On weekends, I heard the neighbor's mother-in-law and daughter-in-law arguing because his door was not closed, and I heard their conversation very earnestly. It turned out that when the mother-in-law took her two-year-old grandson out to play, the grandson brought back the toys of other children and refused to return them to the children. The daughter-in-law believes that this is a wrong practice, to let the child know that other people's things are not their own, and they cannot bring other people's things home. The mother-in-law believes that the child is still young and does not understand this, and will naturally know it in the future. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law argued for a long time, and finally the daughter-in-law took the child to send the toy back to the child.
Such examples are not uncommon, and many people think that what a child can know at such a young age will naturally know when he grows up.
We often hear old people say, "three years old to see the big, seven years old to see the old", which means that when a person is three years old, you can see his character and psychology, and when he is seven years old, he can see his development and achievements in adulthood. Some habits and ideologies developed in childhood will have a certain impact and imprint on the child's psychology, and once it forms part of the character, it will affect the child's life.
So how many older children are no longer "little children"?
Montessori, a well-known Italian preschool education expert, believes that 3 years old is a critical period for children's development, and 3 years old determines a child's life.
It can be seen that the age of 3 is an important stage in the growth of children.
Why is "0-3 years old" so important?
The age of 3 is a critical period for the formation of a person's character
Montessori said that "before the age of 3, they explore the world with their hearts, and after the age of 3, they begin to explore the world with their hands."
Montessori also proposed that children before the age of 3 are in the "psychological embryonic stage." The embryonic stage of the heart is a period when the infant forms various mental activities by unconsciously absorbing external stimuli. This is a process from scratch, and every external stimulus stimulates the development of various organs of the baby. After a lot of stimulation, the baby's psychology will produce different imprints, forming a later personality and quality.
Children aged 0-3 cannot receive foreign education, they are very self-aware and everything only follows their own hearts. They use their hearts to perceive the world, feel the people and things around them, although they can't speak, can't express their feelings, but their brains are growing rapidly. Before the age of 3, the child's brain development and intellectual development are developing rapidly. Studies have shown that the weight of the brain of a baby at birth is only 25% of that of an adult, and by the age of 3, the weight of the brain is basically that of an adult.
In this stage of rapid brain growth, the child learns a lot on his own: walking, talking, grasping things with his hands. They use their hearts to feel the changes in the world, the replacement and change of things around them.
Since the age of 3 is so important, what can parents do to help their children build a good foundation in life?
First of all, parents should encourage their children, support their children, and enhance their children's confidence.
Many parents of the post-80s and post-90s generation have inherited a lot of feudal ideas in China, believing that praise is bragging, praise will make children proud, they are very stingy to praise their children, even if deep down they agree with the results achieved by their children. As everyone knows, praise is a kind of recognition for children, it is an affirmation, and it plays a decisive role in the cultivation of children's self-confidence.
For a 3-year-old, parents are the world. The support of parents is affirmation and support from all over the world.
Second, respecting children can help children build self-esteem.
Some adults always think that children do not understand anything, and like to use various methods to tease children and deceive children in order to make themselves happy.
In fact, children over 1 year old have initially formed a sense of self, with a certain self-esteem, if you do not pay attention to protect the child's self-esteem, it will make the child lose self-esteem and do not cherish himself.
Treat children as if they were just like us, not as toys.
Again, be patient with your child.
The growth of a child is a long process, and a process from zero to something is a qualitative leap, and children experience this qualitative leap every day, which no adult can complete.
However, when adults are involved in the child's development, they will always show extreme restlessness. Worry that the child will not be able to speak, and let the child repeat some words every day; Worry that the child will not fall, so fix the child in the walker; Worried that the child will not have enough to eat, chasing after the child with a rice bowl to feed the child...
This excessive "concern" in adults is more of an impatience than love.
They always can't wait for the child's own growth, so they try to pull out the seedlings and help the growth, which will only ruin the child's normal growth law and speed, and make the child develop bad habits.
Finally, allow the child to shake hands with failure
Parents are always worried that their children will be frustrated, so they step up to clear all obstacles for their children. Children grow up in a greenhouse and don't know that the world is stormy. When the fortress of parents is weakened, the child is not even able to withstand the ordinary storm, let alone the storm.
We often see children who have just learned to walk, after falling again and again, will still continue to waddle forward; Children who have just learned to build "towers" with blocks do not give up because of the collapse of the tower, but continue to repeat them again and again.
Giving children the opportunity to contact setbacks, allowing children to grow up in failure, and cultivating children's tenacious character are of great significance for children's future growth.
In the development of children, parents play a role far greater than anyone else.
Every stage of life has its raison d'être. So each stage is not "gifted", it has its meaning.
Human life is like building a building, and the development before the age of 3 is like a foundation, because people do not have any memory of what happened before the age of 3, so it is easy to be ignored by many people like a foundation. But the fact is that this is a very important foundation and support point. Without a solid foundation, towering edifices would collapse with a bang; Without a good character foundation, no matter how good education is, children cannot go further.
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