A child is addicted to mobile phones, and when he is addicted to the Internet and tired of school, it is like having a terminal illness, and he is hopeless? I thought about it repeatedly, but it is not. Think about it this way, drug addiction can be saved, let alone mobile phone addiction?
The crux of the matter is whether parents are willing to listen to the truth! Do they really dare to make up their minds?
In fact, children's changes are often completed in a short period of time in a year and a half, which catches parents off guard. The boys in my family went to primary school and the first year of junior high school according to the expected development, innocent and lively, although there was procrastination, things were messy, but under the supervision of parents, the academic performance has been hovering in the middle and upper reaches, and the exams are generally in the top ten of the class, but in the second year of junior high school, everything has changed!
Probably in the school environment, those bad, tempting, shouldn't do things can always spread very quickly, whether it is a good student or a bad student, these things have a fatal attraction to them, which is determined by the nature of adolescence, teenage children are not yet able to think about the direction of life, can not make the right judgment on the future, will only follow the heart to chase, mobile online games are only one of the directions, but also the most common situation.
In addition to mobile phones, children are indifferent to everything, and family affection is far worse than mobile phones!
After all, life is in the world, no one can accompany anyone for a lifetime, and parents should not have too much burden in their hearts, people's lives always have to pass slowly, and there will be several "epiphanies" in life , The period of completely changing oneself, some of the congenital can not be made up, and the day after tomorrow may catch up, but the process will be more difficult, stretching the timeline to life, you will find that not studying well during the student period is just a small episode in life.
But parents are still in line with the principle of early rescue, make some unremitting efforts, I have used 3 tricks so far, I can already see some effects, share with you.
First, there is no need to preach, directly put an end to the environment of all mobile phones
To this extent, preaching has no effect, the child understands everything, but he just doesn't do it, so the mobile phone should be smashed, confiscated and confiscated, and all the environment where he comes into contact with the mobile phone is eliminated, including grandparents picking up and dropping off, and any way to play with classmates.
2. Restrict going out and cut off his association with undesirable people
Children are basically taken bad, especially with some people with bad preferences, it is easy to be led astray, pull can not be pulled back, if the child asks to go out with whom, ask the name clearly, inquire about the situation, not good people will refuse them together.
3. If your ability allows, change the environment for your child
The learning environment may be difficult to change, but the family environment can still be changed, especially living in a large family of three generations of grandparents, it is easy to have problems, if conditions permit, rent a house separately outside, the more humble the better, the mother or father accompanies the study, and picks him up and drops him off from school, so that he can live in a new environment for a month, away from the mobile phone and the previous circle of friends.
- Lao Jing said -
Pity the hearts of parents all over the world, always break their hearts for their children, but they have not been reciprocated, they have not been understood, and some people joked: These children are owed by you in the previous life, and they are here to take revenge in this life. In any case, you must calm your mind, don't add fuel to the fire, don't exacerbate the conflict with the child too much, deal with things coldly, disagree, disapprove, do not assist, the child is emotional, you turn around and leave, you don't have to promise him anything, the attitude should be resolute, and the action should be gentle.
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