At the end of last year, 56-year-old Su Min was on the hot search for fleeing her family's self-driving tour.
Recently, she has been stationed on major social platforms to share videos she took on the road.
She called the months of her escape the "divorce cooling off period" and joined the Douban marriage and childbearing group.
She wants to see the scenery on the road, put her husband's provocations and oppression behind her, and calm down.
She had endured for too long before she ran away from home.
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Many people left messages under Su Min's video:
"I envy you can still drive, and we can't get out if we want to."
They are housewives in the traditional sense, scattered in different towns and villages.
Their family life has one thing in common:
It needs to be endured.
The film [Jeanne Dillmann] chronicles the three days of a housewife's daily routine.
You have to spend more than three hours gazing at her flowing mechanical life.
Make coffee, chop potatoes, brush shoes, cook, wash dishes, and entertain prostitutes.
A person is bored in a small enclosed apartment, shuttling between the kitchen, living room and bedroom.
Part of the shot of Jeanne Dillmann in front of the dinner table
Going out is just to send a letter to pick up, go shopping in a fixed store, and drink a cup of coffee in a fixed seat in a coffee shop.
She was like a set of procedures, carrying out everything seamlessly.
Push long and heavy time forward, cycle after cycle, expressionless.
This life is suffocating, expecting her to make destructive moves, such as spilling milk.
But none, and the variables in her life are only the smell of coffee, the brush of shoes, and the occupation of café seats.
It wasn't until the last ten minutes of the movie that Jeanne finally got out of control and stabbed the prostitute on the bed with scissors.
But her mood didn't fluctuate in the slightest, just sat at the dinner table for a few minutes.
It's like thinking,, I'll have to clean up the blood in a moment.
Calm despair, calm collapse.
A person's most painful expression is probably expressionless.
The movie just compresses three days into more than three hours, which makes people feel like needles and felts, and many housewives have to endure for decades.
Su Min endured such a life for more than 30 years.
In addition to the endless tedious chores, there is also the irony of the husband.
At first, she endured for her daughter, and then her daughter gave birth to a child, and then for her grandson.
She and her husband had long since become estranged from each other.
Two years before they got married, the chemical factory she worked in closed and she was temporarily a stay-at-home mom.
The husband counted into the cracks of the bones, and asked where each expense went before giving living expenses.
Later, Su Min worked herself to earn money, and the marriage between the two became "AA" style.
Once Su Min's mother was sick, she took her husband's medical insurance card to buy medicine, and the next day her husband changed the password.
They began sleeping in separate rooms after their daughter lived on campus.
The husband is overbearing and unreasonable, and likes to watch the news and sports on TV.
Hearing him enter the room and closing the door, Su Min has the right to use the sofa and TV to watch love TV series.
Later, when the daughter got married and lived at home, they could only share one room, so they bought bunk beds.
In daily life, her husband takes pleasure in suppressing her, and her grandson will also be provoked.
She was a grandson, and her husband said she was "poisonous" in her mouth.
She teased her grandson that "the baby is so black", and her husband retorted her that "how to talk, black spots are normal".
Su Min felt that she was not free to talk at home, and she was extremely depressed.
The husband has a temper tantrum, and before he gets angry, he will "stare at the eyes" and throw things and hit people.
Once, Su Min was angry and grabbed a stool to try to fight back.
She hesitated before moving and threw the stool to the side.
As a result, the stool was picked up by her husband and smashed into her back, hurting for several days.
She simply stopped resisting and tried not to speak in front of him.
"Living with him is stress, pressure, pressure."
In 2019, Su Min found moderate depression.
She has a blocked blood vessel in her brain and is either dizzy or headache every day.
At the worst time, she couldn't stop shedding tears at home and had to start taking medicine.
The Ta Kung Pao reported that 60% of housewives had developed depressive symptoms.
Without a family voice, health and emotional needs are ignored.
"No one hurts except the pain."
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Housewives are fed up and desperately need an outlet to escape from family life.
For example, Huang Yue, who was previously in the "fake Jin Dong" incident, "Jin Dong" on Douyin is her exit.
"Jin Dong" sang to her, praised her good, praised her beauty, praised her kindness.
"Jin Dong" also cares about her life, always booing and asking for warmth, inviting her to "co-shoot" with herself in Douyin.
Huang Yue actively interacted with "him", gave "him" praise and sent red hearts, and wished "him" good health and happiness every day.
She didn't like her husband and began to sleep with him.
When there was a quarrel, he especially wanted to throw his husband out and throw fruit at him.
When "Jin Dong" confessed to the world and asked her to meet in Changchun, she didn't even think about going.
Anyway, the children have grown up and left home, she has fulfilled her "mother's duties", what is she still waiting for at home?
For this meeting, she also deliberately controlled the amount of food and lost ten pounds.
Huang Yue's husband was completely panicked and contacted the TV station and the police station to tell her that she had been deceived.
Huang Yue did not want to pay attention to him, "Opposing or not opposing is not my business, I will leave if I want to go."
The exit that Su Min found was a self-driving travel experience shared by a blogger on the Internet.
She suddenly became enlightened, "There was such an option."
Su Min quickly had an idea, and when her grandson went to kindergarten, she drove off in her own little Polo car.
While she was a dedicated grandmother, she read the guide of self-driving travel on the Internet.
