Men and women in love often put on their lips such promises as "love you for a lifetime" and "I only love you".
And when you enter the marriage, the bride and groom with happy faces will use "I will take care of him for a lifetime" to reassure their parents' hearts.
But when one of the spouses has an accident and has to be taken care of for many years, how much is such a promise worth?
Pang Xueqin
In the 1960s, Pang Xueqin was one of the first big movie stars to be "stamped" by the state.
Step out of the real battlefield and take orders to serve the "military role" for a lifetime.
Pang Xueqin devoted his life to his career and only made war films; For life, he fulfilled the promises he had made with his father-in-law to the end.
Even if the wife can't see the beautiful world at a young age, then there are mental problems.
Taking care of his wife for 45 years, from the right age to the dying old age.
The story of Pang Xueqin and Yang Huan's life together is sincere and moving.
After saying goodbye to his wife, he thought about it for a long time before he was brave again.
Pang Xueqin and Hideko Takayama
The 77-year-old Pang Xueqin, encouraged by his son, married his former wife's best friend back home.
"I want to accompany her, I don't say love or not, we all understand..."
Be an actor with a mission
Born in 1929 in Dongkan Town, Fudong, Jiangsu Province, the Pang family's parents saved money from between their teeth to send their son to school.
After reading books and receiving red enlightenment, in 1944, the 15-year-old Pang Xueqin decided to serve the motherland and become a glorious warrior.
Because he was not very old when he entered the army, he could chew on words, and the leader waved a big hand to transfer him into the literary and art propaganda team.
Pang Xueqin
Insist on being a cultural instructor at the forefront, and keep in mind what you saw in the process of joining the army.
Every time he went to a war zone, he told the people about the indomitability of the fallen soldiers and the love of the soldiers around him for the country.
In 1949, a beautiful new life was ushered in, and the work of the front-line cultural teachers was temporarily set aside.
Pang Xueqin hid in the rear for several years to do cultural work, and in 1952 he received a transfer order.
Although I don't understand, I uphold the principle of "obeying orders as my duty."
Pang Xueqin packed his bags and went to the actor class of the Art Department of the Central Film Art Research Institute to study.
"Before I left, the old leader came to me and said that I must study hard, because our soldiers need someone to perform, and the heroic deeds of soldiers deserve to be praised and commemorated."
Because of the words of the old leader, Pang Xueqin has great enthusiasm for the deduction cause.
At school, he also met Muai's girl Yang Huan.
Yang Huan
Yang Huan is 3 years younger than Pang Xueqin and is a beijing native.
Her father was a well-known professor, and her mother was an intellectual engaged in cultural work.
Since she was a child, she likes music and can play a variety of instruments, and at the age of 16, she entered the music department of North China University to study.
Four years later, he came to the Central Conservatory of Music with an excellent graduation list.
Also in 1952, Yang Huan, who performed well, was also recommended by the unit to become a member of the acting class.
Originating from a dance party held by the school, Pang Xueqin, who could not dance, sat aside and attracted the attention of the enthusiastic Yang Huan.
"Why don't you go dancing?"
- "I haven't learned it, I can't jump!" ”
"Then I'll teach you, you follow my steps..."
Pang Xueqin
I didn't care how many feet I was stomped on by Pang Xueqin in the middle, and I didn't tire of apologizing to everyone who was hit.
In less than an hour, the pace of the slow third was almost touched by Pang Xueqin.
And Yang Huan seemed to have experienced the joy of helping others, and then she also asked Pang Xueqin to learn other dances.
"We were in the same class, but we hadn't said a word before that. She was so nice and cheerful that I couldn't help but learn a little slower and a little slower so we could have more time together. ”
My father-in-law's embarrassment is understandable
I fell in love with the warm and generous Yang Huan, in that era when love was not easy to declare.
Pang Xueqin wanted to show kindness to his sweetheart, and also to see if there was anyone around him, whether it would bring trouble to Yang Huan.
And slowly in the contact of the secret promise, Yang Huan will also whisper to the people he likes to share the past and talk about the future.
Pang Xueqin
In the classroom, they are secretly rivals, and after the class, they are "good friends" who walk one after the other and encourage each other.
After graduating in 1954, he was selected by the director, and Pang Xueqin and Yang Huan played roles in films such as "Shajiadian Grain Station" and "People Chasing the Sun".
After applying what he had learned in practice, Pang Xueqin entered the Beijing Actors Troupe.
Yang Huan returned to his original unit to perform song and dance dramas, and also worked as an actor in the Bayi Studio.
