The following is a text version of the video of the watermelon of the same name of the forgotten fish scale
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When the incumbent mentions your ex to you, what is going on in your mind? A friend asked me one day and said that his current staff always liked to talk to him about his ex. Sometimes it feels a little awkward to say too much, and then I ask him how do you cope? He said he would deal with the past, but if the other party asked about me, I would never mention it, and I would say that I had forgotten.
I said, in fact, people mention to you the ex, the psychological needs of the bottom, is to hope that this time everyone can do better than the last time. It is the fear that the intersection produced together will not be able to cover the memories of the past.
In fact, the number of loves is not necessarily good, because the cost of memory coverage is higher, and two people get along and finally leave a bunch of memories, the generation of memories, forgetting and alternating, or being covered. It is a process of weaving memories, and memories construct a self that can be explained.
So the coverage of memory can not be filled, people will suffer, this is the book we are going to talk about today called "Hiroshima Love".
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We will always be aliases of the past
"Love of Hiroshima" is a film script by Duras, telling the story of a French woman and a German man in Neville fell in love, in the war years they were in, people were first divided according to nationality, therefore, such love must face bankruptcy, so their love ignited a fierce mushroom cloud, but also ushered in the execution of lovers, women were shaved, criticism.
This love weaves fierce memories but they are mutilated, so that she can not let go for many years, and then she went to Paris as an actress, and then went to Japan to shoot, Japan Hiroshima, Japan, the world's first city bombed by atomic bombs, a ruined ruin, where she met a Hiroshima man, a man who also carries the memories of war hurt.
They have a warm and short love, if it is simple love, it is not the old driver Duras, in this story, Hiroshima is a clue, love is a container, memory is bitter wine, forgetting but being shaped by memory is eternal.
Women see him as a substitute for the mutilated memories of their dead German lovers, while men feel comforted by possessing the memories of the woman's heart. But they are all very clear in their hearts. This short-lived love, like Neville's, will die. Only forgetting can save them. But forgetting is also painful. He wished she could stay in Hiroshima, but couldn't.
Before they parted, after a long silence, she finally told him, Hiroshima. It's your name, the other person says, and your name is Neville. Neville, France.
They understand that each other is only a reflection of their own past memories, but it is impossible to possess the memory-shaped self of another person, because the self that can be spoken is never the most real, and what can be shared is never the most fundamental, so everyone is always just a certain alias of the past.
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Duras, your memories of your past shape you
The first time I watched "Love in Hiroshima", I was a little confused and couldn't understand everything. Duras wrote the story in pieces and mottled, but years later, I understood, because you know that the fragmented lines and the mottled picture are actually reminiscing about the last look.
These memories shape you, like the words in the book: Devour me. Make me different in your image so that after you, no one will understand why there is such a strong desire.
This feeling can only be presented by the old driver Duras, both in form and in the core, and she presents a fact: we are just slaves who weave and carry memories.
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Love and disaster are homogeneous
Finally, I think Duras is using an analogy to metaphorically describe the fact that this story is called Hiroshima Love, because love and disaster are actually homogeneous, and desire is like a ruined life left behind after the atomic bombing.
You meet a person, and then you tell the other person who I am, tell the repetition of everything you and the previous person said about you, your childhood, your experiences and your desires and ideals. The same you, the same desires and needs are cast over another world, trying to create a hot mushroom cloud.
But the other person is the same, everyone you love is the ruins of love left by the previous person, sleeping together, dating together, doing the same thing, saying almost the same things, just making a substitute for memory, using desire and thirst to circulate between different people, until you run out of ammunition, you are old and yellow, all the enthusiasm and time are exchanged for a pile of heavy memories, some memories are clear, some are broken, some are incomplete, and some are incomplete, that is, the ruins of love in your heart.
So at the end of the script, Duras lit a cigarette, and she said, "I can't see anything, I can't write anything."
Really, the ultimate destination of love is powerlessness, so I advise you not to read Duras casually, especially after experiencing some things, you carry memories that may be regarded as treasures and brilliant fire clouds, you will only be punched in the face by Duras, because she will tell you, when you are old, you only have the desolation in your heart and the remembrance of the years, and the dagger of time makes you sting and desolate.
The only thing you can do is passively or proactively forget the people and things in your memories. So it's best that we all not read her, don't remember this cruel woman, she always tries to remind us that what greets us is a heavy and tired life.