Author: 43rd floor editorial department Xiao Zi
Source: Mom.com Parenting (ID: mmwyuer)
"I don't pee now!"
Unexpectedly, the grand Lord Yuezun (Wang Hedi) actually exposed himself in public about the bedwetting when he was a child.
Because "Freesia Tips" became popular overnight, Wang Hedi, who became the "top of the entertainment circle", is really the only "living person" in the lifeless entertainment circle. (True without a mask)
This resurgence is not only his handsome appearance, but also his middle two, funny and real image.
Source: "Freesia Recipe"
In "Dear Inn", Wang Hedi, who focuses on dry rice, said: There is nothing to eat more ant scrambled eggs.
Liu Tao answered the conversation: Eating does not wet the bed, right?
Wu Yi Shunshi said that his brother loved to wet the bed when he was a child.
Get!
At this moment, Wang Hedi's speech box was opened, and he began to expose himself: I was still wetting the bed in the sixth grade of elementary school.
"In the past, my mother would take the quilt downstairs every morning on time."
Neighbors understand instantly when they see it, and often ridicule him: "Yo Di Di, have you drawn a map again?" ”
Every time he heard this, he was particularly embarrassed.
(To love Yuezun is to love him all)
In the play, bking is hegemonic, and the "entertainment circle is alive" outside the play.
In front of the camera, he can frankly expose the "bedwetting" scandal, Wang Hedi is the first person in the entertainment industry, this child, indeed did not treat everyone as an outsider.
It can also be seen that in the matter of bedwetting, Wang Hedi's parents handled it very well, which can make his personality so cheerful and vivid.
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However, some children are not as lucky as Wang Hedi.
Because when I was a child, I was scolded and scolded by my parents after wetting the bed, how many people's nightmares after adulthood are still -
"Dreaming of urinary urgency, as soon as you find the toilet, it's over!"
I have seen a girl who ruined her life because of bedwetting.
Her parents were teachers, and she was raised by her parents to be clever and clever, but at the age of 5, a bedwetting ruined her life.
One night, she wet the bed, and her mother was shocked and angrily scolded: "You stopped wetting the bed when you were 2 years old, and now you are 5 years old. ”
She was ashamed of her mother's words, and surprisingly, she wet the bed again the next night.
This time, the mother was even more angry, and yelled at her: "How did you do it, yesterday you wet the bed, how did you pee again today, is it a heart?" ”
While holding the futon outside, the mother scolded: "Such a big girl, wetting the bed every day, the mattress is sunburned outside, you are not ashamed!" ”
She was so ashamed that on the third night, she was especially afraid that she would continue to wet the bed, but she still peed.
Her mother was even more angry, and even punished her for not being able to eat or drink at night and sleeping on an empty stomach.
That night, she finally didn't wet the bed.
But then every three or five minutes will wet the bed, each time will be mocked and insulted by the mother, and eventually she has a serious fear of bedwetting, but the more she tries to hold back, the easier it is for her to wet the bed.
Until now 41 years old, after marriage, she still can't change this problem, and because of this, she wants to commit suicide, unfortunately she was rescued, and then she fled her hometown and drifted north alone.
Eventually suffering from severe depression, he now relies on sleeping pills and antidepressants to spend one night after another.
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Bedwetting, is it a disease?
Bedwetting for a baby is normal.
As children grow older and their bladder function develops perfectly, children will generally be able to control their bladder autonomously at the age of 3-4 and establish good urination and urination control habits.
By the age of 5, bladder development and night bladder filling→ stimulate the awakening development is basically completed, urinary urgency, the brain will remind the child to wake up.
However, due to physical development and psychological reasons, some children cannot control urination on their own, and they will evolve into "enuresis".
The definition of enuresis varies between health facilities.
The International Association for Pediatric Urination Control and the World Health Organization (WHO) define enuresis as:
- After the age of 5 years, symptoms of involuntary urination (bedwetting) occur at least once a month during nighttime sleep and last > 3 months.