Since they came out of school, Pang Xueqin and Yang Huan had no worries.
The two naturally fell in love.
Yang Huan
But when the young man in love visited the Yang family with gifts, a meal was eaten, Pang Xueqin was embarrassed, and Yang Huan was angry.
The Yang family father's eyes are not eyes to his daughter's boyfriend, and his nose is not his nose.
No matter how Pang Xueqin showed kindness, he was always blocked back by not salty, not light, not heavy.
Confused, he did not want to embarrass his girlfriend, and sat down for a while after the meal before getting up to say goodbye.
"For more than a year, I went to see my father-in-law whenever I had time, and he was cold to me at first. I could feel that he didn't dislike me because I came from a generally small family, and he always seemed to have concerns about me. ”
Fortunately, persistence for a long time can always impress others-
Called into the study by Yang Huan's father, the two sat facing each other, and Pang Xueqin knew some internal factors.
"Xiao Qin, I like you very much for a self-motivated young man who loves the country deeply, and I also hope that my daughter can be with you." But there are some things I have to tell you..."
It turned out that Yang Huan was found to have a hereditary mental illness when he was a child, and there was also an outbreak.
After the treatment, the doctor said that she could not withstand the big stimulation, otherwise there was a high chance of recurrence.
If a daughter becomes ill in the future, who can always be with her and take care of her like a parent?
Knowing his father-in-law's heart, Pang Xueqin did not hesitate, and immediately said, "You can examine me for a while, and I am willing to take care of Yang Huan for a lifetime."
Before he could show his determination to his girlfriend's father with more action.
In 1956, Pang Xueqin was transferred away by the Changchun Film Studio.
I thought I was going to talk about a long-distance relationship, but I didn't expect Yang Huan to directly apply for it and transfer to Changchun.
After that, Pang Xueqin has been very busy.
Starring in Lin Nong's "Border Village Beacon", a play has not yet been performed, and director Zhu Wenshun will borrow him to shoot "Ancient Temple Bells".
When the drama was nearing the end, Wang Yan blocked Pang Xueqin in the canteen of the filming site and gave the script of "Youth in the Fire of War".
Sudden illness breaks life
Seeing that the next trip was about to be full, the 28-year-old boy waved his hand in fright.
"I told Director Wang that I must wait for me, my personal problems need to be solved urgently, and then I borrowed my lover from other crews and we went to Beijing."
He told the woman's father that he must be with Yang Huan.
After receiving the approval, in 1958, they were excited and anxious to get a marriage license.
Pang Xueqin and Yang Huan
Not too concerned about the warmth of the husband and wife, Pang Xueqin took over "Youth in the Fire of War" in a hurry.
With vivid and characterized performances, he created the most successful role in his film and television career, "Lei Zhenlin".
And this role has also become a military figure that almost no one in film history has surpassed.
After that, he also sent "Chaoxia", "Shipyard Tracking" and "East Wind" to the screen.
On the other side, Yang Huan, who was also not idle, performed "Long Sky Bi Wing" and "Steel Ball Flying Car", Pang Xueqin came to meet her.
The first time as a husband and wife to cooperate in the film, how happy "Heart to Heart" was, how sad Pang Xueqin was when Yang Huan had an accident the next year.
In 1959, he first starred in "Sea Condor" and "The Young Man in Our Village" (part 1).
Yang Huan suffered from a tip strain eye disease in the crew of "Sisters on Ice" because his eyes were stimulated by mercury lamps and snow for a long time.
Thinking of completing the task first and then treating the disease, she did not expect that after the film, she was also blinded by the aggravation of her condition and the bleeding of the glass barrier.
The first time was sent to the hospital, and then Pang Xueqin rushed to the side.
"She was scared and kept asking me if I could be okay, and she said she hadn't seen me enough, she hadn't acted in enough movies, she didn't want to go blind."
In the 1950s and 1960s, there were few actors like Yang Huan and Pang Xueqin who could constantly take on the role.
And although Yang Huan did not give up, she was forced to leave the film industry due to illness.
Since 1960, Pang Xueqin has slowed down the pace of filming, starting from washing and cooking, pulling his wife for a walk.
Little by little, he shouldered all the affairs of Yang Huan's life.
"In the middle, I want to shoot Lin Nong's "A Noon Storm", I don't dare to bring her to the crew, the conditions are too bitter." I sent her to my in-laws. After more than 3 months I went to pick her up and she held me and I didn't let go. I knew she was afraid, and after that I said I wouldn't count it, I would accompany her well, and if she wasn't good, I wouldn't act. ”
Pang Xueqin
Afraid that her husband would give up the film and television industry he loved, Yang Huan encouraged himself and actively accepted treatment.
