The age of 40 is an embarrassing age, because we can't be as dashing as the post-90s, can't be as successful as the post-70s, we have the old to filial piety at this age, there are small to raise, the pressure from family and work every day does make us feel tired, but do not shrink back our backing, at the same time, the lessons of the ancestors also let us take a lot of detours at the age of 40.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" Data-track="13" >What is a half-man? </h1>
Since I was a child, I have a deep understanding of half of the people, Grandma is 90 years old this year, although she is old but deaf and blind, the spirit is still vibrant, the only unfortunate thing in her life is that at the age of 31, Grandpa died of illness, Grandma became a single woman, and in the past there were many kinds of names for single women, this half of the people is one of the names, generally in North China.
In the past, rural people would have an inexplicable "antipathy" to women who lost their fathers, because in the past people thought that men were standing on top of the sky, if they were killed in the middle, then it must be the women around them who opposed it, so at that time, as long as there were men in the village who died, everyone would talk about the women around him behind his back, and at that time, people called the man's dead wife a widower, and when a woman died, some of them were called widows, and some were called half-edge people, which was also a title under the feudal system.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="5" > so why should men stay away from "half-man" when they are forty? </h1>
1, the half-man is considered to affect the fortunes
In the past rural areas, living conditions were very harsh, men became the only labor force, every day early up and late return, from the land to plane food, the purpose is to let the family survive, so men are the hope of the family, and at that time under the feudal ideology of the system, widowed women are half of the people have been treated unfriendly, thinking that they will affect the fortunes of the people around them, so the old people think that men in their prime, especially forty-year-old men, must stay away from the half- people, Otherwise, it will affect the men around it, and once it affects, it may affect a family, so the ancestors summed up this saying.
2, easy to affect family harmony
Although men are forty years old to the age of not confused, they have resistance to the outside flower world, but everyone should have heard of the "long-term love" thing, which is also a law summed up by the ancestors, if a forty-year-old man surrounds a widowed woman all day, even if the concentration is good, time will also produce some emotions, after all, people's hearts are long, and half of the people's lives are mainly lonely all day, once someone takes care of her, cares for her, I believe that one day the heart will be touched, Although we can't prevent such a thing from happening, the harm it brings does require us to be vigilant.
In the countryside, how many people are restless because of the restlessness of the men in the family, going out to find wildflowers and finally making a chicken and dog restless, and how many women try to get involved in other people's families because they can't bear to be lonely, and eventually lead to their own discredit, and cause harm to other people's families, these examples often occur around us, since we know its evil consequences, why don't we stay away, so the ancestors will summarize us early in addition to this saying, mainly to warn future generations of restlessness.
In general, "widows in front of the door is not much", since men have reached forty, they must take on the heavy responsibility of the family, away from those things, only family harmony, our career can go to a higher level, so the small farmers are also here to advise those who have passed the age of four, cherish the hard-won family harmony, do not indulge in those flowers and green worlds, after all, we still have a long way to go, one step wrong step at a time, we must grasp our own life path, what do you think?