Hello everyone, I am a star brother said farmer, rural colloquialism is popular in the folk a saying, because the colloquial language from the working people, naturally with the dialect slang of various places, so that the people of the same village gathered together, suddenly appeared all the way to the colloquialism, everyone can understand, today we say a saying "male to forty must pay attention, more away from less than half of the people", what does it mean?
First, what is a half-man
"Half-man" refers to the woman who has lost her husband, that is, the widow, the ancients believe that the husband and the wife can be called husband and wife together, so it is called "union", and the loss of husband is like losing half, so the widow is called "half-man", the life of the woman who lost her husband is difficult, especially in the ancient era of male farming and female weaving, the personal life of widows is even worse, it is difficult to maintain family livelihood.
2. Men must pay attention to forty
As the saying goes, "forty is not confused", people have rich experience in forty years, they have their own views on the warmth and coldness of the world, loyalty and filial piety, honesty and righteousness, and they are no longer the ignorant teenagers before, they must be relaxed and measured, they cannot follow the clouds, follow the current, do things in a measured manner, at this time there are old, there are small ones, and they are the top pillars of the family, and they cannot try to be fast for a while, causing irreparable regret.
In ancient times, people to forty is a critical period of life, because the ancients seventy years old, forty years old, parents basically do not have much time, children should also start a family, this time the family can not have a slight change, and this time is also to establish prestige for children, to create prestige for themselves, some mistakes will be abandoned, so that parents, children face no light.
As the saying goes, "widows are not many in front of the door", in the same village, look up and do not look down, and widows also need others to help, such as field farming, house repair, etc., but even if they do things innocently, it is inevitable to fall into a suspicious head, especially rural people are noisy, biting the root of the tongue has always spread quickly, not only affecting the reputation, but also bringing a lot of troubles to their other half, light quarrels, heavy wives and children scattered, do not regret the beginning.
Third, more away from less than half of the people
This saying is not that people can rely more and leave less before forty, but no matter what time period, they can not get close to the "half of the people", but after forty years of age, they should pay more attention, people often say "often walk by the river where there are not wet shoes", maybe it was purely out of kindness, but after a long time, the taste may change, or how can there be "long-term love", or "confused".
Of course, "half of the people" is not unable to help, helpfulness is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, but when helping, take some means, such as shouting their own family or neighbors, friends, etc. to go together, so as to avoid individual embarrassment, but also to put an end to other people's gossip, which is also a kind of wisdom in life.
Fourth, does this saying still apply today?
Social development is too fast, before marriage is to marry love, now marriage is mostly to marry money, with the large number of peasants pouring into the city, the "mid-life crisis" that originally appeared in the city began to spread in the countryside, how many people are infected by separating the two places, forty years old and rich, each looking for their own happiness has become accustomed, but for happy families, it is better not to rely on "half people", so it is still applicable now.
In summary, the rural saying "men must pay attention to forty, more away from less rely on half of the people", is to warn men to forty years old, to control their lower body, less to provoke easy to provoke the place of right and wrong, especially to destroy the "color" of the family, only in this way, can make the family happy, after aging will not regret tears.