Every day, Pang Xueqin would do eye massage for her and make hot compresses, so that Yang Huan's vision would be restored little by little.
In 1962, after the state conducted an assessment, Pang Xueqin was listed as "one of the 22 movie stars of New China".
In 1965, when Yang Huan's eyes improved significantly, the first son of the two Pang Hao was born, and then the second son Pang Yue was ushered in.
Having become a mother with new responsibilities, Yang Huan was surrounded by the brilliance of his mother.
This year, Pang Xueqin, who returned to the screen, used a "Soldiers In the City" to open up a new situation in his career.
"I found that Pang Xueqin, who had not acted for several years, had more strength in cinematic performance. After the release of this film, there must be many directors chasing him to hand over the script, and if we don't believe it, we will look down. ”
Lin Nong's words were very correct, but the wife and young son who had not yet fully recovered in the family made Pang Xueqin dare not take too much drama.
A commitment to manage a lifetime
Focusing on the family, Pang Xueqin also lived in Beijing for a while in order to allow his wife to receive better treatment.
Yang Huan
Every day, I can see the son-in-law's intentions for his daughter, and Yang Huan's father is both distressed about his daughter and his son-in-law who earns money and takes care of his family.
As soon as the monthly salary arrives, I will go to the hospital to settle a stage of nursing expenses.
The rest of the money is bought to buy snacks that the wife and children love to eat, and to support the family.
Because he was embarrassed to ask for the help of both parents, the pressure on Pang Xueqin was not small at all.
The warm and calm days did not last two years, and from 1966 onwards, it seemed that the sky changed overnight.
Some groups, such as literati and artists, have been strongly questioned.
"In three years, someone at both ends came looking for stubble. At that time, Chen Jialin put "Soldiers In the City" in front, and several of our leading actors were waiting to be criticized in the back. After a while, Chen Jialin froze once, only to say that we played 'there is a problem', there is a taste of surrender, there is the meaning of supporting others..."
If you are lucky, everyone will stand and be criticized, and if you are unlucky, it is not impossible to kneel and be scolded.
Compared with others, Pang Xueqin was treated quite well, and he had never been beaten.
Because he played too many indomitable military figures, even if someone wanted to overthrow him, the work swung outwards, and the people who came to investigate above looked at it and decided that there was absolutely no problem with this person's thinking.
But the reputation is too high will always be remembered, or some people take some of Pang Xueqin's roles to say things.
It can be put forward to investigate, and the upward turn is beyond the control of people.
Because Pang Xueqin was a soldier who had really bathed in blood before acting in the movie, the more he checked the background, the more popular it became.
Since you can't move, you can look for stubble from time to time. In the past 8 years, Pang Xueqin has also been criticized for "tanning".
It was also a long time that there was no peace at home, and Yang Huan, who was often frightened, fell ill.
A little bit of mental disorder, sometimes normal and sometimes crazy.
When she was serious, she didn't know anyone, and she grabbed and bit her son.
And when he woke up and remembered his behavior, Yang Huan would pound his head and cry in pain.
Less and less energetic, more and more afraid to see people.
But as an actor, she has produced many works, and she is also the object of criticism.
Not daring to send his wife to another place to hide, Pang Xueqin used all means to find all the contacts he could find.
Only then did he take the "sin" inflicted on his wife on his shoulders.
Pang Xueqin
With a gentle attitude and an unchanging heart, give all patience to the wife.
Work alternates with being taken away, and every time he returns home, the first thing Pang Xueqin does is determine his wife's condition.
After that, I checked my son's self-study, tutored them with lessons, cleaned up the housework, and prepared food for several days.
Fortunately, in 1974, the wind gradually passed, and Pang Xueqin, who was favored by the people above, became the deputy director of Changchun Film Factory.
From this year until 2004, under the care of Pang Xueqin, Yang Huan's spirit was gradually improving.
The number of onset of the disease is getting smaller and smaller, and the onset of the disease begins to be able to distinguish clearly between people.
Pang Xueqin
"My father is the tallest man in my eyes. Because he used his attitude towards my mother, he set a good example for me and Pang Yue. We love our mothers and have great patience with them, all because we have a father who leads them in front of us for decades. ”
Married to his wife for 46 years and cared for his sick wife for 45 years.