The diagnostic criteria recommended by the Chinese Academy of Pediatrics on the Mainland use the International Classification of Diseases (ICD.10) -
Bedwetting in children is actually a very common phenomenon. According to statistics:
- 5-year-olds still wet the bed in 15% of children,
- About 1-2% of children who still wet the bed once a month after the age of 15.
What we need to be vigilant about are those children who usually urinate normally, but suddenly wet the bed frequently.
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Children who usually urinate well
Why do I wet the bed frequently?
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Genetic and physiological bedwetting
The development of bladder capacity and bladder control functions in children is a gradual maturation process.
In infancy, it is unconscious urination.
3-4 years old, at least during the day can control urination;
Over 5 years old, it can also be controlled at night.
But it is well known that human cubs develop faster and slower. Some children can urinate spontaneously at the age of 2, and some even wet the bed at the age of 12, like Wang Hezhuo. This is all normal.
Moreover, some child health experts have found that:
- If both parents or one parent has been accustomed to bedwetting, the probability of their child loving bedwetting will reach 77%.
In addition to heredity, there is also a possibility that the child is sick. Pediatricians have done research on pathological bedwetting and found that the disorders that cause your child to wet the bed are:
- Pinworm disease (stimulation of the urethral opening by the body), local inflammation of the urethral orifice, urinary tract infection, kidney disease, spina bifida, spinal cord injury, sacral nerve dysfunction, epilepsy, cerebral hypoplasia, small bladder volume, etc.
There are also surveys that suggest that enuresis may also be associated with increased diaperitic use and reduced urinary training:
- The longer the diaper is used and the later the time to start urinating, the higher the incidence of urinary sequelae. (China Expert Consensus 2019)
If the child is over 5 years old and still wets the bed frequently, the first thing we have to do is to analyze whether there are genetic and physical problems.
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Psychological stress leads to urinary incontinence
Psychologists and medical scientists have agreed that bedwetting is a sign of emotional distress in children.
That is to say, bedwetting is an appearance, which actually reflects the child's psychological problems.
For example, during the day, children are scolded by their parents because they have done something wrong, or some children's living environment has changed, their parents have divorced, they have gone to school, and so on.
Recently, just after the beginning of the school, some sisters also found that their babies peed well at home and wet the bed as soon as they went to kindergarten.
Because the unfamiliar environment and teacher will make the child's heart highly nervous, the urine is urgent and dare not call the teacher, or the kindergarten is not well adapted, it will also make the child fall into anxiety, resulting in enuresis.
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The more scolding, the more bedwetting
In the "2017 Epidemiological Survey Report on Enuresis in Children and Adolescents in China", there was such a survey data:
Nearly 40 percent of parents said that bedwetting was a "deliberate" act and had blamed their children for beating and cursing them.
Look at these few words, have you ever said:
- How to pee again!
- Tell you not to drink so much water,
- So big and wet the bed, see if you are ashamed of your face.
We always think that bedwetting is the cause of the child, but it is actually the cause of the parents.
Because your overreaction, excessive blame, or neglect will make your child feel ashamed and have great mental stress, so that you can wet the bed frequently.
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What should I do if my child wets the bed?
Bedwetting is the third biggest trauma after parental quarrels and divorces!
Children will not only have frustrated self-esteem, anxiety... Moreover, because of the smell of their own body, others will stay away, so the personality will tend to be lonely.
Bedwetting is so harmful to a child, so what do we do as parents?
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The first thing to say is "It's okay"
In fact, after the child wets the bed, they themselves will feel ashamed, at this time we go to scold will only increase the child's psychological burden, the best way:
Tell the child: It's okay.
Wash what should be washed, change what should be changed.
Remember that Huang Lei once said to his little daughter who wet the bed: I guess you must be dreaming of peeing, going to find the bathroom, always can't find it...
