On June 30, 1998, Ma Nan, a high-caliber student at Peking University, was on the hot search list and instantly became a celebrity. Everyone called her an "anti-American fighter," because the day before in the Peking University lecture room, she was angry with US President Clinton in front of more than 400 teachers and students.
At that time, Clinton gave a speech on the theme of "freedom" at Peking University. After listening to Clinton's speech, Ma Nan boldly expressed his views.
Ma Nan said: "The former principal, Mr. Cai Yuanpei, once said that the Tao is parallel and not contradictory, and all things are nurtured without harming each other. I believe that freedom is given to oneself, and only when individuals realize their freedom can they create more value for the country. After listening to her views, Clinton was speechless, and after a few seconds of silence, hurriedly ended the speech.
Ma Nan instantly became a celebrity at the school, but her subsequent actions made everyone question.
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Heaven is not afraid of the Beijing girl
Ma Nan is an authentic Beijinger who was born in Beijing in 1974. Because Ma Nan is the only daughter in the family, her parents regard her as a pearl in the palm of their hands. Grow up in a loving family atmosphere.
From childhood to adulthood, Ma Nan's mother said to Ma Nan: "Be low-key." Ma Nan did not think so, she was not afraid of heaven since she was a child, and gradually Ma Nan formed a straight-talking and fast-talking personality.
At the age of 17, Ma Nan suddenly became very interested in the Bible. I often use holidays to go to the library to read related books. Since then, she has quit meat and become a vegetarian.
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At the age of growing up, Ma Nan's parents often made her some meat supplements. No matter how much her mother persuaded her, Ma Nan refused to eat a bite. I also had a big fight with my mother because of the problem of eating meat.
Ma Nan has strong willpower and competitive spirit. As long as it was something she had identified, ten cows could not be pulled back. Ma Nan's personality has brought great help to her academic career.
After graduating from high school in 1994, Ma Nan was successfully admitted to the department of Chinese of Peking University. In the defense contest held to welcome the new students, Ma Nan stood out. Showed her unique perspective and talent.
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Ma Nan, who likes to read, also often visits the library alone, and the relationship between her and her classmates is very harmonious. However, Ma Nan still retains her dare to say that she loves to talk.
During his time at university, Ma Nan won several full scholarships and published many papers. Ma Nan's self-motivated learning spirit is loved by teachers. As a result, Ma Nan was given the opportunity to continue his master's studies.
On June 29, 1998, when he heard that US President Clinton was going to Peking University to give a speech, Ma Nan went to the school auditorium early to take a seat. She loves the occasion and wants to see what the big president is different.
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But when Clinton said his definition of "freedom," Ma Nan immediately stood up and disagreed, and the whole scene was very embarrassing, and Clinton stood on the podium and kept wiping his forehead with a tissue.
Ma Nan's words made Clinton think deeply, and he did not expect that there would be such a bold and thoughtful girl, this Beijing girl instantly became a celebrity on the campus of Peking University.
Many media reporters also took this opportunity to report one after another, Ma Nan's name instantly became popular on the Internet, and even some students recorded her video at that time. When Ma Nan questioned Clinton, his thinking was clear, calm and self-assured, and he was not nervous at all.
Clinton's Peking University speech became the most embarrassing speech in history. After that, there were also media who wanted to interview Ma Nan but she refused, at that time she just improvised and did not want to affect her normal life and study because of this incident.
But what happened next made everyone have a new understanding of Ma Nan, and many people did not understand why she did it.
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Give up the opportunity to study abroad for love
In August 1998, Ma Nan officially entered the Department of Chinese to pursue a master's degree. Ma Nan, who has a high appearance and high education, has no shortage of excellent male classmates around him, but Ma Nan always rejects them with academic emphasis.
But in 2001, Kou Bailong, an American boy who came to study in China, stirred up ripples of love in Ma Nan's heart. The first time I met Kou Bailong, I was immediately attracted to this strong and handsome American boy.
Soon after, the two fell in love, and in Ma Nan's eyes, Kou Bailong was the Prince Charming in his mind. Unlike the Chinese boy, Kou Bailong is a man who knows how to be romantic.
Ma Nan and Kou Bailong
After Ma Nan and Kou Bailong were together, the two were eager to be together 24 hours a day. From time to time, Kou Bailong creates small surprises for Ma Nan, who feels that she is the happiest woman in the world.
