At the end of the last season of "SpitTing Conference", Xiao Yaxuan and her 16-year-old boyfriend Huang Hao were invited as guests.
41-year-old Xiao Yaxuan, although she has been popular as an artist, as a "mediocre little genius in love", she is still recognized by netizens as a "fresh meat harvester".
Although Xiao Yaxuan is a love expert, today I want to introduce you to a love god. After watching her love experience, you will find that Xiao Yaxuan is really just a sister in front of her!
She was the French literary magnate, Margaret Duras.
The first time I knew Duras was because of Wang Xiaobo. Wang Xiaobo admired Duras very much, and he was also one of the most frequently mentioned foreign authors.
Duras has two novels that are very famous. One is "Lover" and the other is "Love in Hiroshima". Both novels have also been remade, and of course, the film is also famous, both of which have won international awards.
If you have seen Duras's novels, or seen remade films, you may find that there are always bold erotic depictions in Duras's books ( in the films ) .
In fact, regarding lust, Duras is very frank in both her work and life, and only Duras can do this among female writers, because it is related to her own special experience.
Margaret Duras was born in Saigon, French India, where her father died prematurely, her mother Poreno (Cambodia) was a teacher at a local primary school, and she had two older brothers, and her childhood was not very happy.
Because the mother only loves her eldest son, she often speaks harshly to the younger son and daughter, and even fights with her big hand.
In this way, the little brothers and sisters who are not welcomed by their mothers can only rely on each other. Duras was very fond of her second brother, who was three years older than her, because he protected her at every turn and was her faithful patron saint.
When Duras was seven or eight years old, she had her first time with her second brother... Well, that's the first time.
After this matter was discovered by the eldest brother, he beat the second brother fiercely. Since then, her unrequited love affair with her second brother has come to an end.
When Duras was 16 years old, she took a boat to a boarding school in Saigon, and on the ferry across the Mekong River, a rich boy from northern China took the initiative to talk to her, and this person was Duras's real first lover - Li Yuntai.
Li Yuntai and Duras began to meet frantically from then on.
Li Yuntai was exactly 12 years old, the son of a wealthy Chinese businessman, personable, handsome, affectionate and rich, full of male charm. But these are far less attractive to Duras than Li Yuntai's "money" in duras' eyes.
She needs money to treat her sick mother, to entertain her shameless big brother, to change this impoverished predicament for the whole family.
Their relationship is not pure love, but more like a relationship between captivity and being nurtured. Li Yuntai knew that Duras wanted money, but he didn't care about it. He was deeply trapped in Eduras's inability to extricate himself.
More than two years later, Li Yuntai wanted to marry Duras, but his parents did not approve of the marriage. They think foreign women are unreliable.
In order to cut off their love affair, they found a girl for Li Yuntai in their hometown fushun and hurriedly handled the marriage.
Duras was also forced to leave Li Yuntai because he wanted to return to France for further study.
According to Duras's recollection, on the day she was leaving, Li Yuntai also secretly rushed to the dock to see her off. He did not dare to come closer, but hid behind the lamppost and watched Duras leave.
You would be sorely mistaken to think that Duras is only remembered because of his youthful beauty.
In 1971, at the age of 57, Duras received a phone call from Li Yuntai.
On the phone, he said to Duras in a trembling voice:
He still loved her as he had in the past, and he couldn't stop loving her. He loved her until death.
In the course of their friendship, Duras never said "love" to Li Yuntai. And she not only made this man fall in love with herself, but also made this man love herself for a lifetime.
In this realm of love, you can't accept it.
In the "Lover" movie, Liang Jiahui's prototype is Li Yuntai. During the filming, Duras, who is already 70 years old, also praised Liang Jiahui's ass as "round and sexy".
You may think of her as a "female rogue," but her definition of herself is:
"If I hadn't been a writer, I would have been a prostitute."
At the age of 18, Duras became more and more brilliant, and after returning to Paris, he continued to have a romantic history in the university.
Duras and her husband (right) and Dioni (left)
After finishing college, she married a man named Robert. But soon after, she met another beautiful man, Diony, who became another lover of hers.
Duras also introduced Diony to her husband, and the relationship between the three became clear.
As for how Duras did it, we don't know, but it can be seen that she really lets men break taboos for him.
Later, the war of World War II burned to Paris, and she and her husband were separated, although they were reunited again, but the gap was born, and soon after the two were separated.
And the ten-year relationship with his lover Diony also came to an end at this time.
Duras's lovers behind her alone are constant, and she herself has said that she has had countless lovers in her life. Even at 66, she can make a 27-year-old man crazy for him.
Andrea and Duras
Jan Andrea is a reader of Duras. In 1975, Duras attended a seminar in Cannes, after which Andrea took out "Destroy It, She Says" and asked for an autograph.
He said, "I want to write to you. ”
Duras not only gave him his address in Paris, but also said to him, "You can write to me at this address." ”
From the next day on, the young man who had read "The Pony Herds of Taginia" and liked her work madly began to write letters to Duras, and for 5 years, almost every day.
But Duras never replied.
When Andrea gave up writing, one day he suddenly received a letter from Duras.
In the letter, Duras did not ask the other party why he did not write the letter again, nor did he care about the recent life situation of the other party. Just say:
I was in the hospital for a while because of my alcoholism, and I don't know why I drank to this extent.
Not long after, Andrea called Duras to see her, but Duras refused. She said she had a job and didn't like to make new friends.
How could Andrea, who had seen hope so easily, give up so easily? He continued to call, she didn't answer, he just called every day.
(Friends, what is a push-pull master, this is ah!) ）
Duras finally answered Andrea's call after returning from a movie in Italy, but this time she didn't insist on asking him to come the next day.
Duras was waiting on the balcony for Andrea, and she saw the young man coming. He knocked on the door, duras didn't answer, he shouted, "It's me, Jan," and she waited a while before she made up her mind to open the door.
They hugged and talked until late at night.
Duras said to him, "Don't spend money on hotels, and everywhere is full." My son's room was empty. He's not there, you can sleep there. ”
He stayed. This remained for 16 years until Duras's death.
This story is not the best at this point, the wonderful thing is that Andrea is actually a gay man.
Yes, she straightened out a young gay man almost 70 years old!!!
In his later years, Duras was bedridden, and Andrea still did not abandon him. He washed her back, fed her spoonfuls, changed the sheets for her incontinence...
After Duras' death, Andrea locked herself up for two years. He also wrote a book for her, "To Duras— The Sour Plum Tree."
The text recalls Duras' last circumstances before his death:
"This day is in your room, in your bed. Not lying down, not sitting upright, on the bed by the door, saying these words clearly: 'I love you, goodbye.' ’”
(Cow X's love is simply a ghost that doesn't let you go.) ）
Once, I thought that the longest love was to grow old, and after learning about Duras, I understood:
If love has time, as long as one of them does not die, love can continue forever.
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From the beginning of the love sinus to the dying old age, we have been dealing with the word "love" all our lives. Welcome to #Love Trivia, let's talk about those things about feelings.