Life Screenplay
Your early childhood experience determines how you will live and how you will die. This is the life script, and no matter where you go in the future, this script will always be in your head and guide you to make decisions.
Humans can make rational decisions about some things that are not important, but for those important things in life, people have actually decided them as early as infancy.
Who will marry, how many children will be born later, what kind of bed will die, and who will die next to them. What will happen in the future may not be everyone's favorite, but it is still guided by some invisible force.
Do you feel the same way? The above description comes from the famous American psychologist Eric Bourne.
Do you have a vague idea of your life plan at an early age and continue to act toward your plan as you grow up? Who gave you these vague guidances to give you a vague direction and desire for life?
If everyone is a blank piece of paper at the beginning of their birth, who is the first to leave a mark on this white paper? In his famous book "Life Script", Eric has this description: "The life script is similar to a lasting life plan, the individual will be formed under the pressure of his parents when he is young, and once the individual enters the life script, no matter how he struggles and how hard he tries, there is an invisible psychological force that pushes him to the final end of his destiny." ”
How scripts affect people in early childhood and childhood
When a baby has just emerged from the womb of his mother, the world is huge and empty for him, and during this period the individual has no language system, does not think independently, has only the most fragile vital signs, and any external influence may threaten the individual's life.
As an independent individual, in the process of growing up, people must continue to learn and find ways to survive in society.
As a result, babies can only cry loudly to remind their mother that they are hungry or that it is time to change their diapers, and will seek their mother's comfort, from which they can get a sense of security and inner satisfaction.
If the parent does not respond positively to the baby's feelings at this stage, it is possible that he will not trust the parents when he grows up. According to the infant's thinking, people like their father and mother should not be close and trusted, and even feel that everyone in society is untrustworthy.
When the child grows up, if the parents often quarrel, the child will naturally think that his birth is a mistake, that he is not needed and should not exist.
In the process of growing up, weak children continue to receive the message of "dad is very grumpy, mom is very gentle", and will gradually produce the idea of "I can't be as grumpy as dad, I must be gentle like mom, in order to get the love of others".
And in order to achieve this, the child will refuse to be as naughty as other boys, trying to make himself a quiet and gentle person. Because playing like the other boys seemed rude to him, he didn't want to be like a dad.
All of these examples can be called early decisions, simple judgments made by individuals when they are in infancy or childhood and receive a variety of external information.
As a result, you are perfectly capable of drawing your own life script in your mind based on your own childhood experiences.
Native family sets your life script
In this way, the life script has an important reference role for a person's fate. Scripts can also reasonably explain why some people don't get what they want for the rest of their lives.
When individuals draw life scripts, most of them are children, and this script is also based on the individual's perception of the world at that time. Therefore, the original family will play a crucial role in the setting of the life script.
The words and deeds of parents will greatly affect the child, if the parent is a winner in life, then the life script passed on to the child will also be a winner in life. However, the life script is not static, although the original family will have a huge impact on the individual, but the ending is still up to each person to choose.
Modify your script
If you want to change your life script, you must know what your life script is like, first of all, you must recall the most impressive things and details of your childhood, and secondly, carefully recall the major events that have happened in your life.
Observe how these things happen and focus on how you feel during them. When you know where your life script is going, you can start trying to change it, but what is the specific method? The answer is to live to the death and change your established life script by re-narrating it.
Simply put, it is to say goodbye to your previous life completely, live a new life, completely break with your past self, follow your true thoughts in your heart, and modify your life script.