Venus is the first public transgender person in China, after having sex reassignment surgery, Venus formed her own family and harvested her own happiness. However, before her, there has been a successful case of gender reassignment surgery in China, but the person concerned has not disclosed his identity, so few people know.
The name of China's first transgender person is Zhang Kesha, and she was born into a military family to a major general. But her life path is not easy.
I grew up thinking of myself as a girl
Born in May 1962 in Dalian, Liaoning Province, Zhang Kesha's father was a soldier and a major general. Zhang Kesha's original name was Zhang Kesha, and he changed his name after he underwent sex reassignment surgery. At a very young age, he already thought of himself as a girl. Before Zhang Kesha was born, his parents had raised 5 children and 1 daughter, and he was the youngest child in the family.
Because of his young age, he has been the most favored child in the family since he was a child, whether it is his parents and elders, or his brothers and sisters, they all love him. However, when he was 3 years old, his father's health was getting worse every day, and the family's life became difficult. Later, Zhang Kesha's father returned to his hometown of Hunan with a large family, settled in his hometown, and lived a dull life. Because the family's economic conditions are not as good as before, coupled with the experience of material scarcity.
Zhang Kesha wore a lot of clothes when she was a child, all of which were women's clothes that her sister could not wear, boys wore girls' clothes, and several other boys in the family felt very strange, they would rather wear their father's old clothes than wear their sister's skirts, except Zhang Kesha was an exception. He didn't think there was anything wrong with wearing a skirt, but he thought his sister's clothes were very good.0 Because he looks white, he looks no different from a girl when he wears a skirt.
When the neighbors saw Zhang Kesha, they all mistakenly thought he was a girl. In such a growth environment, Zhang Kesha also gradually changed her cognition. In his heart, he felt that he was indeed a girl, and after going to school, he rarely played sports with his male classmates, but got along well with the girls in the class. The girls are also willing to take him to play with, and even Zhang Kesha's dress is getting closer and closer to the girls.
He grew his long hair and used his pocket money to buy himself a new dress. Because of these things, Zhang Kesha was not ridiculed at school, and male classmates thought he was a freak. Even the teacher had sought out Zhang Kesha's parents and wanted them to take their children to the doctor, which made Zhang Kesha very hurt. He felt like a girl, why should he be pointed out by others, why couldn't they accept it? Feeling depressed in her heart, Zhang Kesha chose to suspend her studies.
First love gave him the courage to be a girl
For a long time after leaving school, Zhang Kesha's mood was very low, he did not feel that he had done anything wrong, but others always looked at him with strange eyes, until he met his first love Xiao Qiang. At that time, Zhang Kesha was only 16 years old, because she was dressed as a girl for many years, coupled with a quiet personality, which deeply attracted him. Xiao Qiang will unconsciously want to get close to Zhang Kesha, and he is also willing to listen to Zhang Kesha's heart.
Seeing that the boy in front of him did not reject himself, Zhang Kesha felt very relieved in his heart, and in the process of chatting between the two, Zhang Kesha told Xiao Qiang that he was a boy, and also told him that he had always regarded himself as a girl in his heart. Xiao Qiang did not show a surprised expression after listening, but instead supported and encouraged him to be a girl. In Xiao Qiang's view, since he has this kind of thought, he should identify with himself.
Not only that, Xiao Qiang also told Zhang Kesha a news he had read in the newspaper. The news said that there is now an international operation, as long as this operation has been performed, men can become women. Xiao Qiang also made a promise that he was willing to learn this technique for Zhang Kesha. Xiao Qiang's concern for him made Zhang Kesha very pleased, and the two established a relationship in this way.
Xiao Qiang is Zhang Kesha's first love and the person who made him rekindle hope for life, but the two did not come to the end. Because later Xiao Qiang chose to join the army and became a soldier. Not long after he joined the army, a Counterattack in Vietnam broke out, and Xiao Qiang went to the front line with a large army. For a long time after that, Zhang Kesha did not receive any more news about Xiao Qiang, and later he learned that Xiao Qiang had died on the battlefield.
The only person who understood himself left himself forever, which was a huge blow to Zhang Kesha. A year later, Zhang Kesha decided to join the army, he wanted to go to the military camp where his first love stayed, he also wanted to see the outside world. In this way, Zhang Kesha entered the army, and in the army, he remembered what Xiao Qiang had said to himself, no matter what time, he should identify with himself.
Therefore, even after entering the army, the military life did not awaken Zhang Kesha's boyish heart, and in the days of the barracks, Zhang Kesha became more and more quiet, occasionally wearing a girl's skirt and looking in the mirror alone. In the barracks, he often remembered the carefree days with Xiao Qiang. He became more and more aware of his own thoughts, and gradually became less concerned about the eyes of others.
Hidden identity part-time workers meet suitors
In April 1982, Zhang Kesha retired from the army after three years of joining the army and returned to her hometown. At that time, he was still a boy, but whether it was from the dress or from the dress, he was more like a young woman. Because of the inconsistency between the dress and the photos on the DOCUMENTS, Zhang Kesha could not handle the procedures after discharge, let alone find a job, and could not even go back to his home. Disheartened, Zhang Kesha chose to go to Dongguan alone.
Coming to a city where he was not familiar with life, Zhang Kesha did not feel confused, but he was more relaxed. Because there was no one here who was him, he could dress himself up every day, wear skirts, have long hair, and even wear makeup. In the eyes of others, Zhang Kesha is a young and beautiful woman. In order to survive in Dongguan, Zhang Kesha entered a toy factory and became a worker in the factory.
