusted her state, and successfully completed the second action.
Soon, #11-year-old Oli has long legs #rushed to Weibo hot search terms.
Many netizens sighed that time flies so fast, and the milk ball with long eyelashes and big eyes in my memory has grown into a little girl.
Many netizens shouted Li Xiaopeng and expressed their desire to "learn from him",
At that time, with the hit of "Daddy is Back", overwhelming controversy hit Ollie, who did not know the world.
The act of subconsciously avoiding strangers was maliciously interpreted as "rude", obviously a blessing of natural beauty, but was blackened into "pretending to be cute".
In order to keep the child away from the surveillance of the camera and the shackles of magnesium light, and create a free and quiet growth environment for her, Li Xiaopeng and his wife decided not to appear in front of the media public with Ollie.
But from the couple's Weibo, you can still glimpse Ollie's growth trajectory.
Wearing a Mickey hair card on his head, he looks well-behaved and cute.
Haggle with my mother over an ice cream, and you can enjoy it when you get a bite.
Loves sports and runs in the soccer field.
When he takes his younger brother out to play, he will take the initiative to play the role of a sister to take care of his younger brother.
The baptism of time did not take away the innocence in Ollie, she was still the eccentric little Ollie.
Seeing 11-year-old Ollie, I finally understood the true meaning of "rich and nourishing".
02. Love children, not spoil them
As parents, it is easy to show affection for your children, precisely because it is too easy, and sometimes it backfires.
It is clear that the child only needs 50 points of love, and the parents have to give 100 points directly.
Once the expressed love exceeds the child's needs, it becomes doting, which not only destroys the child's ability to be independent, but also is socially irresponsible.
Good education pays attention to just the right "affluence".
Neither love too little, let the child be insecure, lack self-confidence, nor love too much, let the child be conceited and do not know how to be grateful.
Li Xiaopeng's love for Ollie is like this.
She will be proud and excited about her daughter's first competition, and will bluntly criticize her for not training enough where she missed the competition.
As an Olympic champion in gymnastics, Li Xiaopeng understands the hardships of sports training. In the interview, he bluntly said that Ollie usually practices very hard and often wrestles.
But his heart hurts, he knows that if he wants to practice sports well, he can't be soft-hearted.
"The Courage to Teach Nothing" has this sentence: "The best way to educate is to be willing to "prick" a child when he is a child, and when he grows up, he will let go and give him wings." ”
I think so.
Guo Degang's parenting style has always been known for being strict.
When Guo Qilin was a child, he set rules for his daily life. For example, when elders and guests come to eat at home, people don't move their chopsticks, even if they are hungry, Guo Qilin can't move their chopsticks to eat first. You can eat, and you must eat first with the guests.
Guo Degang not only set strict requirements on him himself, but also did not allow the rest of the Deyun Society to be accustomed to Guo Qilin.
Every time he saw Guo Qilin's uncles and brothers spoiling him, Guo Degang would stop it in time and teach him a harsh lesson: "When others treat you well, they all look at my face." ”
In the year Guo Qilin came of age, Guo Degang wrote him a letter about the cold and dangerous world events.
Faced with the accusation that the content is pessimistic and not conducive to educating children, Guo Degang only responded lightly: "He is my own son, I can't lie to him." ”
In addition to this letter, Guo Degang also sent Guo Qilin a paragraph: "From today onwards, do what you want to do boldly, but the consequences are also borne by yourself." ”
Guo Degang's education method has been criticized by many netizens as engaging in feudal patriarchal autocracy.
But Guo Degang has his own understanding: when a child is young, rules should be set where rules should be made, and the content of the instructions should be understood, so that he can walk the rivers and lakes when he grows up.
Guo Qilin, who grew up under this "authoritarian education", did not disappoint.
Strong business ability, open crosstalk special session, everyone knows.
Shoot film and television, go on variety shows, and have a good reputation in the circle.
Guo Qilin stands on the shoulders of his fathers, but he can get rid of the shadow of his fathers, stand on his own, and live as himself. When the audience mentions Guo Qilin, they will not call him "Guo Degang's son", that is, the Guo Qilin who everyone loves.
The beloved son is far-reaching and the greatest wisdom of parents.
The child is young, strict and harsh, give him favorable rules; When the child is older, watch from afar, let him soar freely.
Such restraint of the instinct to give excessive love and maintain the calmness of strict education is the best look of "rich children".
