Text/Li Baixie
Regarding love, Balzac once asked a question, he said: "Isn't it too ugly that money and love are mixed together?" ”
With the progress of society, "willing to spend money for each other" has become the measure of "love and not love".
For example, if the bride price is not given in place according to the woman's requirements, it is not enough love; Usually reluctant to spend money on gifts for the woman, that is not enough love.
But does a healthy relationship really need to be measured in money?
Not necessarily.
Luna from Armenia gave up the favorable conditions at home for love, and married a county boy without a house or bride price.
Now that 3 years have passed, how is this "no money" transnational marriage going? Is Luna happy?
Today we will walk into Luna's story and feel her difficulties and happiness in this relationship.
Luna
"Princess" cultivation record
If marriage also has the habit of "inheritance", then "cross-border marriage" is a tradition unique to Luna's family.
Luna's grandmother is a transnational marriage, Luna's parents are also transnational marriages, and Luna herself is a transnational marriage.
Under the integration of multiple transnational marriages, Luna has 3 mixed bloods: Armenia, Kazakhstan and Russia.
In 1992, Luna was born in Almaty, Kazakhstan's largest city, which is the financial and educational center of Kazakhstan and is also known as the "Apple City" because of its abundance of apples.
Luna's mother runs a water business here, and her father runs a construction company, and their businesses are both successful.
Luna, as their daughter, has been cared for by everyone in the palm of her hand since she was a child.
Luna with family
In order for her to grow up better, no matter how busy her parents are at work, they will set aside weekends as their family days, take Luna out to play, as long as it is what she wants, her parents will be satisfied.
Teaching in Kazakhstan is different from China, in their country there is no distinction between junior high school and high school, only grades 1 to 11, and 11 years of education are completed in one school.
As a princess held in the palm of her hand, Luna's childhood was very happy, unrestrained and free, and it was this indulgence that made Luna develop a very naughty nature.
At school, Luna is the "little devil" of the mixed world, when she was a child, she was noisy in class, and when she grew up, she skipped school every day.
In order not to be scolded by her parents, she often went out early to school, and after showing up at school, she told the teacher that she had something to do at home to go home, but in fact Luna did not go back, but went to a hole near the school to play for a day.
The parents thought Luna was at school, but the teacher thought Luna was at home.
The paper couldn't contain the fire, and it didn't take long for Luna's little scheme to be debunked.
After the scheme is exposed, Luna is educated by her father and forces her to practice piano.
But none of this was useful to Luna, and after finishing eleventh grade, Luna, who had poor grades and no desire to go to school, chose to work.
Perhaps because of the difference in educational philosophy, Luna's parents did not pay much attention to academic qualifications, and they did not block Luna's decision.
Instead, he chose to let go and let her go out and wander.
Hurt by love, distracted in a foreign country
In 2010, because of her excellent appearance, Luna was admitted to Panasonic and became a shopping guide in the store, and then transferred to the Dubai branch with her fluent English.
In Dubai, Luna spent a very happy time, where the colleagues of Panasonic company are very kind, there is no intrigue, as long as there is time, a group of people will gather together to eat, chat, the atmosphere is very warm.
If it weren't for an advertisement, Luna might have stayed at Panasonic Dubai.
In 2013, Luna, surfing the web, saw a job advertisement and fixed her eyes on flydubai's job attendant.
Luna loved watching "Sailor Moon" when she was a child, and always fantasized that she would be able to fly into the sky one day, and in order to fulfill her dream, Luna threw in her resume.
Luna, who has an ordinary education and has submitted a resume, did not have much hope, but who would have thought that Luna would pass the first round of screening.
What surprised her even more was that with her excellent appearance and English ability, she passed the flydubai interview and written test, and after a month of training, Luna became an official flight attendant of the airline.
At first, Luna only flew short-haul flights to the Middle East, but later she was transferred to fly long-haul flights, and Canada and Germany became her permanent routes.
The job of a flight attendant looks glamorous on the outside, but in fact there is a lot of helplessness. There are often unexpected situations on flights, and the passengers who are drunk and loud in public are the most troublesome.
In addition to the troublesome passengers, it is also tiring to ask airlines, because Dubai Muslim country, even if they fly out of the country, airlines still require them to follow Muslim customs, not to go to night markets, not to go to nightclubs, and even photos of work cannot be posted online.
However, the effort is directly proportional to the income, and when enduring many rules, she also gets a high return, and Luna's monthly salary is more than 20,000 yuan.
