This is a very interesting question, ostensibly only related to when to have children, but behind it is also related to when to get married. Because many couples are basically preparing to have children after marriage.
Regarding the answer to this question, Jingdong boss "Big Hadron" once gave an example.
I remember that in 2018, when Liu Qiangdong was a guest on CCTV's "Let's Talk" program, a college student in the audience stood up to ask questions, and after chatting carefully, he found that the person was the child of his elementary school classmates, and instantly felt shocked, shouting "too early" and "too anxious" to alleviate the embarrassment.
Obviously, if you have a baby late, your classmate's children may be going to college, and your child has just been born.
In fact, this situation is also very common in today's society.
For example, I have a three-year-old child and a second child who is about to give birth, and many college or high school classmates are not married or have just married. This is how the generation of the hometown is given a difference!
This should be the biggest difference between having children early and having children later.
Let's go a little deeper.
Many people may think that there is no difference between giving birth early and giving birth later, anyway, they will eventually give birth, and they can't escape being "abused" by children.
But you think simply, the child may not see the difference when he is young, and when the child grows up, the difference will come out.
If you give birth at 25, by the age of 50, the child is already 25 years old. They work independently, and you can work without having to fight so hard. If the child is capable and filial, he may also be able to give you some pocket money.
But if you give birth at the age of 35, and at the age of 50, the child is only 15 years old, and he is still in junior high school, you are responsible for food, clothing, housing and transportation. Although your health is not as good as the year, you never dare to slack off at work, because you still have to work hard to earn money for your children.
A little ahead of the curve.
When you give birth at the age of 25, you are 60 years old, and when the child is 35 years old, the probability is that you have already started a family and grandchildren have been born. At this time, you should be able to enjoy the happiness of nature.
After retirement, you can learn some hobbies and spend your life with your grandchildren.
And when you give birth at the age of 35, when you are 60 years old, the child is only 25 years old, just established in society, influenced by you, it is likely to be early to get married and have children.
It may be another decade or eight years to have grandchildren, although you may be a little anxious about whether you will live that long. But at this time, there is no way, after all, they are all people who are about to meet Marx.
Be more specific.
The biggest difference between giving birth early and having children late should be physical factors.
1) When giving birth, if you give birth early, you have good physical fitness, fast recovery, and energy to bring a baby. But if you are born later, the body may not be able to do it, the recovery is slow, and the energy with the baby cannot keep up.
2) When the child becomes an adult, the early birth is still young, and the body is still tough, and he can enjoy the blessings of the child for a few more years. Those who are born later are old and infirm, and the children are old and young, and they cannot take care of both.
In addition, the benefits of early birth may also include: young parents can help bring up children, small generation gap with children, easier pregnancy, less risk of having children, etc.
Of course, late birth also has the advantage of late birth, many people will say that parents who have children late are more mature in mind, better in economic ability, and more stable in their relationship.
That being said, everything is about one degree.
I don't recommend that those who can't even feed themselves go to have children, wouldn't that make their lives worse? It is also irresponsible to children.
At the very least, there must be a job, and the income of a family that earns money by one person should be divided into 4 parts, two for the husband and wife, and the other two for the first and second children. If there is only one child, the other two incomes are added to the only child.
I also recommend that those friends with a good income have children early, not necessarily how exquisite living conditions, as long as they can feed their children relatively well, take care of food, clothing, housing and transportation, and can take some time to accompany them to grow up.
If I can reduce my living standards, such as housing costs are not too expensive, travel and entertainment costs are not too high, I think it will be better to have children early.
Finally, good news for friends who are worried about having children early, after having children, you may upgrade and fight monsters faster.
The so-called going to the peak of life and marrying Bai Fumei again, from the probability theory, the probability is very low.
For ordinary people, the difficulty of active change is much greater than the difficulty of passive change.
Many of my relatives and friends have become more motivated and motivated after having children. Just because the livelihood of several members of the family depends on them, they can't do it without working hard.
Before there are no children, one person is full, and the whole family is not hungry; After having a child, the child who is waiting to be fed means that there is no way back, only to move forward.
Before there are no children, work says rest and rest, don't want to make yourself too tired; After having children, every penny of milk powder money and diaper money is a reason why you must fight hard and cannot rest.
Before there are no children, career problems are delayed, as long as there is food to eat, do not want to move; After having children, it is estimated that the current job cannot support the family, and the change must be changed immediately without delay.
For many people, the difference between having children early and having children later is simply too great.
Having a child early seems to be a broken cauldron, forcing this young man to exert his greatest strength to work and make money. In the end, the probability is that the money has also been earned, and the ability has also been spelled out.
Giving birth late is a bit like boiling frogs in warm water, and although the current life is not good, it is passable, and it is easy to lose fighting spirit. When the real pressure comes, you may not be able to jump, and you can only passively accept the realistic arrangement.
Let's talk about two specific examples around you.
There is a cousin who was a skilled worker in a small city before marriage, with a monthly salary of 3000+. Later, I was going to get married and have a baby, and I had to change my career and become a small boss myself, and now I earn 10,000+ a month, or even more.
There is a friend, before marriage, he was a person who only made enough money to spend on himself, worked for three days to fish and dry nets for two days, and after getting married and having a baby, he began to work very hard. Now I have worked as a courier all month long, and everyone has fought hard for life.
They were both married around the age of 24 and had their first child at the age of 25.
From my personal perspective and what I have seen in my surroundings, it is because of having children and having to provide for their families that they work harder than before.
In the short term, they are under a lot of pressure. But in the long run, their future must be more promising than before.
As long as the marriage age is right, having children early is likely to be a better life choice.
When you are young, you may not feel bitter, and you may have survived. When you are older and bitter, the taste feels even more uncomfortable.
However, everyone's experience is different, and the things they pursue are different, so it's okay to have a baby at a time that suits you.
When to have children, you have to decide by yourself and be responsible for yourself.
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