03. High-quality companionship of parents is worth "ten thousand gold"
The biggest misunderstanding of the public about "rich and nourishing" is that it is equivalent to "throwing money at it".
As a result, parents spend all their time and energy trying to earn money and want to give their children a better material life.
As everyone knows, wealth is not simply material satisfaction, but the companionship of parents with heart and love.
Belle, another little guest of "Daddy is Back", also stopped appearing in the public eye after the end of the broadcast.
Looking at Lu Yi's Weibo, you will find that he is dutifully accompanying Belle to grow up.
Make cakes with your child on Mother's Day.
Outing.
See the exhibition.
The meaning of parents to children, he understood as follows: the existence of parents in children should not only provide children with a comfortable and prosperous life, but should become synonymous with strength, so that children can have courage when they think of their parents.
Therefore, Lu Yi attaches great importance to the companionship of children in the process of growth.
When filming, Belle will be brought to the crew, and Belle will be invited to read the script and play together after the break.
After seeing my daughter playing the guitar, I also bought one myself and sang with my daughter.
Lu Yi proudly said in front of the media that among all the roles he has played, the most satisfying is the role of dad.
Companionship is the confession of the longest love, and this sentence also applies in the field of education.
Remember Wang Yuheng in "The Strongest Brain" who accurately found the designated cup in 520 cups of water?
Not only is the brain configuration full, but it is also a proper "pet female mad demon".
In addition to working and doing what he loves, the rest of his time and energy is spent with his favorite daughter.
Accompany your daughter to read and carefully annotate the book.
Take her daughter to participate in public welfare activities, participate in the painting activities for children with autism and Down syndrome, and experience the difficulties of special groups firsthand.
His daughter playfully painted her name on the wall, and he did not reproach after seeing it, but squatted down to accompany his daughter to work on this wall.
There is a saying in the field of education: parents determine the height of their children's education.
The rich cultivation of parents' attentive companionship has planted the seeds of broadening their children's horizons, leading by example in the company, and subtly influencing their children.
Children raised in this way, of course, go further.
04. True prosperity is spiritual abundance
Will children who are rich with money grow up to be "arrogant and lascivious"?
This is not the case.
As a representative of "losing" parenting among celebrities, Li Xiang did his best to give Wang Shiling a good material life, but Wang Shiling was not "spoiled" as netizens worried.
In "Where Did Daddy Go", the room with the worst conditions was chosen, and there was no complaint, but to comfort my father that I liked it.
According to the arrangement of the program group, he found local villagers to borrow vegetables, quickly mingled with his grandparents, and when he left his grandfather's house who lived alone, he also told him like a little adult: "You have to be good at home." ”
Wang Yuelun's cooking skills are terrible, and he himself is difficult to swallow, but Wang Shiling can eat very well every time in order to maintain his father's self-esteem.
Mo Yan said: "Children's excellence is soaked with the sweat of their parents. ”
The reason why flowers are bright and beautiful is inseparable from daily watering. Behind those amazing and enviable achievements, parents are struggling to lift up.
When Wang Shiling was scolded for "having a good figure" and was ridiculed and attacked, Li Xiang encouraged her, praised her, and supported her. Firmly tell her that she will always be the most beautiful and excellent girl in her mother's heart.
Because of this, under the tilt of resources, Wang Shiling has not become pampered, but has been polishing herself.
Facing the camera, he can be confident and atmospheric, and he is not shocked.
The development of its own quality education is balanced, and his calligraphy and painting works have won many awards.
Parenting is what a person's soul looks like.
Even in the pampering and pampering, he can still maintain the modesty of dealing with others and the gentleness of his personality.
Some people may say that the money and resources for celebrities to raise children are really beyond the reach of us ordinary people. In fact, real wealth has nothing to do with financial resources.
In today's society, the material conditions are getting better and better, and education is falling into confusion.
The reason is that parents have suffered in childhood, so they are determined to make their children happy in childhood, and as a result, in the wrong wealth and nurturing, the child is raised into a giant baby.
Or raise the child "nest horizontally" and be righteous to the parents.
Either it is overprotective of the child and does not dare to let go, resulting in the child going against the business, and a small setback will complain.
In fact, the "rich" of wealth refers to spiritual abundance; It is the child's heart that is "raised".
True prosperity is to cultivate children's skills to make a living in society, to realize self-worth and independence in the process of growth, but also to have a heart that resists pressure and frustration, and to have the courage to not give up in Nirvana.
This is the best gift for children.
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