In June 2001, Ma Nan successfully graduated with a master's degree. Soon she received an invitation from Professor Zhou Zhiping of Princeton University in the United States, and wanted Ma Nan to teach at Preston University as a Chinese teacher.
Ma Nan, who is in love, hesitates, and she finds her boyfriend Kou Bailong to discuss. Kou Bailong said: "I can't accept a long-distance relationship, but I respect your choice." ”
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If Ma Nan goes to the United States to teach, this relationship will most likely be yellow. After much deliberation, she decided to stay in Beijing and proposed to Kou Bailong. So Ma Nan and Kou Bailong received their marriage licenses on September 7, 2001.
When the classmates around her knew that Ma Nan had given up such a good job opportunity for her boyfriend, they all felt sorry for her. And in the end she also married the American Kou Bailong.
The former "anti-beauty fighter" became an American daughter-in-law. When Kou Bailong offered to take Ma Nan back to live in the United States, she was very entangled in her heart and finally persuaded her husband. So Kou Bailong stayed in China.
Ma Nan and Kou Bailong
Kou Bailong found a job in Shanghai and became an English teacher at a school. Ma Nan also went to Live in Shanghai with her husband. In 2003, Ma Nan and Kou Bailong ushered in the crystallization of love. Ma Nan gave birth to a mixed-race son, and in order to take care of his son, Ma Nan simply quit his job and became a housewife.
The burden of life is all on Kou Bailong, and after having children, the family expenses are getting bigger and bigger. Although the pressure of life is getting bigger and bigger, whenever they see their lovely son, Ma Nan and Kou Bailong feel more aggressive.
After Ma Nan returned to her family, she felt a sense of happiness that she had never felt before. She thought that she was taking the child at home anyway, and it would not hurt to bring one more, so she consulted with Kou Bailong: "Let's have another baby, and we can also be a companion for our son." ”
Ma Nan and son
In 2005, Ma Nan gave birth to her second daughter as she wished. Ma Nan, who has both children, is busy every day, although it is very hard to take care of the children, but it can make her feel a different kind of happiness.
After Ma Nan gave birth to 2 children, her figure began to bless, from a slender girl to a middle-aged woman. Usually, she also does not pay attention to the image. It's not that Ma Nan doesn't like to wear beautiful clothes, but she has more than enough and lacks strength.
The daily household chores made Wang Nan gradually lose patience, and she became a resentful woman. And Kou Bailong raised his family alone, and he often felt very hard.
A family of four
There are also more and more conflicts between husband and wife, always quarreling over small things. Kou Bailong lost patience with Ma Nan, and even sometimes did not return at night, and Ma Nan had an ominous premonition.
One day, Ma Nan's daughter was sick, and she called her husband but she couldn't get through. In desperation, she took her son and daughter to the hospital alone. Kou Bailong came home the next day without any explanation. Ma Nan said, "This day can't pass." ”
After hearing this, Kou Bailong said directly: "If you haven't sent it, let's get a divorce." "It seems that Kou Bailong has been waiting for this day for a long time."
Husband and wife quarrel
Ma Nan also saw the end at a glance, since the two did not love, separation is also the right choice. But the child has always been carried by Ma Nan. Ma Nan said to her husband: "Divorce is OK, the custody of the children belongs to me, and you have to pay the maintenance on time." ”
After hearing this, Kou Bailong was reluctant to say, "Why should all the children belong to you, one of us, the son belongs to you, and the daughter belongs to me." Eventually, the two signed a divorce agreement. However, because Kou Bailong had to work during the day, the children were still taken by Ma Nan after the divorce.
But what Ma Nan feared happened, and Ma Nan has been in trouble ever since.
Ma Nan and the child
The trough of life
On May 15, 2012, Ma Nan posted a message on his personal Weibo post looking for her ex-husband Kou Bailong and her daughter. It turned out that the ex-husband took his daughter and said goodbye, and Ma Nan had no news of her daughter for half a month. In desperation, I had to send a search message.
After seeing the message sent by Ma Nan, everyone knew that she and Kou Bailong had divorced in 2011. It is understandable that the ex-husband secretly took away her daughter, but Ma Nan was reluctant to take her daughter, she wanted to take her with her.
Kou Bailong and his daughter were like the evaporation of the human world, and Ma Nan couldn't contact them. Since Ma Nan issued the search notice, people once again shifted their attention to her.
