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Slow down, you will focus on the attention, you can feel the present a little more, you can focus on doing one thing, you can have a reflection and awareness of this thing, this is metacognition. Jump out of the process of your own thinking, let the other self perceive your own thinking process, and understand the feelings. To be aware of our old mental model, jump out and see it, and constantly adjust and iterate and upgrade.
Altruistic feeling happy: there are many people in the class today, customers are busy when they come together, I am doing my work, when I realize that my work is not limited by time, I choose to put down my work to spontaneously help SA receive customers and do what I can. I was particularly focused on a job that wasn't part of my job. I used to be the kind of mental model that didn't care about myself, and I didn't want to help because I was afraid that if I helped others, I would make a mess of others. I have a good heart and dare not do good deeds, and I have a sense of teamwork but I am afraid of taking responsibility. After a year of study, I have unconsciously changed. Today is a simple way to help our team from the heart, without thinking about anything else, without being afraid to help. It's a joy to be part of the team.
At lunchtime, I took the initiative to choose to stay, afraid that the front desk would be alone, and the 24-hour hotline of the customer office was not answered. I don't think about that, and I don't look at what other colleagues choose. I only look at myself, I ask my heart, I choose altruism, I feel happy.
Challenge the unknown to feel changes in emotions: Campbell says that when people say they are looking for meaning in life, what they are really looking for is a profound experience of life. You are the secret you have been seeking.
Before leaving work, there was a sudden heavy rain, and the road home from the unit turned into the sea, and I didn't want to go home with water, although it only took ten minutes to get home. It takes about twenty minutes to get home and change into water shoes to pick up Babe. Today, I chose not to take my colleague's car to take another road to pick up Babe.
As a result, the good guy got off the colleague's car, and the overpass that was originally going to be crossed only to find that he could not go because of the subway closure, and he walked a stop with an umbrella to find the bridge that crossed the road. I think it is good to accept uncertainty, walk the same familiar road every day, change a road today, it is also a new thing, discounted umbrella walking in the rain is also a very good enjoyment.
Cross the road under the bridge because of the ultra-short road, here is not an intersection with red street lights to pass, standing in the traffic, waiting for about five minutes, I felt the anxiety and anxiety in my heart to rise, felt that the time was not enough, a little angry emotions to come out. I guess I chose it myself, to bear the uncertainty of the corresponding occurrence, what do I have to be angry about? Long time is also for safety, in order to cut a short road to save time. Seeing that there was no traffic flow to be cut off, I chose to move slowly across the road, and finally it passed.
Went around a big circle across the road, walked to the corner where there was water, I had to retreat through the other side of the walk, there was no mood swing on the road, I thought that from this side I could buy Babe his favorite Black Forest cake, give Babe a surprise, and clamor to eat for two days. I think the holidays can not take Babe out to play, and the mother to work, to work hard for a week of class, it is not easy, within the scope of the mother can be satisfied to meet the child.
Thinking like this, I bought Babe a cake that he loves to eat, and it is expected that the time will not be enough for my husband to go home to make a meal, afraid that my husband will be hungry, and I bought twist flowers and bread, and he will come back to eat me first and then make dinner.
If this is my model before, seeing that the overpass can not go I will regret choosing to hit the car of a colleague and choose to take this road, I will be upset, anxious, and will complain, the more anxious to pick up the child, the more complaining about everything on the outside, the bad for me on the outside, my own bad luck and so on.
When I change my mental patterns, I can accept that everything happens as it should, and I don't shrink into the familiar cognition that I think is safe, afraid of change and uncontrollable. I have the ability to accept the unknown, to accept uncertainty, to accept challenges. I will accept everything that happens and deal with it with my peaceful heart, stable emotions, and rational thinking strategies. It's a great feeling to explore the world outwards and expand the boundaries of your own acceptance inwards. Becoming more and more powerful. Feel the changing experience.
Babe and I took umbrellas and walked in the rain, chatting together and going home. Although I arrived home late today, I gained a lot today.
Thank you Babe for supporting mom to work in his way,
Thank yourself for choosing to help others, and at the same time you can learn new knowledge,
Thank yourself for stepping out of your comfort zone, expanding the boundaries of your inner acceptance little by little,
Thank you to the neighbors for helping to dry the shoes outside without getting rainy,
Thanks to the boss of the non-violent seed class for going out to learn and sharing it in our group in real time,
Grateful for the beauty of life.
Reading Today:
Fu Jia soldier, ominous weapon. Things or evil, so those who have the Tao are not there.
Gentlemen are on the left, and soldiers are on the right.
Soldiers, ominous weapons, non-gentlemen's weapons.
It is a last resort, and tranquility is the best.
Victory is not beautiful, and the beautiful one is happy to kill. Fu Le murderers cannot aspire to the world.
Ji Shi is still left, and the murder is still right. The general is on the left, the general is on the right, and the funeral is dealt with.
The multitudes of murderers weep with sorrow. Victory, funeral.
Translation:
Weapons are ominous, and even ghosts and gods hate it.
Therefore, the saints of the Word do not approach it.
Gentlemen live on the left, and soldiers fight with the right - they run counter to the opposite.
Weapons are ominous and not used by gentlemen. If you have to use it as a last resort, it is best to treat it calmly.
Don't be complacent when you're victorious, be complacent about killing people. If you take pleasure in killing people, you can't take the world.
Auspicious things are on the left, and mourning is on the right.
The general is on the left and the general is on the right, which is to say that soldiers fight wars with funeral rites to act.
Therefore, most of those who are ready to fight and kill participate with a sad mood. Even if a battle is won, it is handled according to the funeral ritual.
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Author's introduction: Zhou Zhou: a working mother after 80, likes words, cooks literature to heal wounds, and likes all the things she likes;
Non-violent seed class students, learning non-violence, benefiting from non-violence, are committed to following the teacher to spread non-violence.
Doing what you like can also have an impact on others; Have the ability to love yourself, have the strength to love others.