During her work, she met a Dubai local, the man's family was superior, belonging to Dubai's upper class, and under his guidance, Luna also saw the real Dubai.
Dubai web image
Where, it is normal to take a few wives to the mall, and what Luna can't accept is that Dubai locals are indeed rich, but they don't look down on foreigners, especially Asians and Africans.
On one occasion, Luna took her African colleagues to a club for a drink, but the security guard at the door stopped them because of their skin color.
In addition to looking down on outsiders, traditional wealthy Dubains also don't like marrying foreign women at home.
And Luna's boyfriend was born in such a family.
When they learned that Luna was Armenian, they said to her face, "My son must never marry a foreign woman." ”
Hearing this, Luna was also very uncomfortable in her heart, and what made her even more sad was her boyfriend's weakness, who did not dare to refute his mother's words at all, and had no plans for their future.
Luna was disappointed by his silence, and finally she proposed to break up.
The thing of love, as Zhang Ailing said, is a cup of poisoned wine that is drunk with laughter.
It's sweet when you drink it, but it's too stamina.
In order to leave this sad place, Luna quit her job and returned to Almaty.
If you want to get out of the trauma of love, you must either hand it over to time or invest in new feelings.
And Luna chose the former, healing herself with travel.
It's just that Luna didn't think that she wanted to use time to heal her wounds, but she accidentally met her other half.
In the summer of 2017, Luna flew to long-awaited China, and was introduced to Wuhan by a friend.
After getting off the plane, Luna stopped at the Express Hotel by the Hankou River Beach.
When she went in to check the formalities, a tall Chinese boy stared at her intently, and Luna was embarrassed to smile at him, and then took the luggage and went back to the room.
After returning to the room, Luna cleaned up and went to sleep.
In her sleep, she could not have imagined that the boy downstairs had waited for her for hours.
After resting, the hungry Luna went downstairs in a denim T-shirt, and just as she walked to the restaurant, a man suddenly stood up on the sofa in the hall and walked straight towards Luna.
Seeing the person coming, Luna was startled, she was very nervous in a foreign country, afraid that she would meet a bad person.
It's just that after the boy stopped her, he didn't make any outrageous movements, and after waiting for a while, the boy blushed and asked Luna in broken English if he could add her contact information and learn English with her.
Hearing this, Luna breathed a sigh of relief, looking at him also nervous, Luna could also see that the other party was not a bad person, thinking that she was not familiar with life, and she could also ask him some questions, so she nodded in agreement.
After adding it, Luna learned that the boy's name was Pei Bo, and he was doing marathon construction and timing work in Hankou.
At this time, Luna did not think much, nor did she take Pei Bo to heart, but just regarded him as a "netizen".
Luna and Peibo
Netizens turned lovers and stayed away from the motherland for him
After adding WeChat, Pei Bo would send a message to Luna every day, during which Pei Bo introduced her to the fun places in Hankou, as her online guide and online navigation.
After chatting for more than 10 days, Luna agreed to Pei Bo's invitation to play Hankou together.
The first time they met, Pei Bo took Luna to roadside stalls and clubbing.
This "princess" who grew up holding it in the palm of her hand has not experienced these things at all, all of which made her feel unprecedented freshness, coupled with Pei Bo's careful care, she felt warm in a foreign country, and gradually the pain caused by her ex-boyfriend was also forgotten by her.
Soon, Luna's visa expired, and she reluctantly stepped on the plane home.
After returning to China, she kept in touch with Pei Bo through chat software, and in winter, Pei Bo confessed to Luna.
After a month of getting along before, Luna had already had a good impression of this Chinese boy in her heart, so Pei Bo confessed, and Luna readily agreed.
After that, Luna applied for a tourist visa to China again, this time instead of staying in a hotel in Hankou, Luna stayed in Pei Bo's rented house in Hankou.
For love, Luna stayed in this strange country, and at the same time she encountered many problems, the first of which was survival.
Luna can't say Chinese, after coming to China, it is difficult for her to find a career to make a living, coupled with the teaching of her parents since childhood, Luna is not willing to reach out to her parents, so she can only lower her living standards, dress and eat without care, often go to roadside stalls with Pei Bo, buy a bottle of beer and sit on the side and drink.
Compared with life in Almaty, it is simply one day and one place, but Luna does not care, she feels that such days are full of fireworks and make people feel warm.
