Many young parents today want to have two children, and they want to have a son and a daughter, and they want their children to have a companion with each other, so that their children will not be helpless after their death; The second is to think that having a son and a daughter is complete.
Today's young parents have well-intentioned intentions, so there is rarely a preference for sons, and it is rare for older sisters to support younger brothers.
However, for the previous generation of parents, that is, the generation of parents of today's younger parents, many have a tendency to prefer sons. There are many such parents who cannot give their children good conditions, and they vainly try to sacrifice their daughters to fulfill their sons.
I don't know much about other places, but in our northern hometown, such families are very common. Many of them let their sisters go to junior high school and were not allowed to go to school, and then they worked to earn money to supplement the family, the focus was to earn money for their younger brothers to continue their education, and some parents even directly lost the burden of supporting their younger brothers to their sisters.
Some of the older sisters mentioned above are older than me, and some are the same age as me. Some of them accepted their parents' arrangement by default, and went to work to earn money to supplement the family very early; Some are reluctantly forced by their parents to drop out of school to work to earn money to supplement their families.
From another perspective, many of the younger brothers in these families are younger than me, and some are the same age as me. Among them, some of them can understand that it is not easy for their sisters, and when they grow up, they know how to be grateful and know how to repay their sisters; And some are pampered and arrogant, and with the support of their parents, they follow their parents to favor sons over daughters.
In the long run, the younger brother who knows how to be grateful will not only live well, but also have a good relationship with his sister. The younger brother, who does not know how to be grateful, will suffer sooner or later after the death of his parents.
The following two sisters are respectively spread out the two younger brothers mentioned above, and we will listen to their evaluation of their younger brothers.
Sister A:
Although I grew up knowing that my parents were somewhat patriarchal, I didn't understand when I was young, I only knew that my family's conditions were not very good, and my parents were not easy to provide for the education of my two children, so I was asked to go out to work after I finished junior high school.
At that time, I didn't think about opposing, I didn't think about unfairness, and I didn't think about my own future, I felt that my parents' arrangement made sense, and I didn't want to make my parents work too hard.
After that, my brother's tuition and living expenses were basically borne by me. At that time, I went out to work, and the salary was not high, which was equivalent to saying that I only kept enough for myself every month, and the rest was given to my family.
It went on like this until I got married and I realized that over the years, I had given too much for my family and received very little. Although I realized that it was unfair, there was no way, everything had already happened.
Fortunately, although the conditions of my husband and in-law's family are not good, the family is not bad. Although our life is dull, it is very reassuring, so I don't have to fight for anything, I think it's good to live a dull life like this.
I was synonymous with resignation, but my brother did not. He dragged on not to get married, and he kept trying to make money, until he gave me a house after making money, and then he began to think about his own marriage.
Although I still remember every bit of supporting my brother for many years, I never wanted to reciprocate, I only felt that as long as he was sensible. His gratitude and reciprocity moved me to tears. Although he is very good at making money, it is not so easy to give me a house. I am very satisfied, I feel that although I sacrificed a lot in the first half of my life, but I did not live in vain, my younger brother can be so sensible, and no matter how much I sacrifice, it is worth it.
Sister B:
There's a word called "white-eyed wolf," which is perfect to describe my brother.
Our family is two siblings, my parents prefer sons to daughters, in order to let my younger brother study, in order to make my younger brother live well, my parents let me drop out of school and work very early. Lip service to let me earn money to supplement the family, but actually let me earn money to support my younger brother.
If my brother grows up a little more sensible, even if he doesn't return anything to me, I will admit it. Sadly, the more he grew up, the more he became less sensible, and he had his parents to support him, he was pampered and arrogant, and he always tried to ask for money, and then his parents turned to me for money, so that I later got married, and was forced by my parents to support my younger brother.
In my eyes, my brother is a waste, an out-and-out "old gnawing clan", and I have vowed more than once that when my parents die one day, I will definitely break off the relationship with him.
After my father died, I couldn't cut ties with him as I wanted because my mother still doted on him and still asked me to support him. It wasn't until after my mother died that I got my wish and broke off with him.
My younger brother, who had been "gnawing at the old" for many years, finally suffered after the death of his parents. Because for a long time, he was so tired of hard work, he got used to getting without hard work, there was no old age to gnaw, I also cut off his financial resources, he can only count on himself, and at this time he has to face the cruelty of life.
I don't feel sorry for him at all, I have paid and sacrificed enough for him, it is impossible to support him for the rest of his life. For the rest of his life, let him fend for himself! He is not very old now, and if he is down-to-earth, there is still a possibility of getting better. And if he keeps breaking the jar, then let him go!
The two sisters and daughters above are victims of their parents' concept of "son preference". The previous sister, although the ending was not bad, the younger brother knew how to be grateful and gave her a suite, but these compensations could not make up for the loss of her first half of her life or when she was young, and she missed a lot of scenery when she was young because of her parents' preference for sons.
And the latter sister, the reason why she evaluated her brother like that, the reason why she was so indignant was because she was too unwilling and her heart was too unbalanced. She herself sacrificed so much because her parents preferred sons to daughters, and in the end her younger brother still lived like a waste, which would make her feel that she was not worth sacrificing so much before.
Although today's young parents rarely have the parental concept in the above case, they still need to pay attention to this problem, since they have two children, they must be responsible for both children. And it's important to remember:
There is a priority between parents and children, after all, parents come first, and then children.
Parents have children, not to say that do not pay anything to require children must return to you, must give you pension, you must first pay, first give children a good life, first raise children as adults, do their best to raise children well, so that when you are old, children will have enough ability and willingness to pay back, and the child's later contribution to parents is to pay to them before returning the parents.