#科学婚恋指南 #
Some time ago, Hong Kong veteran entertainment reporter Zhu Pi said that Zhou Xun and Chen Kun had quietly obtained their license and consummated their marriage in Tibet!
He said: The two have been to Tibet many times and have asked the master to help officiate the wedding at the Nianlong Monastery. After the news came out, the whole network boiled, and everyone happily said that these two people have been going around in circles for 24 years, and finally achieved the right result, congratulations!
What a match!
As a melon-eating mass, I also couldn't help but go to the Internet to read the relevant reports, and found that there were quite a lot of intimate photos of the two going to Tibet for a group photo, it can be seen that the rumors of the two going to Tibet are not fabricated, and the two in the airport photo together, Chen Kun put his arm around Zhou Xun's shoulders, helping to cover the reporter, wearing a casual Zhou Xun's lower abdomen is slightly convex, it seems that the news that she is pregnant on the Internet is also a little bit true, plus the two people who were pushed to the cusp did not come out to clarify, everyone thinks that this matter is true!
If it's just friends, this action is too intimate
Miraculously, almost no one expressed surprise and disgust at the news! They all sent their blessings.
But within two days, both parties came out to refute the rumors. First of all, Zhou Xun's official film friends association forwarded the Hong Kong media report, saying that the online report was purely a rumor, and Zhou Xun called it really outrageous! Then Chen Kun also refuted the rumor in the live broadcast: Zhou Xun is his diehard friend! The rumors on the Internet are all false!
Since the parties have refuted the rumors head-on, it seems to be an oolong, but why do I feel a little sorry for these two: how good it would be if this news was true!
Although Chen Kun and Zhou Xun have said that the two are best friends and cannot become lovers, it is good to listen to this kind of words, and opposite-sex friends are the easiest to upgrade to a relationship of lovers, because they have the most critical element in the intimate relationship between men and women: the relationship of friends.
In fact, there are not a few people in the entertainment industry who have risen from friends to couples, and the most famous of them are Huo Jianhua and Lin Xinru.
The two met and became friends when they cooperated in the TV series "Subway" in 2006, and later in 2010, Huo Jianhua specially starred in "The Imperial Princess of the World" produced by his friend Lin Xinru Studio, in which he played Liu Liancheng, and Lin Xinru's Ma Fuya has a lot of scenes of love and killing, perhaps because of the drama, the friendship between the two slowly changed, and since then the two have interacted frequently, and some media have photographed Huo Jianhua often visiting Lin Xinru and celebrating her birthday, so the scandal went away, Finally, the two announced their relationship on Weibo on May 20, 2016, and married in Bali on July 31, and their ten-year friendship was finally married.
In fact, during this ten years, they have had other romances, which are not love at first sight.
Lin Xinru's best 8 years gave Tang Jili, a well-known Hong Kong director who was 16 years older than her, and the two had a scandal when filming "Thunder Police" in 2000, and broke up after 8 years of low-key love; And as we all know, the old cadre Huo Jianhua and Chen Qiaoen fell in love, the two became a couple in 2003 in the idol drama "100% Gold", but because the two were just popular, the company banned love, Chen Qiaoen was miserably hidden, Huo Jianhua transferred to the mainland, the two then broke up, many years later, Huo Jianhua talked about the reason why the two broke up and said that Chen Qiaoen wanted too much, too sticky, and he only wanted a career at that time.
Unexpectedly, in 2012, Yu Ma's "Smiling Rivers and Lakes" pulled the two together again, and as a result, the drama caught fire, and the undefeated relationship between Ling Hu Chong and Dongfang also made the two have the tendency to rekindle their old relationship, but Huo Jianhua turned around and married Lin Xinru, it seems that the past is the past. Chen Qiaoen was also exposed to the news that Huo Jianhua was married late at night and bought drunk and cried, although I don't know whether it is true or not!
Why did Huo Jianhua finally choose Lin Xinru instead of Chen Qiaoen?
The order in which people appear is important!
The reason why Huolin's love can achieve positive results may be that the time is ripe, to the age when he wants to get married and settle down, and it just so happens that the relationship between the two for many years has come to fruition. And at the beginning, he and Chen Qiaoen were too young, they were in the golden stage of their career rise, the beautiful world had just opened for them, and the future was full of expectations, how could they be willing to stay for a relationship?
It's easy to see at first sight, and it's not hard to get tired of it for a long time!
In fact, even if Huo Chen is together, it is difficult to have a good result, which Huo Jianhua knows very well, which is why he did not choose Chen Qiaoen in the end.
He has long said that Chen Qiaoen is too dependent and clingy, which is probably similar to the heroine of the idol drama she plays. Girls who are too in love with the brain are easy to make men feel suffocated. They must not be very compatible, so the romance ends hastily, and the marriage is to be implemented into life.
Don't underestimate this. In reality, many couples can't communicate at all, quarrel together, and then have to part ways!