What makes her feel even more warm is that after half a year of love, Pei Bo introduced her to her family, and when chatting with his mother, he said bluntly: "Luna is not a girl who values material things, she is very sensible and kind, I am 32 years old and want to get married." ”
Pei Bo's parents were very happy when they heard this, and began to organize a wedding for them.
Looking at their kind faces, Luna was very happy, and she felt from her heart that Pei Bo's parents were very satisfied with her.
It was only later that she learned that this satisfaction was not enough to save face, and there was also a lot of dissatisfaction behind her back, feeling that she was a foreign girl, did not understand the language, and was not good at communication.
As the saying goes, the ugly daughter-in-law will meet her in-laws sooner or later and want to get married, Pei Bo naturally wants to know Luna's parents, after understanding through the video, Luna's father did not have too many words for Pei Bo, only expressed his respect, let Luna think well.
And her mother said: "It doesn't matter if you are poor, your father used to start from scratch, as long as he is willing to struggle, everything else will be there in the future." ”
With her mother's support, Luna's worries were also put down, and in July 2018, her tourist visa expired, and Luna stepped on the plane back to China again, and this time back to China, Luna went to their local government department to issue a single certificate.
Because of this certificate, Luna was able to get married in China.
The thought of leaving her native hometown made Luna feel sad in her heart, but when she thought of Pei Bo, she felt that everything was worth it.
In this way, Luna returned to China alone with a single certificate and married this Chinese guy who had no house and no bride price.
February 9, 2019 is the big wedding day of Luna and Pei Bo, Pei Bo's hometown in Gong'an County is very lively, and his relatives, friends, and classmates come to drink happy wine.
Wedding
It was lively outside, but Luna's heart felt lonely, because neither of her parents nor friends could come because of visa problems.
Without the blessings of her loved ones, how can Luna be happy?
However, at this time, Luna is also very happy in her heart because she married someone she likes, and she has a beautiful vision for the future.
It's a pity that the reality is not the same as she thought, due to living habits, customs and language, etc., there is a lot of friction in married life.
Cultural differences
Since ancient times, mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law have been a headache to get along with, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who speak the same language have contradictions, not to mention Luna, a foreigner with different cultural habits, and mother-in-law in rural China.
In her relationship with her mother-in-law, there are two things that make it difficult for her to accept.
Peina and her mother-in-law are in their hometown
Once, Luna asked her mother-in-law to come to Hankou to stay, and before her mother-in-law came, Luna's clothes were saved up in a bucket and washed, and as a result, after her mother-in-law came, she would wash them by hand when Luna and his wife were not at home.
Luna came back and saw the clothes on the balcony, she felt very careless, she felt that her mother-in-law was a guest, in their Kazakhstan guests do not have to work, but her mother-in-law did not think so, after coming to their house, laundry, cooking, cleaning everything was done, and her mother-in-law's "positive" made Luna feel embarrassed.
In addition to these, the mother-in-law does not pay attention to privacy.
In the first year of marriage, she and Pei Bo went back to their hometown for the New Year, in their hometown, the mother-in-law would enter their room at will, and several times the husband and wife were making out, but the mother-in-law came in with a basket to collect clothes, which scared the two embarrassed.
Luna likes to make up, but the light bulb in her hometown is not bright enough, in order to make up clean, Luna will turn on the bath bomb before every makeup, and then her in-laws saw her turn on the bath bomb to make up, and said that she wasted electricity and did not know how to run the house, in order to avoid contradictions, Luna closed the door and put on makeup as quickly as possible.
Peina and her mother-in-law
In addition to the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, what makes Luna even more overwhelmed is the economic tension.
In 2020, with the emergence of the epidemic, there are basically no outdoor events in Wuhan, Pei Bo can only receive a basic salary of 2,500 yuan per month, and Luna is still unemployed.
It wasn't until last year that everything returned to normal and there were more outdoor activities, that the couple's life was a little better, and Luna occasionally went to Miss Manners to subsidize the family.
Although she and her mother-in-law are not very happy because of cultural differences, and the quality of life is much lower than before marriage, Luna does not regret it, she still believes that after running-in, she will get along well with her mother-in-law.
Because of her age, the couple is now working hard to get pregnant, and Luna is also looking forward to the arrival of her baby, and also wants her mother to come to China to feel the enthusiasm of China.
At last:
After reading Luna's story, I sighed in my heart that in this era of valuing money, she was willing to leave her hometown for love, give up the good life at home, and work hard with her husband in Wuhan, which is really admirable.
As long as the husband and wife work together, I believe that they will soon be able to have their own small home and a healthy and cute baby in Hankou.
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