Netizens often ridicule that the best variety shows are always in the first season.
In 2021, when the first domestic marriage observation documentary show "Goodbye Lover" came out, word of mouth was a god.
At the end of 2022, "Goodbye Lover 2" was released, but the Douban score fell to 7.6 points.
Although the reputation of the second part is still of middle and upper quality in domestic variety shows, the content perception is fatigued because there are more horses caught by Song Ningfeng and Zhang Wanting and their husbands, and there are fewer problems and in-depth and diversified exploration.
Because of a slight disappointment in the stories of the guests in the second season, and because the influence of the first season is too strong, many netizens are more curious about the current situation of the three pairs of guests in the first part, and the derivative variety show "See Your Lover" came into being.
After a year, the program team refocused the camera on the guests of the first season, there were warmth, touching, and sighs, and the guests familiar to the audience seemed to have changed, but there were also some things that did not seem to have changed.
What has changed is the state of life and the choices.
When Guo Keyu first appeared in the first season, many viewers felt her "exhaustion".
Even if Guo Keyu has a very self-disciplined lifestyle and a fairly positive attitude, it can't hide her exhaustion, mentioning the impact of marriage on her career, and obviously there are pain points that her calm sister can't restrain herself.
But just after the show ended, the audience saw the law of "red qi raising people" from Guo Keyu, and the versatile sassy sister's career returned to the peak, and every appearance made people sigh with outstanding temperament.
In "See You Lover", in addition to retaining the transparency and calmness she once had, her personality is obviously much more cheerful, she can't hide her smile when communicating with Yang Di, and when she reunites with the two sisters, she is even sweeter from beginning to end, full of vitality.
For Guo Keyu, "Goodbye Lover" has brought her the biggest change, nothing more than a career breakthrough, in terms of feelings, she is a strong person inside, but in terms of life, she needs an opportunity to change.
The career impact of marriage and having children has made it difficult for Guo Keyu to reverse, and "Goodbye Lover" may not win the recognition of all audiences in terms of her emotional treatment, but it allows the audience to see her personality charm.
When Zhu Yaqiong and Wang Qiuyu first appeared in the first season, they once made the audience feel a headache, one was painful to not get her husband's spiritual response and support, and the other never understood what his wife was dissatisfied with.
For their marriage, some people think that Wang Qiuyu is in PUA Zhu Yaqiong, and some people think that it is the "little girl" Zhu Yaqiong who constantly "demonizes" with her husband's favor, and different audiences have different views.
But no matter which way of view, it is impossible to deny the heaviness of the marriage of these two guests.
They are together, presenting the effect of 1+1=-1, each other has not become better because of love and marriage, nor has they found a suitable rhythm of life in many years of marriage, but have left a steady stream of negative energy.
When the two finally chose to divorce firmly, many viewers strongly supported it, and a year after the official divorce, "See Your Lover Again" presented their mode of getting along after divorce, and many viewers felt sad in the barrage.
There are two main points of sadness.
First, everyone feels that there is still love between Wang Qiuyu and Zhu Yaqiong, and the two get along very harmoniously after divorce, meeting generously, talking and laughing, and retaining respect and care for each other, which can be called a model divorced couple in the entertainment industry.
Second, the audience feels that their children need to face the reality of their parents being separated is a little sad, and Wang Qiuyu's care and affection for the child when they get together, the image of the old father who is eager to wear, has inspired the empathy of many audiences.
However, putting aside the "sadness" that everyone thinks of to watch these two guests, you will find that both themselves and the rhythm of getting along between them are much better than when recording the first season of variety shows.
Zhu Yaqiong changed from a painful wife obsessed with her husband's understanding to a confident professional woman, her life before the divorce revolved around love, and after the divorce, she was surprised that she could actually produce more than 30 songs a year.
Once, she was in Wang Qiuyu's protection of the "little princess" in the castle, the other party felt that she was unable to face the wind and rain of the outside world, she also had doubts in this regard, but when she really went out, she found that she was actually very capable.
Love is protection, but sometimes, protection is not necessarily the best love.
