Author: Wu Jingjing Editor: Jia Fangfang
Publisher: Marriage and Family Magazine
"There is always something new in this world chasing you, I am very interested, as long as I work hard to reach it, then why don't I touch it?" 」
He has studied acrobatics, practiced pipa hard, served as a host, and is also an excellent actor with many representative works, who dared to open a company before graduation, and is now a successful producer. Never being satisfied with the status quo and constantly stepping out of the comfort zone seems to have become Tian Hairong's life creed.
This is a woman who does not stop in her career, and in the face of the "mess" that follows in her life, she never hesitates or shrinks back.
Only in front of her relatives, when she is a daughter, a sister, and a mother, will she show her soft and even fragile side.
Gentle and tenacious, peaceful and stubborn, seemingly contradictory, but perfectly integrated, just like the character in her new work "Punch, Mother", and this gentle toughness like water has also made Tian Hairong become her current self.
01
The eldest sister is like a mother
Recently, Tian Hairong has been running for the roadshow of the movie "Punch, Mother", which is also her second time to play "China's good sister" after Zhang Zijun in "Women Don't Cry".
In "Women Don't Cry", the sister Zhang Zijun took her sister and brother to fight against fate and struggle until the career was successful, and in "Punch, Mother", the sister Bai Tong also waved her fist to fate again and shouted "NO".
Being able to capture the character's heart accurately and movingly, thanks to Tian Hairong's acting skills rooted in life, but also because she is also a sister in life, "I have no experience of Bai Tong, but I feel empathy."
Tian Hairong laughed and said that her sister was particularly sensible, not as heartbroken as Bai Yang in the movie. On the day of the interview, her sister Tian Haiyan also sent her pictures: a white magnolia flower, a cup of monkey kui, and a bowl of wontons. She recognized at a glance that it was the kind of ravioli they had eaten when they were young, and the white magnolia was a flower that her mother liked, and when she was a child, her father used to buy it for her mother... Needless to say, you can understand it at a glance.
"It's a natural emotion, just like when my sister was born, I stood next to her little cradle, looking at such a little bit of small hands and feet, although I was still young, I felt very eager to care for her and love her." 」
In the eyes of the younger sister, many major events in life require the sister to make an idea, and the current stable life is also because of the sister. But in Tian Hairong's eyes, she is also very dependent on her sister, "many times it is my sister who takes care of me."
When her mother was seriously ill, Tian Hairong was filming "Golden Branches and Jade Leaves". During that time, she could only go to see her mother after filming every day, and she couldn't help but cry every time she met, but her sister could control her emotions very well and talk and laugh with her mother. "My sister was with my mom almost 24 hours a day, and she said I was her role model, but I felt like she was my role model."
Sister from elementary school Huang Mei drama, before is also an actor, played the heroine, but found that she is more suitable for returning to the family, but also resolutely give up some things, she said to Tian Hairong: "Sister, you are busy at work, I will take the child for you, your child is my child, my child is also your child." ”
Now, the younger sister's son Guan Tian Hairong is called Mommy, Tian Hairong's daughter also calls Her aunt Mommy, and the two children have understood from an early age that they are loved by two mothers. The sisters have walked hand in hand for decades, and that feeling is not expressed in words.
Tian Hairong remembers that when her mother had just died, her sister had said to her, "Sister, I don't have a mother, and you will be my mother from now on." At that time, Tian Hairong was still immature, thinking, "I am so young, how can I be your mother?" ”
But after many years and many things, she found that she did not know when she had subconsciously become a "mother" to her sister, "My feelings for my sister are really both sisters and a mother's responsibility, and the bond of affection of 'eldest sister like mother' cannot be easily cut."
02
Mom's flowers
"Actually, I haven't called out to my mom in 12 years." On Mother's Day this year, Tian Hairong couldn't help but choke up while recording the holiday VCR, when she held a bouquet of gardenias in her arms — her mother's favorite flower.
In the past, when my mother was alive, every May, my father would buy my mother a gardenia or magnolia that she liked, "My father would come back from work and hold the flowers and say to my mother, you see, I bought you flowers, and my mother smiled very happily." So, now when she misses her mother, she buys a bouquet of gardenias.
