Revisiting "The Hidden Corner", I understand how cruel Xu Jing's "forcing Zhang Dongsheng to divorce" is

Zhang Dongsheng, the son-in-law who came home from work, bought vegetables and just arrived at the door to hear his father-in-law say: "There are some things that you can't say well, I went to talk to him." ”

He greeted him warmly when he entered the house with a smile, and his parents came! But what awaited was the indifference of my father-in-law and mother-in-law.

My father-in-law, as if he hadn't seen him, said he would go to the balcony to smoke a cigarette and get up and go to the balcony.

Zhang Dongsheng still said very enthusiastically, just I bought vegetables, and I will eat them at home in a while.

My mother-in-law didn't even look at him and said coldly: No need, let's sit for a while and leave." Zhang Dongsheng sat down flatteringly and wanted to chat with his mother-in-law, but was interrupted by Xu Jing, Parents, don't you still have something to do?

No one continued to talk to Zhang Dongsheng, and he sat awkwardly on the sofa.

The mother-in-law shouted that her father-in-law Zhang Luo was leaving, and Zhang Dongsheng smiled and politely got up to send it off, and then graciously helped her mother-in-law open the door and sent it all the way to the elevator door.

However, his father-in-law and mother-in-law did not take him seriously at all, and the whole process was like there was no Zhang Dongsheng as a person, completely treating him as air.

When Zhang Dongsheng sent his father-in-law and mother-in-law back, his wife Xu Jing asked directly, have you considered it?

Zhang Dongsheng's heart was like a mirror, his father-in-law and mother-in-law had come to discuss divorce with his daughter. He simply pointed out that his parents came for this matter?

Xu Jing said impatiently, "You should do it as soon as possible, I don't want to delay any longer." ”

Zhang Dongsheng calmly packed up the dishes and asked Xu Jing's parents what their attitude was, and he wanted to know what these two very exquisite old people really thought about their daughter's divorce.

Xu Jing did not answer positively, she only said that this was a matter for the two of them, and had nothing to do with their parents. The tone was extremely impatient, she was already tired of Zhang Dongsheng, eager to immediately draw a line with him.

Zhang Dongsheng said very smoothly, how can it not matter, how to consider the feelings of parents?

Xu Jing threw down a sentence: "They just want me to live happily." ”

Xu Jing's words made Zhang Dongsheng understand that his father-in-law and mother-in-law and daughter were united fronts, and they looked down on themselves from the bottom of their hearts and never regarded themselves as a family. Obviously, Xu Jing was at fault first, and as parents, they did not say that their daughter was at fault but supported her to separate from herself.

Zhang Dongsheng stepped back step by step, thinking that to please her parents, they could help persuade Xu Jing, buy them this and buy that, and take them to play every weekend, go shopping, and coax them to be very happy. But despite Zhang Dongsheng's efforts to please, the other party never gave him any leeway, and he had already lost his dignity when he was currying favor with his father-in-law and mother-in-law.

Compared with being hated, Xu Jing and her parents' disregard for Zhang Dongsheng is more critical, and their indifference and disregard directly extinguish all of Zhang Dongsheng's hopes.

Therefore, there was a scene of "taking my father-in-law and mother-in-law to climb the mountain".

There is a passage in The Godfather: "You must bear the insults imposed by society, because he understands that even the most humble people, as long as they always polish their eyes, will sooner or later seize the opportunity to take revenge on the most powerful people." ”

Zhang Dongsheng is this most humble person, he is humble to the point of being ignored, but even this most humble person has become the most dangerous person.

Freud said, "Unexpressed emotions never go away, they are just buried alive and will one day explode in an even uglier way." ”

Zhang Dongsheng did not want to divorce, he and Xu Jing were married for 4 years, Xu Jing had an affair, and eagerly wanted to divorce him.

At that time, when Zhang Dongsheng and Xu Jing were in love, Xu Jing's parents were strongly opposed, they hated that Zhang Dongsheng was rural, the family conditions were not good, and the comparison between the conditions of the two families was simply a heaven and an underground.