Yesterday, a netizen told me about his troubles, he didn't want to divorce, but his wife couldn't control his emotions, everything had to be pushed on his head, blindly accusing, like a child who didn't grow up, asking him to tolerate her like a father... He said that if this continues, I am afraid that I will only have to divorce.
In the end, whether it is a husband and wife, lovers or not, the basis of intimate relationships is friendship, friends can't do it, can you still expect the sky to last?
Another pair in the entertainment industry, Zhang Xinyi and Yuan Hong, also turned from friends to lovers. Zhang Xinyi had two relationships before Yuan Hong, and they were quite controversial.
Her first relationship existed as a third party's disgraceful identity. It was 2004 when she was still in college, because of the filming of the TV series "The Wind and Clouds Don't Move" met actor Wang Zhifei, the two quickly fell in love, but Wang Zhifei was married at that time, but in order to be with Zhang Xinyi, who was 16 years younger than him, he filed for divorce from his wife, but this mention was 3 years, until the marriage was divorced in 2007, and they could finally be together in good faith, but the relationship only lasted for 5 years, and in 2012, the two broke up.
Her second relationship was with the famous director Yang Shupeng, who married in 2013, but unfortunately the marriage lasted less than a year before it ended.
These two failed relationships made her feel deeply inferior, and she once said in an interview that even her father said that she was less expensive after the breakup.
She and Yuan Hong met in 2014 with "Princess of Relief". In October 2014, her mood fell into a trough after her divorce from Yang Shupeng, and Yuan Hong accompanied her as a friend, and later fell in love due to drama when the two collaborated again on "Through the Mystery".
When the two made their relationship public, it was no different from a big earthquake, and almost everyone thought that she was not worthy of Yuan Hong, but Yuan Hong firmly chose Zhang Xinyi and gave her all his preferences in this life. On May 30, 2016, the two held a wedding. It can be seen that true love can overcome thousands of obstacles.
Why is it so easy for friends of the opposite sex to become lovers? Here I would like to draw on the ideas of the writer Zhou Guoping:
In opposite-sex friendships, the role of the mysterious forces of sex is self-evident. The difference is only that this power is limited to a beneficial and harmless position by objective situations or subjective efforts, which can cover opposite-sex friendship with a warmth unprecedented in same-sex friendship, and do not arouse crazy possessiveness like love.
It can be seen that the existence of sex between friends of the opposite sex is undeniable, and the reason why a man and a woman can become friends among many people must be mutual attraction, and friendship is based on good feelings. So this is probably why many people say that confidantes of the opposite sex do not have pure friendship!
Unless it is not allowed by objective factors, such as both parties or one party is married or has a boyfriend/girlfriend, or one party has ideas, the other party does not fancy, the two through restraint, affection and courtesy, limiting this heterosexual friendship to a controllable range. In my opinion, as long as both sides are sensible enough, know how to measure and have a sense of boundaries, this friendship between men and women can be called pure friendship.
If the conditions are ripe, such as both parties have resumed singleness, or if one party has no intention of the other, and the two parties have a spark of love in the course of getting along, then the friend relationship may turn into a lover relationship. This kind of lover relationship can naturally be omitted because of the experience of getting along before, and because the two have similar temperaments, similar temperaments, common interests and common language, this relationship is more valuable, rarer, more stable and lasting than passionate relationships.
Have you found that from friends to lovers, marriages are relatively stable, such as the two couples mentioned above, and then Li Xiaoran and Xu Jianing, Xu Jianing has guarded Li Xiaoran for 16 years, the two have experienced ups and downs emotionally, Li Renran married him at the age of 39, and the two have been married for many years and are still in love! Xu Jianing spoiled her into a princess!
Psychological expert Li Meijin once said: It is best not to talk about the relationship between men and women first, try to be friends first! This is great advice. Many men and women go straight to the topic as soon as they come up, such as falling in love, rather playing hooligans under the guise of love! Doing what couples do without getting to know each other well, this is not love but desire!
Passionate love is the role of hormones, it comes and goes quickly, the joy of flesh and skin is the easiest to satisfy, and it is also the easiest to get greasy, and only the spiritual fit can last. This requires men and women to be friends before becoming lovers, which is why many people feel sorry for Zhou Xun and Chen Kun. They are obviously "ready for everything", only a little bit of fire!
But even if friends of the opposite sex cannot be partners, it is a gift from heaven that cannot be met.
As Ma Yili said: the longest relationship between men and women, not a lover relationship, is a friend relationship, the soul watch this relationship is longer, you look back, the person you like, there are two kinds, one is very similar to you, one is diametrically opposed to you, the part of the people you aspire to be, often, we will enter the marriage hall and form a family with people opposite us. And the person who resembles you has the potential to become a soul mate. Romantic relationships may fall apart one day, because the relationship is demanding, controlling, and possessive. Many relationships between men and women can finally transcend this layer, it is no longer a relationship attached to the love of men and women, it is a soul need for each other.