Mom taught her a lot. For example, how to make a delicious meal, how to knit a beautiful sweater, how to be a beautiful woman with her head held high, and teach her to have someone else in her heart... Therefore, the years when her mother fell ill were also the most difficult years in Tian Hairong's life.
In 2006, when "Women Don't Cry" was a hit and her career was booming, Tian Hairong chose to get married and have a daughter and return to her family. In 2008, my father suddenly suffered a stroke and fell to the ground. In 2010, before my father's condition improved, my mother was diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer. In those 3 years, the most she traveled to and from was the hospital.
For Tian Hairong, it was a time of wandering between hope and despair, but it was also that time that made her more mature and strong.
Because in the late stage, the famous doctors were helpless, and "Golden Branches and Jade Leaves" had just been completed, and the mother died. Nowadays, when it comes to her mother, although Tian Hairong said that "we will meet in heaven and on earth", she still can't help but shed tears of sadness.
"My sister and I were born into a loving family, a family with traditional Chinese virtues." This "loving" family is also a literary and artistic home. His father studied Peking Opera and was a director, and his mother worked as a literary and artistic choreographer. In this atmosphere, Tian Hairong has been familiar with Tang poems and Song ci since childhood, learned brush characters, and practiced pipa for 8 years. Her younger sister Tian Haiyan learned Huangmei opera and sang dao Ma Dan.
"I think the best education that our parents can give us is to give us the greatest liberation and freedom of nature." Apart from the basic moral bottom line, the etiquette of character, and the necessary house rules, their parents never told them what they had to do.
There is no verbal preaching, more of a physical practice. "Just like when I was a child watching Tang poems and Song Ci, my parents didn't force it, but just told us to 'read the 'Three Hundred Tang Poems", not to compose poems and also to chant', and then every time we travel, they will buy some books to bring back, and we will start to read them ourselves."
In addition to artistic influence, what Makes Tian Hairong most grateful is the atmosphere of mutual respect, equality and love that her parents have created for them, "They never forcibly interfere with my decisions, they will communicate with me on an equal footing, and they also respect my decisions, which is also the way I get along with my daughter now."
She will communicate from the child's point of view and listen carefully to the child's ideas. Like friends with her daughter, we make food and crafts together, travel the world together, watch shows, and appreciate world famous paintings, "We get along with a lot of rituals, we will write letters to each other, and we will always give each other small surprises."
Tian Hairong also never forced her daughter to do anything, "The child was born through your body, but it does not belong to you." They are free individuals, they have free souls, and it matters what kind of person they themselves want to be."
Marrying and having a daughter at the best time of her career is a sacrifice in the eyes of outsiders, but it is a happy responsibility for Tian Hairong.
The feeling of being needed is very good, and Tian Hairong feels that this is a necessary stage in life, and it is also a stage where she perceives being needed. Her daughter taught her how to be a mother and taught her another meaning of life.
03
What Grandma said
In the roadshow of "Punch, Mom", the creators talked about the confusion of the sister in the process of raising the child in the movie: "She constantly corrected herself in the confusion and grew up with the child. ”
Hearing "confusion", Tian Hairong was thinking: "It seems that I have never felt confused in my life, I think this should be brought to me by my grandmother." Because her grandmother has always told her to be open-minded and tolerant of others, "You are tolerant, what else is there to be confused about?" Everything can be understood, and there is empathy."
When she was a child, her parents were too busy at work, and Tian Hairong lived with her grandparents. Grandma was very optimistic and open-minded, and she encouraged Tian Hairong to read more and practice words, and took her to read the four famous works.
That kind of edification also brings the yearning for beautiful things. She remembered the emerald green desk lamp in her grandmother's house, the thick green revealed a warm orange light, and her heart was warm when she thought about it; The lamp on the roof of Grandma's house is petal-shaped, and under the light, the raised white flowers are particularly chic; In the small flowers picked by the roadside, Grandma would take a brown glass bowl and pack it, those green leaves have white pink purple yellow flowers, with brown glass bowl... So beautiful!
