"If a person makes his or her parents sad, no matter how prominent his or her status is, no matter how famous he or she is, he or she is a despicable person."
One by one inscription
"Daughter——,
Your mother is dying.
Why haven't you come back? ”
In 2020, Lushun, Dalian, Liaoning.
Liu Hongyu, who is suffering from advanced breast cancer, lies on the hospital bed, silently shedding tears, but her eyes have not left the door for a moment.
She was waiting for someone she had been dreaming about for 17 years.
Cao Zhaogang, an old partner with kidney cancer, held her skinny hand tightly.
He knew that his wife didn't have much time and couldn't get through it.
He couldn't help but burst into tears, and cried bitterly and bitterly outside the door.
However, the miracle did not occur.
Their only daughter, Cao Qian, did not even see the last side of her mother.
Didn't Cao Qian know that both her parents had cancer?
No!
"After studying in Germany 17 years ago, I have not heard from him yet.
Kneel down and pray that the well-wishers who see this news will spread out,
We don't ask him to go home and see his parents.
Just let her know about the situation at home."
In 2020, this heart-wrenching news of family search was reported by major media and newspapers in China and Germany.
How could Cao Qian, who was far away in Germany, not know?
After Liu Hongyu dried the last tears, he passed away with regret.
Cao Zhaogang hugged her and cried bitterly, crying sadly:
"Cao Qian, your heart is so fierce—"
Cao Qian, why are you so desperate???
01. The well-behaved woman Cao Qian
July 6, 1979, Lushunkou District, Dalian, Caojiadi Village, Changcheng Street.
The Cao family, married for many years without children, have finally welcomed their children with joy.
Although they are in the countryside, which is extremely patriarchal, they are very fond of this precious daughter.
They never had children again.
Cao Qian became their only daughter.
Xiao Cao Qian was frail and sickly since childhood, and the couple would rather eat the worst by themselves, but also save money to buy milk powder and supplements for their daughter.
When the daughter is sick, they will carry the child to the hospital for the first time in the middle of the night.
Eat and wear, they all go out of their way to give their daughter the best.
The couple looked forward to the female becoming a phoenix.
They hope that their daughter will live a good life in the future, no longer eating the bitterness of her generation's food facing the loess and facing the sky, but living a hard life of tight clothing and food.
The Cao family couple in the 1980s, although they were in the countryside, already had their own vision:
Reading can change destiny.
Therefore, from the first day of their daughter's schooling, the couple often has a similar mantra:
"Our family is all up to you." You don't have to worry about anything, just study hard! ”
"Washing dishes, washing clothes, cooking, you don't have to touch it, you just need to study with peace of mind."
Xiao Cao Qian was obedient and sensible, and got the award all the way to the soft hand.
Three good students, excellent student cadres, the first place in a single subject...
There are so many awards in the home that they can't be pasted on a wall.
Cao Qian, a good student, is also a good child who is considerate of her parents' hard work.
Whenever the farm is busy, she will take the initiative to cook.
If it is time for dinner and her parents have not returned, the little one will send the meal to the field for her parents to eat.
At this time, mother Liu Hongyu will always put down the work at hand and hold her daughter's face to praise a few words.
And her father, Cao Zhaogang, buried his own relief and emotion, and rebuked her in a harsh tone:
"Go home and study!"
"Your task is to study hard!"
……
Time flies.
Before the age of 19, Cao Qian hardly let her parents worry too much.
Perhaps, the tragedy has begun.
Parents pay more attention to their children's learning, but never really enter the inner world of their children.
Cao Qian has become the pride of her parents and has become a "child of others" who is envied by other parents.
In the 1998 college entrance examination, Cao Qian's college entrance examination score exceeded the line by several tens of points.
The distant side of happiness was beckoning to her home.
Everything is just as the Cao family and his wife hope, and life is getting better.
02. Frustrated female Cao Qian
The college entrance examination is a major turning point in a person's life.
Cao Qian's college entrance examination score is ideal, and it is also important to fill in the college entrance examination volunteer.
Who would have thought that there was a major disagreement between parents and daughters over the matter of volunteering.
"The sea is wide and the fish leap, and the sky is high for the birds to fly."