The comfort zone is not a wrong choice, but if you are always in the "comfort zone" and are in painful doubt, you may wish to boldly jump out and take a look, maybe this so-called "comfort zone" is not your real comfort zone.
Zhu Yaqiong used reality to prove that her ex-husband once misjudged her ability, after Wang Qiuyu left his wife who loved him to the bone, did he become a sloppy middle-aged uncle who couldn't regret it? And it didn't.
Real life is not a Korean drama, no one can do without whom, leaving, sometimes can bring about change.
Wang Qiuyu, who once shouldered the heavy responsibility of the family, was completely immersed in work, and even found it difficult to separate his energy to communicate with his wife, and the self-digestion pressure and love expression he thought were like cold violence from another perspective.
But during the "Goodbye Lover" period, the audience saw Zhu Yaqiong's pain, and could also see Wang Qiuyu's "sorrow".
The kind of unrelieved worry that feels that he has obviously worked hard to maintain a family, but his life is getting worse and worse.
After the divorce, Wang Qiuyu could not be with his children all the time, but he was more able to express his love for his children more enthusiastically, and he obviously had further pursuit in life, rather than being completely kidnapped by work and low pressure emotions.
Zhu Yaqiong felt that he was more and more willing to "open" himself.
Other guests felt that he and Zhu Yaqiong were more "stretched", objectively speaking, the changes between the two in this regard are quite similar, they both enjoy life and live their lives more, rather than being dragged forward by life and marriage.
Tong Chenjie and Wei Wei, the first season made many viewers feel "uneasy" CP.
Many people don't understand why Tong Chenjie still chooses Wei Wei, who is alcoholic and emotionally unstable, thinking that he can't change, but after the variety show is over, the two are getting sweeter and getting along more and more comfortable.
Wei Wei's problems are indeed difficult to change, but looking at his performance from the audience's perspective, discovering his own problems and things he once ignored in his marriage from the audience's feedback, really brought him reflection.
However, Qi Yan feels that Wei Wei's biggest change is that his mood is much more stable, and he can discuss some problems in a peaceful state, instead of immediately saber rattling when encountering problems, trying to show his "power".
How important it is to have an emotionally stable partner in marriage, many people have discussed it on the Internet, Tong Chenjie's love for Wei Wei itself is very strong, solve the unstable emotions, the two naturally have more sweetness.
On the whole, except for Zhang Yu, who did not appear because of the Internet controversy, the current state of the other guests is developing in a good direction, whether it is divorce or sticking to marriage, their mode of getting along has improved too much.
However, there are beautiful changes among the guests, and there are some things that have not changed completely.
Many viewers who saw the happy interaction scene of Zhu Yaqiong and Wang Qiuyu's family of three called for the two to remarry, feeling that as long as they maintain their current mode of getting along, they can bring happier and "complete" families to their children.
Seven words do not think so, maybe one day the two of them will have a chance to get back together, but they still need further efforts from both parties to maintain the state at the time of divorce, because the differences in their concepts and personalities still exist.
For example, when Zhu Yaqiong expressed some ideas, Wang Qiuyu's habitual preaching, did the familiar taste return? There is no need for things, he will involuntarily stubbornly express.
This problem is precisely the root cause of the frequent contradictions in the marriage of the two, and the reason why the different concepts of the two parties after the divorce cannot form a depressive situation, in addition to the fact that the two have a peaceful mentality, but also because they are no longer husband and wife.
For a lover and for an ex, the appeal is different, and the expectations are also different.
From the "change" and "unchanged" of these guests, there is a lot to learn from the audience.
On the one hand, love and marriage are an important part of many people's lives, but it is more important to be yourself, and realizing self-worth is the root of life, to some extent, it can feed back love and marriage.
On the contrary, the negative emotions generated in feelings and marriage will become the core of life, making it difficult to break free.
On the other hand, love or family affection, when love is greater than pain, be brave to fly; When the pain is greater than love, bravely choose a new life, everyone can have different trade-offs for the ratio of love and pain, but they must be firm and clear.
Looking ahead, the most abrasive, doubtful and decisive let go, choose to move forward bravely, whether goodbye or not, can be the correct answer, has nothing to do with others, only responsible for yourself.