"My mother was also influenced by my grandmother, who made me clothes when she was a child, cut and sewed well, and embroidered small flowers, which was very chic. I grew up in a beautiful environment. ”
On her daughter's birthday last year, Tian Hairong arranged a warm scene, the scene was full of roses, the mother and daughter stood in the flowers holding a huge bouquet, she said to her daughter: "May you always emit light and smell the fragrance of flowers!" ”
In Tian Hairong's heart, "smelling the flowers" is a very beautiful thing. When I was a child, my grandmother's backyard was a garden with many chrysanthemums. During the Mid-Autumn Festival, Grandma would go to the garden to pick a bunch, and the family would eat crabs while admiring chrysanthemums, "This is called chrysanthemum yellow crab fat." Loquat trees were planted in the yard, and My grandmother would tell me how to grow loquats that would be particularly sweet."
Whenever she remembers this, she still thinks of the soup in the kitchen that is always fragrant, and the sound of crackling stir-fry. She grew up not only in a beautiful environment, but also in a family with fireworks.
Although there was no material abundance in childhood, Tian Hairong never had a sense of scarcity, "I think it is because we grew up in a loving environment and had the guidance of our elders that we were spiritually 'rich'." As Grandma said, even if you don't have particularly gorgeous clothing, keep your clothes clean and tidy, and be a decent person whose head and feet are always clean."
04
The belated "rebellion"
Under the cultivation of her parents and grandparents, Tian Hairong has been a versatile, well-behaved and docile child since she was a child. It's just that her "rebellion" came a little late.
At the age of 20, Tian Hairong was "willful" once. Quitting her job as a local host, she went to Shanghai alone with her bags on her back, bought a train ticket — she was going to apply for the Shanghai Theater Academy.
To this day, she remembers the day. After taking the train for 8 hours, it was early in the morning when she arrived in Shanghai, and she wandered outside the theater door until dawn, ate a bowl of wontons and entered the examination room.
Later, everyone knows the story, and she successfully became a 95-level acting student at the Shanghai Theater Academy.
In his freshman year, he was selected by director Li Shaohong and starred in the TV series "Thunderstorm" in Si feng, and became famous in one fell swoop.
Since then, for more than 20 years, she has successively starred in many excellent works such as "Black Ice", "Women Don't Cry", "Guanzhong Bandits", "Little Woman Under the Gate of Zhengyang" and so on, becoming a well-known powerful actor.
"In fact, I had the idea of acting for a long time, but it was decided in an instant." Speaking of her resignation that year, she said that once in her life, she would still do that, "I can't live a safe and stable life, and when I am young, I will be willing to bet desperately for love."
She admits that she is an independent and even a little tough person, maybe a habit developed by family education and life experience, or it may be born like this, she feels that she can fully bear the consequences of success or failure, in short, "do what you want"!
Fierceness is her style. After graduating from college, she started a film and television company and began working as a producer herself. Because she found that being an actor is too passive, it is too difficult to meet a good script, a good director and a good team, "What if you can't touch it?" Then I'll do it myself."
Shortly after graduation, she produced her first drama " Lost in the Sea " . At the age of 24, she began to take the initiative in her career, which allowed her to focus on acting with ease.
Therefore, when the outside world is talking about age anxiety and the crisis of middle-aged actresses, she still methodically adheres to her ideals and plays her favorite roles. For her, age means experience, she enjoys every minute and every second of the past and the present, even forgetting the passage of time, "I am an actor, I can play at any time, I can play any role, calm my mind, there is a lot less anxiety."
Respect the years and accept the changes brought about by age. In Tian Hairong's view, women at different stages have unique charms. As actresses, mature women will have a unique temperament that has been precipitated over the years, and will have the experience brought by continuous growth, which are valuable advantages. Those tribulations or setbacks in life will turn into nutrients for growth, strong and independent, calm and strong.
Tian Hairong, who has managed her life and work very well, is now in a comfortable and comfortable state: she devotes herself to work and plays every role well; Spend time with your daughter in your spare time, raise flowers, read books, and get fit. Recently, she has been learning to play table tennis and is also studying the Chinese film system.
At the age of 20, her "rebellion" turned into "ambition" at the age of 46 — in addition to being a good actress, she also had to become a good filmmaker.