Cao Qian longs for a broader world, where she can leave the shackles of her parents without the shackles of her parents.
In the heart of the well-behaved woman Cao Qian, a seed of rebellion has long been planted.
Now, when the time comes, the seed of rebellion has taken root.
Cao Qian made up her mind and went to the south to go to college.
She no longer had to get her parents' consent for everything, as she did when she was a child.
She volunteered for herself.
The first and second and third choices all enrolled in schools in the South.
Parents, on the other hand, hope that their daughters can report to Liaoning Normal University at their doorstep.
First, the daughter is close to home, do not worry about her safety;
Second, my daughter graduated as a teacher, and her job was stable and decent.
After the father Cao Zhaogang learned that his daughter Cao Qian had filled in the volunteers on her own initiative, he jumped like a thunderbolt and slapped his daughter in anger.
This slap, in the heart of her daughter Cao Qian, planted the seeds of resentment.
The daughter complained about her grievances: "I want to leave my hometown and go to the south to see and see." ”
The father shouted angrily, "You are a girl, why are you running so far?" I think Liaoning Normal University is very good. ”
The first head-on battle between parents and daughters, Cao Qian lost.
Reluctantly, she refilled her third wish: Liaoning Normal University.
She still had a glimmer of hope in her heart, after all, her first and second choices were all schools in the south, and her wish to go to college in the south was still possible.
Reality gave Cao Qian a blow in the head.
The more she didn't want anything, the more she came.
She waited, waited, waited for the acceptance letter of Liaoning Normal University.
The parents happily invited relatives to drink and congratulate.
Only Cao Qian was depressed and secretly shed tears.
Her parents got their wish, but Cao Qian began to let herself go in college.
After reading the Normal University and the major she didn't want to study, Cao Qian's hatred for her parents grew day by day.
Where did she think of her parents' suffering?
With her parents' income, it was already very difficult for her to go to high school, but for Cao Qian, they gritted their teeth and insisted, and never said a word of embarrassment in front of their daughter Cao Qian.
Cao Qian went to college, and they were secretly worried about money!
Fortunately, after going to college, Cao Qian applied for the school's hardship grant, plus a scholarship, and they only had to bear her living expenses.
After going to college, Cao Qian's rebellion officially broke out.
In college, Cao Qian is very interested in learning foreign languages, and she can tell stories to her classmates fluently in foreign languages.
But for professional classes, she didn't like it too much.
She and her classmates skipped class and had a lot of fun.
The final result is that in the sophomore year, there are 6 hanging subjects.
If this continues, Cao Qian is likely to be unable to finish her career.
The Cao family reprimanded their daughter and began to reflect on themselves, and had some guilt and regret for their arbitrary interference in their daughter's volunteering.
03. Dream girl Cao Qian
Cao Qian, in her bones, is actually a smart and studious girl.
She also began to worry about what to do if she couldn't finish her career.
In her sophomore year, by chance, Cao Qian learned that the school had a place to study abroad.
She was moved.
To apply for study abroad, you need excellent results, Cao Qian, who has already hung up the subject, did not shrink back and be discouraged, but picked up the textbook and studied hard for the dream.
Kung Fu pays off.
She finally applied for the opportunity to study abroad.
Cao Qian read one night in her junior year.
After dinner, Cao Qian solemnly said to her parents:
"I got the qualification to study abroad, and I can't finish my career anyway, so I want to go abroad."
Her excitement was palpable:
"Going abroad is equivalent to plating yourself with a layer of gold, and it is easy to find a job after returning home."
A penny, a hero is difficult!
"How much does it cost to go abroad?"
Father asked cautiously.
"70,000."
Cao Qian downplayed it.
"So much? Where do we go to grab 70,000 yuan, so many years, we have saved ten thousand. Father said in horror.
"No, that's too far, you'll suffer." When the mother saw the situation, she rushed to persuade her.
Cao Qian was splashed with cold water by her parents, very unhappy, and broke out after a moment of silence:
"It was you who asked me to choose the school you liked, so I couldn't go to school in the south, and now I have the opportunity to go abroad, and you don't let me go out, so how long are you going to control me?"
That night, my parents had a sleepless night.
