Virgo is really a person who is serious about feelings.
I think most of the friends who will complain about Virgo should be after the breakup, because during the period of the breakup, they will feel that they have seen through him and mistakenly think that his previous good is pretended.
But in fact, this is not the contrast between what Virgo looks like when he loves you and what Virgo doesn't love you.
Rather, it is the contrast between when Virgo feels that the relationship has a future and when he feels that the relationship has no future.
To put it bluntly, loving you does not mean that this relationship has a future, and if this relationship has no future, it is equivalent to not loving.
Whether this relationship has a future, love or not love is only a part, more factors depend on daily life, whether the three views of the two people coincide, and whether the future planning is consistent.
And the most affecting feelings must be those small contradictions that Virgos care about but the other party does not care so much.
Often the more the other party feels that this is a small contradiction, the more fatal this "small contradiction" is.
Take the point of eating and spitting.
Say it many times or oh, which means not listening to what you say. Usually, even if it is not a good idea, the formal occasion is still my own way, which means that there is no measure. After agreeing to it, it is not ok, or it is committed without paying attention, which is said to be impossible.
It seems to be a small contradiction, eating and spitting, and eventually it will become a repeated teaching, no measure, no keeping promises...
Some friends may say that this Virgo is also too strict, which must be deliberately looking for stubble if you want to break up.
You can understand it this way, but Virgos must not end up wanting to break up because it's so simple.
Just like repeated teaching, no measure, and no commitment are caused by bar mouthing.
Rather, Virgo notices that you have these problems, which can be a fuse for the contradictions in your daily life and a stumbling block to future planning.
So Virgo explained this to you, hoping that you will slowly change it and get better and better together.
Even if you continue to spit on your mouth, you can pay attention to these in formal situations, be able to keep your promises in other aspects, and at the same time actively make some compensation and apologize for your little problem.
Virgo looks at it in the eyes and remembers it, and will definitely not think about it again. On the contrary, you will feel that you are very logical, very attractive, and very good at dealing with problems.
But if you never think there is anything wrong with the mouth, you also think that the bad problems pointed out by Virgo are irrelevant, and even think that Virgo is nosy and looking for trouble.
This is the fundamental reason for the outbreak of contradictions.
He is only a representative of all contradictions.
Speaking of this, many friends should be able to understand why there is generally no contradiction when getting along with Virgo, but after the contradiction is highlighted, the emotional relationship between the two people will decline rapidly.
Virgo's expression, attitude, and way of speaking have all changed, making people feel very cold and strange.
The main reason is not that you have exposed any contradictions, but that you have found contradictions in Virgo, that it will affect your feelings, your future, and that you are not in the right place to communicate with you, hoping to get a response and run-in.
Communication, useless, will only increase the contradiction, do not communicate will continue to consume Virgo's expectations for the future of this relationship.
When Virgo is disappointed to a certain extent, he will define that this relationship has no future, and he will no longer be able to maintain a normal heart to face each other.
When a Virgo discovers that loving each other and loving himself are in conflict, he will definitely choose to love himself.
When it comes to choice, it can also be understood that this is the principle of Virgo.
Virgos will not show too many principles or bottom lines when they are gracious and loving, but after making a contradiction, they will show that they have many principles and bottom lines.
That wasn't the reason he was looking for.
Instead, he will make way for his feelings when he feels that there is a future, and when he suddenly realizes that there may be no future, he feels that there is no need to violate his principles and bottom line for the other party.
The reason for this is that it is important to remember that when a Virgo seriously discusses something, it means that it is important to him, and it is perfunctory if you don't think it is important.
First, this shows that you don't care about him, and second, it shows that your three views are not compatible.
He will derive all kinds of small contradictions as a result, and thus feel wronged.
In my opinion, there is no need to deliberately maintain Virgo's feelings, for fear of stepping on his minefield. Because he will tell you that he will be happy because of your words and deeds, and he will feel worried about what you do.
As long as you keep it in mind, you know what to do.
As long as you also feel that the future with Virgo is very important, Virgo will willingly make way for this future, for this love, to lower their own principle bottom line, to silently bear some grievances.
Any fancy tricks and routines are useless. Virgo must be able to discern whether the future of the two people he depicts is the same yearning through daily interaction, words and deeds.
In fact, Virgo is a person who is easily anxious.
Especially when thinking about the future, he can't help but think of many simple problems complicated. Then I feel tired and hope to find a reason, find a confidence, find a motivation to support myself to keep going.
Therefore, he will be very strict, he does not want to feel that he is wishful thinking, is a person who is painstakingly supporting, pushing the future of two people to move forward together.
He felt that he could see through what was going on in the other person's heart, but he didn't want to debunk it, and he would occasionally deceive himself and comfort himself.
This ordeal will continue to consume Virgo's vision of the future. So much so that he will start to think about why he can't change a future, why he should be bound to this person's future, why he should make himself so tired.
Like I said before, a Virgo is someone who would rather live a little tired than live so hard.
He can give, he can be wronged, he can give in, he can suffer losses, but he must see that these efforts are valuable.
Two people have contradictions together, it is reasonable to have quarrels, and it is reasonable to say harsh words and break up. However, if the problem is exposed, it must be solved, and not daring to face it will only make the contradiction more and more acute.
If you just think two people are happy together, you'll be reluctant to break up. Virgos will leave without mercy.
But if you feel that two people have a fate and feelings, no matter what the ending is, you must do your best, otherwise you will regret it for life.
Virgo will definitely give you this opportunity, because he doesn't want to leave regrets either.
Virgo is a person with a strong desire to control, but he does not want to control others, if the other party begins to lose control, Virgo will only control himself to let go of the relationship.
Therefore, a reasonable, logical, planned, know what you are doing, what you want, such a person is really irresistible for Virgo.
Because Virgo hope is firmly chosen, not overwhelmed by momentary feelings.