Today is the 3131st day of intensive reading to accompany you throughout your lifelong growth
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In May last year, a video by Peking University mathematical genius Wei Dongyi was widely circulated on the Internet.
Carrying a bag of steamed buns and a bottle of water, he awkwardly answered reporters' questions, but inadvertently revealed the fact that he was sent to Peking University to study because of his excellent math competition results.
For a time, the contrast between appearance, conversation and strength made Wei Dongyi quickly become popular on the Internet.
How strong is his strength:
He solved advanced math problems in elementary school and was sent to the national Olympiad team in the second year of junior high school;
A problem that the coach took 3 hours to solve, and he was one hour faster than the coach;
In 2008, he represented the country in the International Mathematics Olympiad, and he crushed everyone with 1:7 answer time, and finally won the championship with full scores, which was also the only time in Chinese history that he scored a full score and was crowned a god in world war.
Since then, all the awards of domestic related competitions have been won by him.
In order to win him over, Harvard University once broke the century-old school rules for him and gave him a series of preferential conditions, and he simply refused with a simple sentence of "I am not good at English".
Today's "Wei Shen" is an assistant professor at Peking University, teaching students to solve puzzles and silently contributing to the scientific research of the motherland.
Two days ago, "Wei Shen" was once again on the hot search because of the strength of "dimensionality reduction strike".
According to a chat record published by popular science blogger @thief fork, a team of six PhDs spent more than four months unable to complete a product test because of problems with the handling of a mathematical equation.
Subsequently, a member of the team thought that he had a classmate at Peking University, so he tried to ask his classmates to contact Wei Dongyi for help.
When Wei Dongyi sent all the equations, the team successfully debugged overnight, and the matching rate with the real experimental data in the past was as high as 99.8%.
This result made the team shout "too super god".
In order to show their gratitude, they insisted on giving Wei Dongyi a cash reward. But Wei Dongyi said that it was too simple and there was no need to ask for money.
After repeated persistence, they finally recharged the municipal transportation card for Wei Dongyi.
In this regard, the dean of Peking University's School of Mathematics said: Others can't do it, and it is very common for Wei Dongyi to be able to do it.
"First, Wei Dongyi is very smart. Second, he was very attentive and did math. His own way of life is relatively simple, or when he was a student, we also respected his wishes. ”
The bright and beautiful identity of Peking University teachers and the simple and unpretentious living habits make it difficult for people to imagine that this is the teacher of Peking University.
"Sluggish eyes, unclear language", let many people involuntarily equate the bully and the nerd.
I remember not long ago I also saw a video that netizens pulled out deeply, Wei Dongyi got off the plane after participating in the Olympiad when he was 18 years old, and was surrounded by reporters who picked him up.
In the face of the reporter's desperate pursuit, he refused to interview and was angry.
A series of actions seem to once again verify the world's impression of many high-IQ people: they can only engage in academics, people are very smart, but their emotional intelligence is low.
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Why do people always think that people with high IQs must have low emotional intelligence?
Because most people narrow emotional intelligence into a "ability to make others comfortable", but in fact, a person with a high IQ, as long as he is willing, must be able to make others comfortable.
But most of the time, he didn't think it was cost-effective.
Just like people like "Wei Shen", it is not that they can't learn to be clever, they can't learn to "make others comfortable", it's just that they despise it, and they have more interesting things.
Someone interviewed Li from Zhili College of Tsinghua University: How do you think of "Peking University Wei Shen"?
Li, who had been in contact with "Wei Shen", said that Wei Shen himself was very humble and enthusiastic, and did not have a genius-style arrogance. For the appeals of others, always do not hesitate to give help, give lectures to students, and try to understand them as easily as possible.
In the eyes of Tsinghua Xueba, Wei Shen is a person with a sound personality and good qualities, a mathematical genius with high professional ability, and a "nerd" in the eyes of others.
Professor Ding, a doctoral supervisor at Peking University, also said:
"Wei Dongyi is completely normal, he is no different from us in any way, only one difference is that mathematics is too good."
If you look closely, you will find that they are not at all like the usual saying that life can not take care of themselves, will not go to that extent.
Let's just say that they often ignore many aspects of life that ordinary people care about, he feels that it is not important, he does not have time to take care of these things. ”
I don't know if you have found that in real life, the more people who have bad brains, the more they have a lot of scheming.