The father said: "A girl who runs so far, how can she reassure her family?" ”
The mother said, "I really don't want her to suffer so far away." ”
The father said: "Last time, because of the volunteering, I had a grudge against us, and this time I didn't send her abroad, I was afraid that I would hate and hate." ”
The mother said: "Yes, I can't say that I can't say that I didn't send her abroad, but with so much money, who to borrow?" Alas..."
The father said, "I can only borrow it, so who will I borrow it?" ”
The mother muttered to herself, "Borrow it and pay it back." ”
……
In order to realize his daughter's dream of going outside to see, his father Cao Zhaogang cheekily borrowed money everywhere.
Who doesn't know about his family?
Who would lend it to him?
There was no way, he only played a trick on his sister, and reluctantly borrowed 60,000 yuan.
Cao Zhaogang gave his only daughter Cao Qian, who had been begged for by his old destiny, which he had never seen in his life, and was neatly stacked, to his only daughter Cao Qian, who had been raised with hard work, and the money carried the hope of their whole family!
Cao Qian did not have the joy that her father expected.
She didn't say a word of thanks, she didn't call him Daddy, and she walked away without looking back.
Cao Zhaogang and Liu Hongyu never dreamed that their daughter's turn was a lifetime.
The end of the world, there will never be another day.
04. Absolute love woman Cao Qian
Parents are always afraid of giving less to their children, and children are always afraid of giving more to their parents.
Cao Zhaogang and Liu Hongyu are desperately trying to repay their daughters.
At this time, Cao Qian still has a hint of gratitude to her parents.
Before going abroad, Cao Qian repeated in front of her roommates more than once: "Living abroad is stressful, and her parents are old, so they will have to earn living expenses on their own in the future." ”
Year 2000.
Carrying 70,000 pieces, 21-year-old Cao Qian successfully flew to Germany.
She wanted to breathe fresh air freely, but it was difficult.
Her biggest obstacle was not knowing German, and it took her two years to work on It.
Initially, she would call her parents to report that she was safe.
But the cross-border phone call of eight dollars a minute made her heart ache.
So she switched from calling to writing letters to home.
During her three years in Germany, she wrote only two letters to her family.
The content of the letter is much the same:
First, a brief introduction to the latest situation;
Besides, there is no money, so ask your parents directly for money.
As for whether her parents were doing well or not, she never cared.
Where she took care of her parents' old debts, she added new debts.
Her parents complained about her while they hurt her.
If the daughter is alone, why will the parents stand by and watch?
In this way, Cao Zhaogang and Liu Hongyu successively owed 33,000 yuan of foreign debt to their daughters.
With debts high, Cao Zhaogang and Liu Hongyu have been overwhelmed by the unbearable life.
They don't understand why their daughter never cares how they are doing.
Cao Qian's parents are not wrong, thousands of fathers in China, is not it just such a generation after generation?
Cao Qian's parents, because of the guilt of filling in the volunteer, did not dare to reject the child, and Cao Qian, also believes that all the suffering she suffers abroad is caused by her parents.
Cao Qian, the hatred for her parents, has never diminished.
Once, when her parents waited for their daughter Cao Qian to call, she actually said that she wanted money as soon as she opened her mouth.
Father Cao Zhaogang could not bear it any longer, and scolded with grief and indignation:
"You want money, you want our lives."
"I thought you were dead and didn't want to contact us again!"
After saying that, he hung up the phone heavily.
"A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word is cold in June."
Cao Qian, who thought that her parents would respond to every request, was stunned, and after about 30 seconds of touching, she snorted coldly and gritted her teeth and said:
"I won't look for you when I die!"
Father is talking angry; Cao Qian, on the other hand, was speaking harshly.
The distance of the heart is already farther than the distance of space.
Poor Cao Qian's mother, Liu Hongyu, had not yet had time to speak to her daughter, who was thinking about it day and night, and said while crying angrily:
"It's hard to wait for the call, you're murdering her, you're a dead old man."
Cao Zhaogang was both distressed by his wife and daughter, and he said guiltily:
"I can't help but lose my temper, next time I apologize to her."
05. Unfilial daughter Cao Qian
Cao Qian, who let go of the harsh words, did not contact her family for two years.
