Recently saw a word, "intermittent apathy". In an instant, my heart was struck.
Yes? Is this what it says about me?
Lately, I have always felt weak and tired.
When you don't need to go out, you always want to stay at home, don't want to see people, don't want to talk.
I have a very good girlfriend who contacts me almost every two days.
It is usually a WeChat contact.
For example, if my girlfriend made something delicious today, she would take a few photos of the food and send it to me.
Ming'er, what beautiful clothes I bought, or where I traveled, I will also take many films and send them to me.
I always responded enthusiastically and praised her cooking skills and bourgeoisie.
Previously, in addition to WeChat contact, we would also boil telephone porridge, and each time we cooked telephone porridge, it took more than 60 minutes.
A few times, we lost track of time and actually boiled the porridge boiled on the gas stove.
In fact, there is nothing important to talk about between us, and the conversation is nothing more than some parents, mothers-in-law and mothers.
However, during this time, I suddenly felt very tired, and saying a few more words felt that it was a kind of consumption.
Suddenly, I don't want to pay attention to people!
My girlfriend bombarded me in WeChat and sent me various pictures. I'm too lazy to look and too lazy to respond.
My girlfriend thought something was wrong with me, and she called me to ask.
I perfunctorily said to my girlfriend, "The phone is muted" and "I haven't read WeChat in days."
The girlfriend said, "Oh, oh... It's okay if it's okay. ”
Since then, my girlfriend has still sent me various pictures on WeChat.
Sometimes I post a few pictures of clothes and ask me which one looks good? Sometimes I send me pots of flowers and ask which one should I buy?
Sometimes perfunctory replies, sometimes simply ignores.
I was really tired, all kinds of anxiety and stress.
There is no energy during the day. My children's schoolwork, work, and buying a house are all about making me feel easy.
I didn't sleep well at night, always waking up at 2 a.m., from the bedroom to the living room, sometimes lying down, sometimes sitting, tossing until dawn.
Then I realized that I was consuming myself internally, consuming myself.
I try to read and write, not cranky, and spend a lot of time studying.
It dawned on me that I had to heal myself.
To heal oneself, we must start with anti-internal attrition. It is necessary not only to counter internal consumption, but also to reject external consumption.
I muted my phone and my life to mute.
Stay away from those who consume me, including my girlfriends. Excessive warmth really consumes me too much.
I became cold.
In fact, this is a kind of protection for myself, a kind of health.
My girlfriend finally couldn't help it and ran to ask me why I ignored her!
I finally spoke my heart.
I think my girlfriend understands me.
I saw a friend on the Internet who said that he has been very busy and chaotic recently.
"My friend confided in me about my troubles, and I didn't feel anything when I saw it, and I always delayed replying."
"I don't want to receive any information anymore, I'm a little overwhelmed and just want to be alone."
After reading it, I feel that I have found my soulmate!
It turns out that there are many people like me.
It's not that we've become cold, it's that we're really tired. In this age of anxiety, everyone faces all kinds of stress. Just living is already very tiring, how can I have extra energy to empathize with others.
Hiding away when you're tired is not indifference, it's an instinctive protection of the self.
Last year, a well-known author was attacked online.
The work written by this author is quite trafficked, and of course it is very rewarding.
She couldn't help but post her earnings every day, and as a result, all kinds of doubts poured in from all directions.
Some say she's a false gain, someone says she doesn't have a level in what she writes.
Some people actually complained about her.
It's really popular!
In the face of all kinds of doubts and criticisms, the author fell silent. Maybe too young, not strong enough psychologically, vulnerable to injury.
She disappeared from everyone's sight for many days, and during the time she disappeared, calm returned to the Internet.
I went to her homepage again and again, and there was no update.
Maybe she's hiding somewhere, healing her wounds.
Maybe she's tired and needs a good rest.
Sure enough, after a while. She's back.
She still writes seriously, facing all kinds of doubts, not explaining, not reasoning.
She became cold and firm, and the knife could not be snatched.
I suddenly found that sometimes indifference is not only a protection for oneself, but also a kind of growth. When a person sees through human nature and lives more and more clearly, he will also become indifferent.
Back to the subject again, "intermittent apathy"
If you see a person and suddenly become indifferent, don't feel incredible.
A person suddenly becomes indifferent, probably because he has lived to understand that he may continue to be indifferent in the future.
If you see a person, hot and cold, don't feel weird.
Most likely because he is tired, he needs to be quiet, he needs to refuel himself.
They temporarily hide so as not to be consumed.
Usually after a while, it will stand in front of you full of energy.
People only deeply realize in middle age that intermittent indifference is a kind of protection for themselves. It is to recharge yourself and keep the energy from being consumed. People who are intermittently indifferent know how to loosen their emotions and know how to protect themselves.
Are you an intermittently apathetic person?
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