Former Raiders | stay away from the people you should stay away from

Are there any friends who secretly search for the ex of the target of rape or the opposite sex that the object likes on various social apps? Quietly raise your hand, it's okay, you are not alone, many small partners, especially girls, have done this to varying degrees.

Beginner version: Take a look at whether this girl looks good to me, where it is not as good as me

Intermediate edition: Flip through the photo album What have they both done together before, and why haven't the photos been deleted so far?!

Upgraded version: Regularly see if she has updated the dynamics, whether there are new relationships, whether there are signs of the resurgence of old ones, whether there are any good friends with my boyfriend who are still interacting...

Ex-girlfriend is a considerable part of the small sister taboo crowd, the above "quiet Mimi" will never restrain limited to personal behavior, inadvertently will be to their own object to answer the doubts in their hearts, purely nothing to find out of the contradiction is also a lot. A few days ago, I brushed a metaphor about talking about "ex": your boyfriend's heart is like a house, and your ex-girlfriend is some garbage left in this house, so do you want to clean up this garbage, or do you want to clean up the house together. This metaphor personally believes that aggression is too strong, if there is no hostility from the beginning, there is often not so much catching wind and uneasiness behind, and it will not unilaterally go everywhere to compare yourself and the object toss and exhaust.

I'm not opposed to figuring out what the object is trying to break up with the ex, because it's not necessarily one of the people's fault that led to a breakup, and the inappropriate personality is an explanation, but it's also very revealing in a specific matter. Then you can also have a prejudgment of whether the person in front of you is suitable for you.

I'm also not against occasionally asking questions in front of an object about an ex, but pay attention to the key words, occasionally. This also has to be built in a casual and relaxed atmosphere, not to stare at a question to ask the root, if you really want to know, you can ask in a joking tone and then a petite, boys really do not have the sensitivity of girls, they are born in this area The reflex arc is very long, then if you stare at a strong question, they are not stupid, they will also feel oppressed and not trusted.

The "substitute on the job" may be extremely nervous, even if it is still unbelievable, but this is obviously more unconfident in themselves. He can't forget that the ex is that you two are not suitable, there is no need to drag on if it is not suitable, there is nothing you are not as good as the ex, you are you, not for the sake of the ex he specially created in the empty window period.

In addition to the sisters, when the heart should be bigger, who has not yet clicked on it, the end of the last relationship is nothing more than that he dumped the ex and he was dumped by the ex two endings, the things that can be put on the mouth will not be quietly hidden in the heart, the things that are quietly hidden in the heart should not be forcibly turned out, and the time will naturally be dusty after a long time. You have a lot of time to create your memories, and you can't participate in his past, but you can grasp his present and future.

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