Overheard Jackie Chan's music album "I'm Still Jackie Chan":
It is an autobiography written in music.
He sang a song to his childhood, his brothers, his parents, his wife, his sons, and his next generation.
Although I knew that there would never be a song for the little dragon girl, I still felt a little sorry.
But, he said: My childhood was different from yours, I was sent to drama school when I was more than six years old, practicing every day, being beaten every day...
Who else had a more bitter childhood than his own?
And who gave him sympathy?
There were a few details that stabbed me a little.
One song is where he says parents:
The two people who met in the chaotic world had been married and had children before.
People who have more children don't care much about each one.
His parents decided to go to Australia to make a living, so they sent Jackie Chan to the drama class. Since then, life or death has not been a matter.
It wasn't until more than a decade later that my parents re-met with Jackie Chan, who was already an adult.
But when Jackie Chan talks about his parents, it's all tenderness, he said that his father saved money and bought him a house in Hong Kong - did his parents live in their own?
In short, he forgave his parents.
Another song is that he said the name of the ancestor of the house:
He blamed himself, he said the famous Internet paragraph, he had a sudden idea, went to the child's school to pick up the child from school, only to find that the child had already graduated.
He does not shy away from the drug use of the ancestors of the house, using the term "making mistakes" to describe, but also said: should not give the child's life too good.
I laughed at this sentence.
The whole world is sighing: Fang Zu's name has never received love from his father since he was a child. But my father said that the fault was that he gave too much and was too good.
At that moment, I deeply realized that in this matter alone, Jackie Chan had completely forgiven himself.
Don't get me wrong.
I don't have such strong feelings for any star.
I have had a period of watching Hong Kong movies, I have seen almost all of Jackie Chan's movies, his flexible skills, his humor, he always sings songs in minor keys, all very cute.
His messy marriage, I also hold a more lenient mood:
For Jackie Chan, marriage is not important, and children do not matter at all.
What he prefers is filming and brotherhood.
He doesn't care about a woman's fidelity, obedience, gentleness – it's the woman herself who does it;
He does not need his son to retire;
He also doesn't care if his children love him or not—it's enough that hundreds of millions of viewers love him.
Moreover, he himself has not lived home, he has not been loved, he has not seen what his husband is like, he does not know what his father is like.
Husband and father are roles he neither wants to play nor intend to play well.
All I think about is how people choose to forgive and cut.
The people and things that annoy and disgust you, you either cut or you have to forgive.
Just like your joint pain, you either have to change an artificial joint or you just put up with it.
So, with regard to the little dragon girl, this is something he can cut, and he cut it, just like their mother and daughter never existed.
I even suspect that he has no apologies or love for the little dragon girl.
It wasn't me who chose to give birth to you, it was your mother's decision to hate her, to hate her.
You're not a smart, beautiful, hard-working woman — no one loves you, and I'm no exception.
If you were good enough to survive in adversity, like I was then, I might love you. But you are not.
But parents and themselves, this is something that cannot be cut.
Especially yourself.
Man cannot live in infinite self-blame, and in the end, he must give himself boundless forgiveness.
And, the more forgiveness you give yourself, the more you blame others.
The more innocent you are, the more other people must be held responsible for all their faults.
Don't be delusional about "keeping him alive in self-blame and repentance."
In the final analysis, the first person who will forgive is himself.