Ma Nan Weibo
What Ma Nan has experienced over the years, a female master's degree finally reduced to a housewife and abandoned by her husband. All kinds of public opinion pushed Ma Nan to the cusp of the storm.
In the face of this incident, Ma Nan still insisted on silence, and she was unwilling to explain too much. To be able to fight for custody of their daughters. Ma Nan did not hesitate to take her ex-husband to court.
Since Kou Bailong disappeared for no reason, Ma Nan had to find a new job in order to support his son. Although Ma Nan has a high degree, there are not many jobs that can be competent because of his lack of work experience.
Eventually, Ma Nan found a job as a librarian in the Xiamen Library, and for her, this job was indeed condescending. In order to earn more money, she also became a part-time tutor, specializing in tutoring students in English.
Ma Nan and the students
Ma Nan's salary is basically able to take care of his and his son's daily living expenses. But if she wants to regain custody of her daughter, she must have a certain economic foundation.
Ma Nan's daily work is also very hard, after sending her son to school, she goes to work busily, and she has to work overtime to prepare for class at night. She spins like a gyroscope all the time.
In this way, Ma Nan inquired about her ex-husband and daughter while working. After many rights defenses, Ma Nan finally got custody of her daughter. But the ex-husband was reluctant to send his daughter back.
Ma Nan
This matter has always bothered Ma Nan, and she also regrets her original choice. If she gives up love and sticks to her studies and career. It wouldn't be so miserably mixed.
Ma Nan's classmates were either university professors or leaders of a company, which made her feel a strong sense of frustration. But it's all a foregone conclusion, and time can't be turned back, and it won't give her a second chance to choose.
For Ma Nan, the difficulties in life are nothing, the most important thing is to miss the child, and the child he brought up with him wants to see but can't see it. It was the cruelest thing for a mother.
Because she could not see her daughter, Ma Nan loved her son even more. She also has to give her son the best life and meet his daily needs.
When Ma Nan's divorce and the matter of finding her daughter were in a boiling storm, she lived alone with her son in a low-key life. She did not want to affect her son's future life.
With the thought of her daughter, Ma Nan worked strongly. In the face of setbacks in life, she is still strong to face. Ma Nan also guessed that her ex-husband had gone to the United States with her daughter. But Ma Nan has never been to her in-laws in the United States, and even if she runs to the United States, she will not see her daughter.
Ma Nan
Fast forward more than ten years, and Ma Nan rarely posts on Weibo. It is said that she has never seen her daughter, and she and her ex-husband divorced her husband before the other party already had a new love.
Perhaps Kou Bailong already had a new family, but Ma Nan lived alone with his son. Fortunately, the son is more sensible and obedient, and he is very well trained by Ma Nan.
Mother and son live a low-key life, and Ma Nan also sees a lot. Since you can't get it, don't force it, as long as your daughter is happy, she will be satisfied.
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Many netizens are worried about Ma Nan's current situation. Giving up her great future, she lived the most ordinary life, and perhaps this was the arrangement of fate. After being divorced by her American husband, she suffered a lot of hurt as a result.
This kind of ending is the most unfair for a woman, giving up her career for the sake of her family and ending up with nothing. When facing marriage, family and career, we must choose correctly. Don't do something you regret.
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summary
Ma Nan's plight is sympathetic, and he gave up more in pursuit of his love. In the end, the bamboo basket was empty, and women should have a certain initiative in married life. Don't put all your energy into the family.
Women who take care of career and family are the wisest, and this kind of transnational marriage has great security risks. Many foreigners have different definitions and views of marriage and family than we do, and they are more open-minded.
When girls are looking for a marriage partner, they must find the right one for themselves. Find a pragmatic man. And in real life, everyone must reflect their own life value, do not rely on their husbands for everything. We must learn to be self-reliant and self-reliant.
In the world of feelings, many people will go astray, and when facing family and career, they must carefully consider which is more important than the other. Don't act on impulse to do something you regret.
Everyone longs for a good love and a free life, but when all the enthusiasm withdraws, there is only an ordinary life. Everyone goes through different life trials.
Only by being strong enough to face the various sufferings in life can we finally find our own way of life. Everyone's pursuit is different, and the results of life are also different.
For Ma Nan, in addition to feeling sorry for her, we are more sympathetic. After years of disability, she became stronger. And the life with his son is plain and warm.