But at that time, Zhang Dongsheng and Xu Jing were very in love, Xu Jing was stubborn, she first cut and then played and Zhang Dongsheng received a marriage license.

In order to be with Xu Jing, Zhang Dongsheng became a door-to-door son-in-law under the pressure of Xu Jing's parents, and was required to do a notarization of premarital property, and once divorced, Zhang Dongsheng was almost out of the house.

However, who would have thought that in just four years, two people who experienced a vigorous love, the relationship actually came to an end.

Zhang Dongsheng hoped to live well with Xu Jing, and he tried to please her, but Xu Jing's heart seemed to be surrounded by an iron wall of copper, and she had someone else in her heart, and no matter how Zhang Dongsheng pleased, it would be useless.

Zhang Dongsheng originally thought that without his father-in-law and mother-in-law, Xu Jing would continue to rely on himself, and his thoughtfulness and care would always keep her.

That night, the heartbroken Xu Jing lay in his arms and cried bitterly, Zhang Dongsheng felt that he had not been happy for a long time, and he ate the apple and hummed a little song on the balcony happily.

However, the good times did not last long. One day, when Zhang Dongsheng came back from work, he heard Xu Jing and the man on the phone saying that they were going to move out.

Zhang Dongsheng's fragile nerves were stirred again, and Xu Jing told him that the divorce agreement had been signed, and let him sign it too.

However, Zhang Dongsheng has been avoiding this topic, but Xu Jing just does not give him a chance to escape.

Zhang Dongsheng said the words from the bottom of his heart: "Xu Jing, there will be no one in this world who is as good as me to you, I have given you everything I have, without reservation, I have nothing but you now." As long as you don't leave me, I can accept anything. ”

Not letting Xu Jing leave him, this is his final bottom line.

However, Xu Jing told him directly, "I don't love you anymore, so do you accept it?" ”

Zhang Dongsheng originally thought that he could tolerate his wife having an affair, as long as he did not leave himself, but what was the use of people's hearts not keeping their bodies?

He gave everything for her, gave up the opportunity to further study and married Xu Jing, signed a property notarization for her, and tried desperately to please his father-in-law and mother-in-law when he arrived at this home, but he was still not respected, and in the end he had nothing. So Zhang Dongsheng made the most cruel decision...

The tragedy of Xu Jing and her parents was caused by Zhang Dongsheng, and there is no lack of reasons for it. Xu Jing and Zhang Dongsheng desperately entered the marriage because they were in love, but the huge gap in the life background of the two people after marriage made it impossible for the two to get along peacefully. In the original work, Xu Jing spent a lot of money and liked to buy big brands of good quality things. And Zhang Dongsheng was more careful because his family spent money poorly when he was a child. There is also Xu Jing's dislike of her in-laws' bad living habits and does not allow her to live at home, and Zhang Dongsheng can only arrange for her parents to live in a hotel. Since then, his parents have never been to his house, which makes him feel very guilty, but at that time he can still understand his wife.

Some small things in the marriage gradually erase the feelings of the two, and after that, Xu Jing's betrayal of him made him unacceptable, and he remembered all his previous efforts, including the grievances he had suffered. Piece by piece, like thorns in the heart.

Some people say that Zhang Dongsheng can go away. But human nature is a very delicate thing, the more you pay, you will often expect higher returns, if you don't get it, it will make the other party pay a painful price.

If Zhang Dongsheng divorces Xu Jing, he will not get a penny from the family, and what makes him more unacceptable is the feelings and efforts he has invested in these years, for this family he gave up the opportunity to further study, in order to get married he promised his mother-in-law that his monthly salary would be handed over to Xu Jing, and he was ridiculed by Xu Jing's relatives for being incompetent and incompetent. Because of his birth and love, he lost his bright future, he wanted to endure a little, endure another, but finally endured until his pride and self-esteem were gone, so he lost his reason and went to the road of crime.

Therefore, people cannot pin all their hopes on others, because once the hopes are dashed, there will be a huge gap in psychology.

As Luo Xiang said: "We should never invest unrealistic expectations and attach marginal value to the things we value, because the only certainty in life is an uncertain life." ”