I have seen such a question on Zhihu:
"What if someone stops contacting you?"
At the bottom there is a high praise answer that reads:
"Find out why, understand reality, don't be sad, don't bother."
Everyone understands the reason, but there are still people who frequently ask the other party why they do not take the initiative to contact themselves.
Everyone is an adult, and some things really don't have to be too blunt.
Not taking the initiative is not caring, not contacting is actually not loving.
When a person no longer initiates contacting you, so let's do it.
Not to contact is to want to withdraw from your world
A man contacts you frequently, not because he is idle, but because you are important to him.
And if a person who contacts you frequently suddenly stops taking the initiative,
That must have been someone he met who was more important than you.
Love does not disappear, but it does.
Some people love you just because you're shiny and sparkling;
When your shortcomings are gradually exposed to him over time, he will dislike you in various ways.
Even if he doesn't say it, he will act honestly.
Once upon a time, the connection between you was mostly his initiative;
He will take the initiative to chat with you, take the initiative to share his life with you, and take the initiative to care about you.
But once he chases you down and realizes that you are not so perfect and have your own shortcomings;
He'd look at your filter before and it would shatter.
Gradually, in this relationship, he no longer takes the initiative;
Even sometimes, when you take the initiative, he may not respond to you enthusiastically.
It's more perfunctory, impatient, and unwilling to take care of it.
In Juno, the father said this to the woman:
"Find someone who loves you the way you are, whether it's a good temper or a bad temper;
Ugly or beautiful, love everything about you. ”
So, when a person who only loves your strengths, but can't tolerate your shortcomings, no longer contact you;
You should feel lucky, then, wave goodbye calmly.
Don't contact, don't ask why
Host Cai Kangyong said this:
"If he misses you, he will look for you, and if he cares about you, he will say;
If he likes you, he will reveal his true feelings; if none of this happens, then he will not bother you. ”
Seriously.
You have been loved by him and know exactly what it is like for him to love someone;
Similarly, when he doesn't love you anymore, I believe you can detect it in the first place.
Adults no longer take the initiative to contact, to put it bluntly, they want to break up with you.
Because I don't love anymore, I don't want to continue with you.
Why do some people obviously not love, but never take the initiative to break up?"
I think it may be afraid of trouble, afraid of breaking up, you will cry, will make trouble, will collapse;
And they don't want to face such a scene.
It may also be that he is afraid of breaking up, in this relationship, he has become a bad person and has been guilty for a lifetime.
Therefore, I am deadlocked with you like this, and I want to use evasive, indifferent ways to force you to take the initiative to break up.
Then bring yourself into the hurting role, as if that's the only way to get away with it.
So ah, when you realize that he no longer loves you and no longer contacts you;
Then stop here, from now on the end of the world is strange, each has nothing to do with each other.
If you don't contact, don't be silly to remember
I have to admit that love is sometimes quite cruel.
It is a thing that is completely out of proportion to the payoff and the gain.
The theory that giving must be rewarded may apply anywhere except love.
So, when a person no longer takes the initiative to contact you, don't worry about the other person all day long.
He's not very busy, it's not that the phone is broken, he really doesn't want to contact you anymore.
I like this sentence:
"Enthusiasm that does not get a response, you must know how to stop at the right time, when others don't need you;
You have to learn to walk away, a little more self-aware, a little less self-indulgent. ”
Love requires two people to work together and go in both directions to have meaning.
If, in the end, love becomes your own effort, a one-person thing;
Forget it, stop torturing yourself.
In this world, where there is a reunion, there will be separation, and we must get used to the company of others;
Get used to the drifting away of others.
The rest of your life is long, and you will always meet the person who will always be active with you.