He never expected that he would actually attract Mr. Xiao, the owner of the factory. Mr. Xiao is nearly 30 years older than Cheung Kesha and is a wealthy Businessman in Hong Kong. His wife left him first, and for a long time he was alone. Until Mr. Xiao saw Zhang Kesha in his factory, in his eyes, Zhang Kesha was a temperament beauty. She is tall and tall, has a quiet personality, and is deeply liked by Mr. Xiao in all aspects.
Mr. Xiao did not hesitate and immediately began to pursue Zhang Kesha. This incident surprised Zhang Kesha, because he was the truth about the boy's body, he had never told anyone, nor did he want to mention it to others. He did not look up to Mr. Xiao, nor did he want his identity to be exposed. In the face of Mr. Xiao's marriage proposal, Zhang Kesha resolutely rejected the other party. But this incident still made a ripple in his heart, because he thought of his first love.
Made up your mind to have surgery
After rejecting Mr. Xiao's show of affection, Zhang Kesha saw a paper on "sexual identification disorder" in the newspaper, and then took the initiative to contact the author Ruan Fangfu. Under the other party's popular science, Zhang Kesha made up her mind to go to gender reassignment surgery and completely change her gender. In order to go to Beijing for surgery, she also suffered a lot, and she cut down on food and clothing every day, just so that she could get the cost of the operation sooner.
Later, with the help of Ruan Fangfu, Zhang Kesha went to Beijing alone, completed gender reassignment surgery, changed her name, and re-registered, this time she no longer had to worry, she was treated as a man. It was also during this time period that Zhang Kesha met his second boyfriend, Chen Ping. At that time, there were many gossip around Zhang Kesha, but Chen Ping did not care at all, and was single-mindedly good to Zhang Kesha.
The relationship between the two was originally very deep, but when Chen Ping's parents learned that Zhang Kesha was a transgender person, their attitude immediately changed. For the older generation, they can't accept this kind of thing, so they firmly disagree with Chen Ping and Zhang Kesha's love affair. With his parents on one side and Zhang Kesha on the other, Chen Ping had difficulty choosing. Zhang Kesha also knew that without the support of the other party's parents, there would be no good results, so she took the initiative to leave Chen Ping and returned to Dongguan again.
Being threatened for identity
However, what she never expected was that Mr. Xiao, who proposed to herself a few years ago, was still waiting for her. Frustrated, Zhang Kesha also wanted to form a family of her own, this time she agreed to Mr. Xiao's marriage proposal, followed him back to Hong Kong, and became a rich wife. However, Zhang Kesha did not idle at home, she has worked as a model, sold insurance, and done everything to prove that she is not worse than others.
The only thing that makes her feel lost is that the age gap between her and Mr. Xiao is too big, and Zhang Kesha does not seem to have love for Mr. Xiao. Just when she was most lost, Zhang Kesha met a man named Ah Shan, the two can be said to be love at first sight, and soon fell in love, Ah Shan has also proposed many times, hoping that Zhang Kesha can start a new family with herself. But Zhang Kesha hesitated again, she did not know how to face Mr. Xiao.
Just when she was wandering, a Fellow in Changsha knew about her sex reassignment surgery, so he used this excuse to threaten Zhang Kesha and asked her for a sealing fee. Zhang Kesha's savings were all hollowed out, and it was at this time that she chose to go to Taiwan alone. In order to survive, she entered the modeling industry again, and also participated in beauty contests, and after reaching the final, Zhang Kesha also became a small local famous figure.
Later, she entered a restaurant, became a waiter, and with her fame, the business of the hotel gradually improved. At this time, Zhang Kesha met the fifth man in his life, Ahao. However, Zhang Kesha did not divorce her husband, Mr. Xiao, and the two were more father-daughter love than husband and wife. Later, Mr. Xiao went bankrupt and had no place to live, so Zhang Kesha sent him 3,000 Hong Kong dollars a month and asked someone to take care of him.
Ah Hao is on the mixed road, often going to Zhang Kesha's shop to eat, and the two are familiar with each other when they come and go. Ah Hao has a straightforward personality and has a good feeling for Zhang Kesha, so he directly confessed to her, and the two came together. Later, because of the crime of smuggling, Ah Hao originally wanted to flee Taiwan with Zhang Kesha, but Zhang Kesha persuaded him to turn himself in and said that he would wait for him to come out. In this way, Ah Hao was arrested by the police, and Zhang Kesha waited in Taiwan.
Unexpectedly, in 2002, she received the news of her husband's death and did not see the last side of her husband. After wandering for many years, she returned to Hong Kong, and this time when she returned, she found that Mr. Xiao had long known that he was transgender, but he had not said it. It turned out that among Mr. Xiao's relics was a 1988 newspaper with news of her transgenderism. At this time, she understood that her husband chose silence in order to protect her and prevent her from being hurt.
Write at the end
Her husband died, the family was broken, and at her saddest time, she received news of her mother's death. This time Zhang Kesha was really tired, and she didn't want to continue wandering outside. She finally understood that when she encountered a problem, it was better to face it than to run away. Therefore, she chose to return to her hometown of Changsha and face the doubts of others. In order to make more people accept the transgender group, she wrote an autobiography called "Women's Dreams". Being a woman is her lifelong dream, she has hurt, hurt, loved, and been happy, so she has misunderstood the suffering she has suffered.
Now that Zhang Kesha is nearly a year old, who she met later and what she experienced, although she does not know. But the moment she dared to show her experience of the first half of her life in front of the public, it showed that she had no fear.
Zhang Kesha, who had a rough half life, finally reconciled with herself, and for her, this is her best destination.