Recently, vegetables have become a popular feast for everyone. Vegetables themselves did not expect that one day they could "home vegetables to get ten thousand gold".
In fact, before grabbing vegetables, the national balcony planting has been carried out in full swing.
(From Weibo: Echo's North Balcony Garden)
Chinese people's vegetable gene carved in their bones was completely awakened!
Under the natural conditions of the countryside, growing vegetables is really a piece of cake. When you enter the city, you must continue to plant opportunities! Balconies, terraces, window sills, as long as 1 square meter, you can achieve the freedom to grow vegetables.
Even the noble "Empress Niangniang" Cai Shaofen began to grow vegetables.
Her husband Zhang Jin couldn't help but post Weibo, with the baby to plant vegetables more happy, to see this hydroponic effect is also good.
Big data shows that Shanghai, Dongguan, Beijing, Suzhou and Guangzhou are among the top five cities that love to grow vegetables on the balcony, and most of them are post-80s and post-90s. Coriander, leeks, peppers and tomatoes have become the most popular vegetable seeds on Taobao, and are the most popular "balcony F4".
These types of vegetables are easy to feed and pleasing to the eye. From loosening the soil, sowing, watering, pest control to picking, the whole process is particularly healing, and you can get different decompression skills every day!
Recently, friends around the balcony of the harvest, began to talk about growing vegetables, there is a mother said: In fact, this vegetable is planted, you will find that it is the same as raising children! What should be done and what should not be done is a logic, and the more you raise it, the more comfortable it is! Ha ha......
Another mother also echoed: Yes, yes, I can't raise children, I will grow two monthly vegetables!
Alison Gopnik, a leading expert in international children's learning studies, said in his book "The Gardener and the Carpenter": The fundamental difference between a master parent and an ordinary parent is whether you are a gardener or a carpenter.
"Carpenter-style parents", as the name suggests, is to raise children like carpenters to create furniture, strictly in accordance with pre-designed drawings, and carefully carved a product for many years. In this process, they will not take into account the child's wishes and feelings, nor will they easily modify their plans for the child's life goals.
The "gardener parents", who see themselves as gardeners in the garden, guard the living plants in the garden, see the child as a seed with unlimited possibilities. In order to nurture the healthy growth of seeds, gardener parents will provide a safe, free, healthy and loving environment to grow, including fertile soil, plenty of sunlight, fresh air, and will regularly remove the surrounding weeds and cut off the vines that are entangled around them.
In the whole process, gardener parents do not preset how the seeds will look when they grow up, but just quietly provide an environment suitable for the seeds, do not disturb, do not force, go with the flow, and grow in a good general direction.
The most important nutrient for seeds
Last month, I wanted to plant a square meter of cream cabbage on the balcony, and I originally wanted to buy some exquisite vegetable pots online, but because logistics could not send goods, I simply transformed the idle three-storey storage rack into a vegetable field. Each layer is covered with nutrient soil, sprayed with water to plough the loose soil, then sprinkled with seeds and laid another layer of soil, and finally some water. Place the racks in a suitable position on the balcony to absorb the sun and avoid exposure to the sun.
There were no gorgeous pots, the conditions were a bit rudimentary, and I was still worried about whether it would germinate, but on the 4th day, the three layers of seeds successfully broke through the soil and sent out tender seedlings, green and lush!
Therefore, as long as you give a seed the most needed nutrients, such as sunlight, moisture, soil, whether you use a rough foam box, or a cheap plastic box, a mooncake box, it will not affect its later growth.
Raising children is the same, to promote a child to grow naturally and healthily, external material conditions are important, but more importantly, it is more important to obtain a stable sense of love and security from parents. Children with full internal motivation can withstand the wind and rain and can also have their own clear direction in life.
When growing vegetables, if you are in a hurry, too much fertilization, too much nutrition, will also hurt the growth of seedlings. Giving quantity on demand is an important principle when growing vegetables.
On the other hand, raising a baby, some parents out of love for their children, give their children rich nutritional products, all kinds of supplements are all on the battlefield, and in order to meet the heart of comparison, they do not hesitate to buy brand-name supplies for their children, etc., these are all working the surface, if they are not willing to spend time with their children, only with materials to make up, then the child's heart is still empty. Without the nutrition of the kernel, everything else is nothing, and it will be broken at a poke.
