When things go wrong, please be silent with kindness

There is a kind of stupidity called judging others.

Confucius said, "Do not look at incivility, do not listen to incivility, do not speak of incivility, and do not move if you are indecent." ”

Self-esteem is very high, and it is a malicious harm to easily judge others.

It is equivalent to pulling people down and then splitting their heads and covering their faces for a sermon. It seems to unearth a sense of superiority, but it is actually a manifestation of ignorance.

Just like hearing that someone goes to work at night and sleeps during the day, they secretly speculate that they are disdainful, but in fact, the other party is just a night caretaker.

Only by letting go of prejudice and putting an end to taking things out of context can we see the truth clearly and avoid hurting innocent people.

I've seen a story like this:

A middle-aged lady in her fifties and sixties, dressed up every day, perfume attacks people, talks loudly, and takes care of her sick husband.

Everyone was disgusted, always pointing fingers behind their backs, and the words were very difficult to hear.

Later, when her husband was discharged from the hospital, it was learned that it was not the lady who deliberately annoyed people, but that her husband was ill, and his eyes, nose and ears were not good.

She had to stand up to her grievances, wear gorgeous clothes, spray heavy perfume, and say loud words, so that her husband could see her, smell her, hear her, and avoid fear.

As the saying goes, a glimpse of the whole leopard. More often than not, "Peek and don't know the whole leopard." ”

Pretentious people, always too lazy to see the truth, look like they know everything, and forcibly intervene in the lives of others.

It is also necessary to discuss right and wrong, to give others a "hammer and nail" in their lives, thinking that they are qualified to be a judge.

As a result, as soon as the truth comes out, it is a small thing to show one's ignorance, and it is a big thing to bring indelible harm to people.

For other people's things, you can disagree with them, you can hate, but if you take yourself too seriously, you will still show your own stupidity.

A kind silence in the face of an incident is the highest upbringing of a person.