Keep your promise to the end and hold your wife in the palm of your hand for the rest of your life.
In 2004, Yang Huan would leave his 75-year-old wife forever due to sudden heart disease.
Although the son accompanies him every day to try to explain himself, although the grandchildren always take the grandfather out, trying to divert his attention.
But Pang Xueqin is difficult to get out of the pain of his wife's death.
Pang Xueqin and Yang Huan
Fortunately, at this time, the deceased who had lost contact reappeared, and Pang Xueqin had a peaceful old age.
Remarried wife's good friend, children and grandchildren support
As early as after Yang Huan injured his eyes and gave birth to a child, Hideko Takayama, a nursery worker at the Changying Factory Kindergarten, often went in and out of the Pang family.
Hideko Takayama is a Chinese, half of her Japanese ancestry because of her mother.
When Pang Xueqin was not at home, Hideko Takayama often helped Yang Huan take care of the children.
The friendship between two warm and kind women was quickly established and became friends who talked about everything.
Pang Xueqin and Hideko Takayama
In the eyes of Hideko Takayama, Yang Huan is a good woman, loves life and is very strong.
And Yang Huan's husband Pang Xueqin is a good man, who has not abandoned his wife for many years and has taken good care of him.
Later, due to some social factors, she and her mother had to take the child to Japan, and the two families have since been disconnected.
In 1991, because she always had China in mind, Hideko Takayama used most of her savings to open a travel agency, and four years later established the Oriental Cultural Exchange Association.
The second connection with his former friend was after Yang Huan's death in 2004.
Pang Xueqin looked intimidated all day, and his children and grandchildren looked at their hearts with extreme sadness.
I heard my brother say that my parents had a very good friend when they were young and went to Japan in their early years.
With the mentality of trying it out, Pang Yue began to inquire around, wanting the deceased to help his father out of his sorrow.
Pang Xueqin and Hideko Takayama
Fortunately, Hideko Takayama's exchange association is well-known in Japan, and it took more than two months to find someone, and then cross-border telephone connection.
Saddened by Yang Huan's death, he chatted with Pang Xueqin about the interesting things of the past, and talked about the beauty of cooking with Yang Huan's family and eating two families.
From the past conversation to the present, in order to comfort her old friends, she opened a transnational long talk every three or five minutes.
Slowly Pang Xueqin's spirit recovered.
He listened to Hideko Takayama's advice and would go out for a walk, and was also willing to participate in some activities to enrich life and reassure the children's hearts.
Pang Xueqin and Hideko Takayama
A telephone line drew two people closer to their hearts.
Pang Hao and Pang Yue found that their father had a lot of smiles on his face, and his mouth also "Ying Zi said" non-stop.
With a flash of inspiration in his mind, Pang Hao asked his brother, "How about letting dad remarry, Aunt Ying zi is very good." ”
The younger generation "colluded" to act in batches, and some often said good things about Hideko Takayama in front of their fathers.
There are also people who call Hideko Takayama behind their father's back and say good things about their father.
Time will make people see the flow of emotions and slowly feel that they really want to be with Hideko Takayama.
Pang Xueqin bravely boarded a plane to Japan and sent Hideko Takayama a bouquet of roses at the foot of Mt. Fuji.
Pang Xueqin and Hideko Takayama
With a spring to pursue the right person, Hideko Takayama's son was also pulled into the "gang" by the Pang brothers to cheer up.
A little bit out of work, in 2009, Takayama Hideko and 80-year-old Pang Xueqin low-key license, and then settled in Zhuhai.
"Old Pang is a good man, I envied Yang Huan when I was young, and I sincerely wished them happiness and happiness." Now that we can be together, our hearts are rejoicing, which is our luck. ”
Together for 6 years, there are children filial piety, accompanied by lovers.
In 2015, at the age of 86, Pang Xueqin passed away peacefully.
Hideko Takayama then rejected her son's offer to take her back to Japan.
"I don't want to leave China anymore, I want to be here, preferably in my hometown, which I will never forget in my lifetime..."
Returning to Changchun to live, reminiscing about his childhood self in the place where his father once worked.
Linger around the studio and reminisce about the happy self of your youth.
Pang Xueqin and Hideko Takayama
Seven years have passed quickly, and today Hideko Takayama lives with Pang Yue, the youngest son of the Pang family.
This cultured lady did not want to cause trouble for her juniors and insisted on taking care of everything for herself.
Her own children and grandchildren come to visit from time to time, and Hideko Takayama will always say to the younger children, "You see, this is my hometown..."