"Small seedlings, small pots, large seedlings and large pots"
Each vegetable is grown differently, the size of the pots selected varies, and the thickness of the soil varies. For example, the seedling, its root system is very weak, if you put it in a large pot, it seems that the space for exertion is relatively large, but it is difficult to dry the soil once watered, so that the roots of the seedlings are easy to suffocate and eventually die.
In the world of growing vegetables and raising flowers, there is a saying, "small seedlings and small pots, large seedlings and large pots". That's the point. It is necessary to choose a suitable planting environment according to the strength of the ability of seeds and vegetable seedlings. If you give the seedlings favorable conditions that they cannot bear, they will let it fall away quickly.
Proper nutrients in the soil are also critical. Some vegetables are mostly horizontal growth, if the soil layer is too thick, its root system will be top to the bottom of the pot, will affect the root system downward growth, if you choose a shallow pot, the soil layer below will be thinner, its breathing ability will be stronger, and there is also a larger horizontal space, which is conducive to the growth of vegetables.
Different varieties of vegetables, its cultivation method is not the same. Even the growing environment of creamy cabbage and Chinese cabbage, shallots and shallots, is different.
In the same way, parents should also choose the appropriate parenting style according to the actual situation of the child. Every child has its own unique side, there are no inherent bad children, only bad methods of education.
Some children are slow and sensitive, suitable for a mild and sunny environment, the nurturer should be more patient, with their own optimism and positive infection of the child, let him feel relaxed, comfortable, rather than putting the child in a high-pressure, tense environment, artificially creating setbacks to "temper" the child's mind.
In short, we cannot treat a child full of infinite vitality according to popular standards and traditional cognition. There are so many educational theories in society, and the opposing views are uneven, we must avoid dogmatically copying the concept to our children, and the consequences of this are to affect the physical and mental development of children, and also hurt the parent-child relationship, which is not worth the loss.
Weeds and insects can be removed, but not the roots should be harmed
As the seedlings grow, they will face pests and weeds, and the branches and fruits will be damaged. At this time, our task is to help vegetables weed and insect repellent, and better maintain its growth environment.
But in this process, we must not hurt the roots of the plant. Deworming should also choose the right medicine, and the strength and amount should be mastered.
As our children grow up, they will also encounter all kinds of bad temptations or interferences. Then what parents have to do is also to help their children alleviate these large and small injuries, so that they can become stronger and safer.
For example, if a child is subjected to violence in school, parents must stand with their children and eliminate all factors that endanger their children's physical and mental health.
For example, children are addicted to playing mobile games, and we have an obligation to help them get out of this state and return to normal life. If we take a tough stance, use force and verbal violence to suppress children, take away mobile phones, and cut off any possibility of touching mobile phones, then this also cuts off the opportunity for good parent-child communication. Because children who are not respected and are controlled, rebellious emotions will erupt in concentration, and out-of-control scenes may lead to irreparable results.
To avoid this from happening, parents can build a community of trust with their children.
First of all, the understanding of mobile games should be objective, not one-size-fits-all, and how to transform beneficial games into the power to help children grow is worth studying.
Then, we allow ourselves to squat down, stand in the child's point of view, understand the child's inner needs, whether it is academic pressure, or parents have a short time to accompany, can not find more meaningful things to do, etc., before focusing on the game;
Finally, negotiate a "treaty" with your child and arrange the time to play on the mobile phone reasonably. Taking extra time to spend with your children and participate in group activities is also a great way to buffer this tension.
Parents provide effective guidance and support, so that children have enough confidence to deal with difficulties. Such a loving family is a safe haven for children, and when there is danger, confusion and frustration, children can come back at any time to get energy.
Parenthood is essentially love, and good parents must be gardeners, not carpenters.
The meaning of love is not to shape the destiny of those we love, but to help them shape their own destiny; not to show them the way, but to help them find their own path, even if the path they take is not what we want to choose, nor what we can choose for them.
May we, as parents, be relaxed gardeners and cultivate the most thriving "garden" with love.
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