When a child wets the bed, your first reaction is directly related to his shame, a sentence: "It doesn't matter, last night was not a dream to find a toilet." ”
Such a sentence will make the child feel relaxed and understanding, and will not cause psychological stress urinary incontinence.
02 Develop regular urination habits
If we want to cure our children's bedwetting, we must also help our children in our daily lives and develop good urination habits.
For example, 2 to 3 hours before going to bed every night, drinking water is prohibited. Emptying the bladder before falling asleep will greatly reduce the likelihood that your child will wet the bed.
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Try the enuresis alarm
An orange app can search for "enuresis alarms".
Its mechanism is to monitor whether the baby has enuresis, and if so, it will be immediately alerted by sound. However, the effect of this tool varies from person to person.
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Bladder training method
Children who are prone to enuresis, the bladder capacity is generally relatively small, only a few tens of milliliters of urine, when the bladder training reaches 300 milliliters, basically do not wet the bed.
This bladder training can be done during the day on weekends.
✅ Step (1), prepare the graduated containers and tables.
Container, measure your child's urine each time he urinates.
Table: Record your child's urine output to form a graph.
✅ Step (2): Drink more water during the day and less at night.
Objective: To increase bladder capacity during the day.
✅ Step (3), urinary holding training
When you start to urinate, try to hold it for 5 minutes before going to the toilet.
After that, according to the child's willpower and other specific conditions, increase the time to hold urine, and you can train to hold it for about 30 minutes.
For every progress of the child, parents should give praise or reward.
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You need to set the alarm in the middle of the night
Wake up your child to the bathroom?
Waking your child up at night to go to the bathroom is not a good way to "avoid bedwetting."
One is: Not to mention, in case the child does not urinate, he will also be woken up and forced to go to the toilet, which is even more intense.
The second is that repeated tossing will cause children to habitually wake up at night, and the most important thing is that it is too expensive for mothers!
The original intention of urination training is to let the child feel it himself-
There is a desire to urinate→ wake up → pee.
If the computer is forced on, it is not conducive to the child to establish this conditioned reflex.
However, then again, some mothers are naturally more alert, can know when the child has the intention to urinate, if you can accurately grasp the child's urination rules, know that his bladder is full at the moment, and the child does not refuse, you can also wake up the child to pee.
The experience of the old mother
How to tell if the baby is holding urine?
(1) Have been sleeping peacefully and steadily, suddenly turning over, or restless.
(2) In the past, bedwetting time was relatively fixed, such as 3 o'clock in the second half of the night.
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When do I need to see a doctor?
After parents tried the above methods, the child's bedwetting symptoms did not improve, or the frequency of enuresis in the child has affected daily life and social interaction.
It is recommended to visit a pediatric nephrology specialist clinic or a pediatric enuresis clinic.
⚠️ The doctor will check whether the child has a bladder dysfunction or other underlying medical conditions such as posterior urethral valve disease or other anatomical abnormalities, incomplete spinal canal closure, diabetes... Wait a minute.
⚠️ Drugs: The commonly used drug is called desmopressin acetate (micoagulant). This is a natural antidiuretic hormone that helps the kidneys to partial pressure and reduce nocturnal urine output.
For reference only, please use the medicine under the guidance of a doctor
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Psychologist Adler once said:
- Bedwetting is the use of dreams to trigger certain emotions in order to achieve the purpose that the child wants.
- A child who wets the bed is talking with his bladder instead of his mouth. Such a child, even at night, hopes to receive the attention of his parents.
Therefore, when the child wets the bed, please do not break the mouth and scold, but should pay more attention to the child's emotions.
Sheets can be washed and dried, but psychological damage is irreparable.
I hope that every child who wets the bed can shout out as easily as Wang Hedi:
"What's wrong with me wetting the bed?"
"Didn't you wet the bed when you were a kid?"
Special statement: As a "trickster", this article is really not to think of Lord Kurozuki, let's just take a chestnut, please let it go!
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