Because they have limited ability to do serious things, their attention is naturally focused on clever words and people.
Truly intelligent people are very clear about their goals, and do not waste time pandering to people and things that do not help the goal, but strive to focus on the things that are worthwhile with the least cost.
Therefore, they will not care about how others evaluate their appearance, and they do not care about whether they are on the hot search.
For example, for his popularity on the Internet, Wei Dongyi said that this has hardly changed himself.
He was given a kettle, but he said he was most accustomed to using the 1.5-liter bottle of mineral water that had been torn off.
When talking about mathematics, Wei Dongyi said: "It is possible that I like mathematics, so I don't feel that hard work is a very tiring thing." ”
Because he did not want to spend his energy on dressing up and a worldly life that was pleasant, he did everything from simplicity, whether it was life or interpersonal relationships, and left enough time and energy to focus on the mathematics he was interested in.
"Eat and drink, do not change their enjoyment", probably referring to Wei Dongyi's living conditions.
03
It is widely believed that a person with a paranoid personality and not being sleek enough is a manifestation of "low emotional intelligence".
Therefore, the "bad tempered" Jobs has always been considered a representative of "low emotional intelligence".
But during His lifetime, Jobs was able to make long-term friends with almost everyone he admired and liked. For example, Woz, a computer genius 5 years older than him, Bob Dylan, a famous singer, and Campbell, a leadership coach, etc.
Those who hinder him, he will solve them mercilessly and efficiently, but the people he admires have invariably become his friends.
It is not so much that he has low emotional intelligence, but that he is more direct in his expression. He is accustomed to expressing his views and emotions in a love-hate manner in order to achieve his goals efficiently.
Perhaps he has already anticipated what others say about him and acquiesced to it, so he tends to deal with relationships in a more liberal way.
In his view, wasting energy to cater to those who have no help to the goal, in exchange for the world's "high emotional intelligence" evaluation, is a net loss in life.
The word "emotional intelligence", the correct name is "emotional intelligence", is an ability to control one's own emotions, identify the emotions of others, and make emotions serve as goals.
High emotional intelligence is by no means an emotional control of "making everyone feel comfortable", but "what you want others to feel, others can feel".
You want the other person to feel your sincerity, he feels it, so you have established cooperation;
You want the other person to feel your anger, he feels it, so he doesn't dare to make any more progress;
You want the other person to feel your vicious and vicious eyes will be rewarded, he feels it, so he does not dare to disturb your life again.
Conveying emotions and always serving their goals is the real high emotional intelligence.
Schopenhauer wrote this passage:
"How a young man has an early insight into personnel affairs, is familiar with the world, and knows how to hand over and maneuver with people very early on, which indicates that his nature is mediocre. On the contrary, if a young man, surprised and surprised by the way the world behaves, behaves clumsily and obediently in his dealings, it shows that he has noble qualities. ”
Deeply.
Douyin blogger @Yuge Soaring High Voice mentioned in the video he shared that there are two kinds of human wisdom, one is secular wisdom, that is, the accurate understanding and effective use of existing value systems.
The other is philosophical wisdom, a comprehensive reflection on existing value systems and a profound insight into fundamental life problems.
If you pursue worldly wisdom too much, you will find that you are social, corporate, and other than yourself, and gradually you will live like thousands of others.
From a secular point of view, this way of living is not necessarily unhappy, it can even be called success, but it wastes the opportunity to be born as a human being.
And "being surprised and surprised by the way the world behaves" reflects a person's critical and reflective nature towards the existing value system, and this philosophical wisdom can allow people to maintain spiritual freedom and thus live a more wonderful self.
Jobs and Wei Dongyi are intelligent people with philosophical wisdom, who are concerned with "how to change the world" and "what will happen in the future", so they can plunge into their own world and create their own independent empire without distraction.
Such a maverick, of course, is easy to misunderstand, but they have not thought of letting these people understand themselves, and having genius partners of the empire is enough.
True emotional intelligence is to be the best of yourself first, and then to think about how to get along with the world; not to get along well with the world, everyone evaluates high emotional intelligence, but they don't know themselves clearly.
Finally, to conclude with a passage from Jobs:
Your time is limited, so don't waste your time in someone else's life. Don't be bound by rules, or you'll live as a result of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise from other people's opinions drown out your inner voice.
Most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and instincts, and they may already know what kind of person you actually want to be. Everything else is secondary.
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