When you encounter the right outdoor equipment, put it in the Taobao shopping cart and stock it.
During the day she began to sneak videos - making chili sauce, rolling noodles, stir-frying...
If you post the video in the evening, you should save a little money for the road.
Unexpectedly, I encountered the new crown epidemic, the kindergarten enrollment was postponed, and even the door could not go out.
Su Min's husband was schadenfreude, "See if you can go out."
After a few months at home, things got better.
When her grandson started school, Su Min felt that her "task was accomplished."
It was time, and she hurried to place her order in the shopping cart.
Piece by piece of courier delivery to home, the husband was a little panicked.
As soon as Su Min left, there was no one to cook for him.
He first suppressed it as usual, saying that Su Min's money to buy the tent was "thrown away and it is a pity."
"In two days you won't be able to live, everything you do is fresh."
Seeing that the suppression was useless, he wanted to directly pull out the ETC card in the car, but was stopped by his son-in-law.
Su Min felt that her most difficult time had passed and she didn't want to wait any longer.
After stuffing the trunk, she set off.
Ah Kan thought of Rose, the mother of Mickey, the heroine of "The Great Mrs. Maisel".
Like Su Min, she also escaped from home happily and resolutely.
Rose abandoned her husband, who always ignored her, and moved to paris, where she was a teenager.
Her husband had thought she was just gambling, but he couldn't sit still when he found out that Rose hadn't been back for days.
He had to think hard about what Rose had said before he left, and an emergency phone call called his daughter home.
They found that Rose's wardrobe and drawers were empty, and the maid of the house was packing dishes for sending to Paris.
No one noticed the address Ross left on the message board before leaving.
Rose's husband said nothing and asked his daughter to pack her bags and go with him to Paris to get Rose back.
The father and daughter did not speak the same language, and stumbled to Ross's residence—
The attic of an old style apartment with very little furniture and broken chairs.
Rose's husband was furious:
"You're crazy, you've had enough, just pack up and go home with us when you're sorry."
He was used to yelling at his wife, and it sounded harsh to keep him.
Ross flatly refused.
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A look was most impressed when her daughter told Rose, "I miss you, Mom."
Rose replied to her ,"I miss myself too".
She misses herself, who has no "motherhood" status.
Not anyone's wife, not anyone's mother, not anyone's grandmother.
It's just herself as it is.
Film [Mr. and Mrs. Kramer]
Rose lived in the room she had in school in Paris, with only half a roof and a view of the sky.
She doesn't have to look at her husband's face, she can smoke a very heavy cigarette, and raise a small brown dachshund.
She loves rainy days in Paris because she can run through puddles on the road with a long-handled umbrella.
She can decide for herself what time to eat dinner and what dishes to eat for dinner.
Who cares when you eat?
In short, what do you want to do, the husband goes fucking.
She looked like someone else.
"I'm happy here," she said to her husband, who called her home.
Just like Selma, who is desperate with her little sisters, in [The End of the Road], yells at her husband:
"You're my husband, not my dad."
Outside, she unearthed the selma that had been lurking, drank, raced, and shot happily.
Get rid of a wild Texas cowboy.
On the right is Cellma
Su Min, who was on the road, also felt the happiness of a long absence.
Menstruation disappears from the body, and I am freed from the heavy chores and motherhood.
There was no chattering husband in the co-pilot, and she drove as far as she wanted every day.
Cooking does not have to consider the husband's light taste, you can put peppers into the pot and sweat until the tip of your nose.
Su Min cooks and eats on the way
The car drove to Qinling, and Su Min took eight or nine hours around the steep mountain road.
There were not many cars along the way, and there was heavy fog in the mountains.
But Su Min was not afraid at all, she only felt free.
She got out of the car halfway and took a small video and posted it to the family group.
"You see how steep this road is, how beautiful this mountain is."
No one responded to her, only her daughter reminding her to be safe.
After leaving the house, she and her husband had zero contact.
Only vaguely knew from her daughter that her husband had been ill two weeks before and went to the hospital for recuperation.
He had always had heart disease and high blood pressure, and was not in good health to toss around on the road like she did.
Thinking of this, Su Min felt that her husband was a little pitiful.
However, she has no intention of thinking about the future relationship, anyway, he is "just a decoration" in the marriage, which is dispensable.
After passing through the Qinling Mountains, she drove all the way south, running more than 7,000 kilometers.
She opened to more than 20 cities such as Chengdu, Kunming and Dali.
Su Min was alone with the car and slept in a tent on the roof of the car at night.
She said she "finally felt why so many men love cars so much."
Su Min, now 56, drove to Hainan to see Guanyin in the South China Sea and visited the seafood market.
The son-in-law originally wanted her to rush home before the New Year, but Su Min "didn't want to work for everyone."
She wanted to stay in Hainan for the New Year.
"I hope they have a good Spring Festival," Su Min said to the camera in the little Polo car.
Resources:
[1]. Sohu Polar Day. The 56-year-old woman is planning to "escape" the family for a year: her husband leaves the living room to watch TV dramas
[2]. Interface culture. The "Fake Jin Dong" incident: the neglected emotional needs and survival status of middle-aged and elderly women
Dr. Lilac. "61-year-old woman cheating on Jin Dong" is behind the neglected life of rural women
[4]. Ta Kung Pao. Survey: 60% of housewives suffer from depression