In 2005, Chinese New Year's Eve.
"This year my daughter should come back for the New Year, right?"
Liu Hongyu asked Cao Zhaogang.
Cao Zhaogang looked out the door, silent, and continued to chop wood with his head down.
During the meal, Cao Zhaogang placed another pair of dishes and chopsticks.
As soon as Cao Qian returned home, she could immediately eat the hot meals made by her parents.
Wait, wait, wait.
Other houses, laughter, lively.
His home, long and short sighs, cold and clear.
Cao Zhaogang and Liu Hongyu were both worried and afraid:
She's busy?
Is she having a bad time?
Something happened to her
……
They never expected:
Daughter Cao Qian, she didn't want to pay attention to them.
Cao Zhaogang and his wife sat in a difficult position.
They contacted the Consulate General in Hamburg through the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, and the consulate staff immediately found Cao Qian's address and telephone number.
However, Cao Qian refused to meet.
Under German law, Cao Qian could not be forced to appear.
Once this matter is stranded, it is 5 years!
In this way, the couple relied on each other for their lives and spent the darkest five years of their lives depressed.
As parents, the edifice of faith in their hearts has collapsed, how can they spend the rest of their lives in peace?
Cancer cells, take advantage of the void.
In 2020, Cao Zhaogang suffered from kidney cancer, and his wife Liu Hongyu was also diagnosed with breast cancer.
The house was full of medicines that the two men usually took.
Almost all of the income is used to buy medicines.
At that time, the couple struggled to survive on the low security.
1030 yuan, to buy medicine, to repay the money, the rest of the living expenses, it is more than a hundred yuan.
Both husband and wife wanted to see their only daughter again before they died.
The neighbors couldn't take it anymore.
So, with the help of the village committee, they contacted the reporter.
They told reporters:
"Will there be any danger to my daughter abroad?" Will someone kill you? ”
"I and my wife have cancer, I hope to find my daughter through the media, even if I can't meet, as long as my daughter is still alive, I can do it safely, and I don't have any extravagant hopes."
……
"The crowd gathered firewood and the flame was high."
With the help of countless caring people, Cao Zhaogang and his wife finally had the news of Cao Qian:
She has succeeded in her studies and has become a tenured professor at the University of Munich in Germany;
She is married to a local and has a happy marriage.
Behind all the good news, there is bad news, Cao Qian said indifferently when she learned that her parents were critically ill:
"I don't have time to go home."
She really doesn't have time to go home?
No!
Shockingly, a German Chinese found information on Cao Qian's return to China at the customs.
Cao Qian, who arrived in Shanghai on August 5, 2004, found a male friend of hers and flew back to Germany 12 days later.
The male friend confirmed that this was true.
Some indignant netizens found Cao Qian:
"What did your parents do to you?"
Cao Qian said excitedly:
"Their perverted control over me made it impossible for me to breathe, and I left home for Germany just to escape them!"
After Cao Qian's parents learned of Cao Qian's news, her mother Liu Hongyu hid her face and cried bitterly, and her father Cao Zhaogang was unusually calm:
"What is she doing now?" Have children? Can you give me a call home? ”
Then he said:
"Cao Qian is too sharp, she will not take the initiative to call home."
At the end, Cao Zhaogang wiped his tears and said, "It is good that she is alive, and our old two do not want her to retire." ”
What is even more poignant is that in the face of overwhelming reports, Cao Zhaogang panicked:
"Give her publicity, give her exposure, her professors may not be able to do it, I am very worried."
What a stark contrast?!
Parents compromise with their children and only ask her to be well.
Children resent their parents and only want to stay away from their parents.
"The crow knows how to feed, and the cow knows to kneel."
And Cao Qian?
I had already lived a happy life, but I forgot where my roots were.
She enjoys her parents' efforts with peace of mind, and takes her parents' indifference for granted.
"It is better for a man to be filial to his relatives than to be a man of grass and wood."
Today, Cao Qian is 43 years old.
His parents are dead, and the graves are already covered with wild grass.
When she loves her husband and children deeply and knows her past in anonymity, will she leave her?
Will she wake up from a nightmare in the dead of night?